i want to have a baby, but im too scared to give birth, i am terrified , just thinking of it?

Answer 1

i think once your pregnant, your mother instincts will kick in and you'll know what to do

Answer 2

I was terrified too. I think every women is! Honestly, I spoke to a lot of women when I was pregnant. I have a 2 month old now and I can tell you it was totally worth EVERYTHING that I went through. I had terrible pregnancy, I was sick the whole time (except maybe month 6 and 7). My labor was not real bad because I got the epidural but it did hurt! Every woman will tell you that labor hurts...but every woman will tell you that they would do it again (if it was not worth it people wouldn't have more than one child). The best advise I can give you is to educate yourself. Go to a Lamaze class (with a support person). and RELAX about it. It is inevitable that you will give birth when you get pregnant and worrying is not going to get you anywhere. I worried and worried and you probably will too...it's the hormones...but don't stress or syke yourself out.

Answer 3

When I found out I was pregnant it scared the life out of me. Giving birth is excrutiating, make no bones about it. But it was not a scary as I anticipated. I was shaking and couldn't eat or sleep the last month of my pregnancy because I had got myself all fretful. When the big day arrived I just got on with it. It was really wierd, almost like an out of body experience lol! It seemed so natural and I've got a beautiful, happy, healthy son. There's no feeling on earth that can match the happiness and love that your own child can bring. I'm tring for my second child as soon as I get married in July so it can't be that bad!

Answer 4

I used to think the same thing until my father in law said, "Women have been giving birth since the beginning of time. In some third world countries they give birth behind a bush and are putting dinner on the table by the evening." Somewhat crude, but actually very correct. When i thought of it that way, i wasn't as scared. Think of all we have now and how safe things are. Hope that helps.

Answer 5

According to EVERYONE I'm a hypochondriac ( including myself)when it comes to pain (and a drama queen). But I've managed to have two kids ( natural births, I was to scared of any pain relief) and would like 1 or 2 more.
Yes it hurts but there are pain relief options for childbirth if you cant handle it. Its a different kind of pain but it's worth it as you have a beautiful baby as a result. And once your holding that baby in your arms the pain you've just been through is forgotten. (otherwise we wouildnt have anymore kids)
Talk to your Mum, Aunties, friends that have been through it, they will tell you it hurts , but for every person labour is different. You may be lucky enough to have a quik and seemingly painless labour and birth you never know.

Answer 6

Maybe adoption is an alternative. Birth is not all that bad. There's something called pain relief and epidurals. Thank God for that. Besides most pregnancies are pain free up until time of birth. By that time, you're ready for the baby to come out of you and will do whatever it takes to get it out. Trust me, you are built to give birth. The woman's body is a fantastic machine! It's temporary and you usually forget about the pain after the little one is born. Children are definitely worth the pain you go through.

Answer 7

I was in the same postiton as you. I had wanted kids since I was about 13 and then now Im older I was like..omg the pain im terrified! But the pain wasn't as bad as it seems. As soon as you see your little childs face the pain goes away. Don't let your dreams be taken over because you are scared. The first time you hear your baby talk..walk..laugh..giggle..go to school..its all worth it.

Do not have a cesarean. I had one with my first child as I was terrified too but the cesarean might get your child out without having to go throught all the pain but then you can't hold your child properly for months afterwards! It terrifies me more now that i had a big slit cut in my belly to get my baby out of me. When you think of it like this labour doesn't seem too bad. I wa soo dissapointed that I couldnt breastfeed, hold my child, care for her and I had to watch my husband do it all for months. Except the breastfeeding of course. Lol. Then when your husband goes out and your baby starts crying and you can't pick her up it breaks your heart. I called my mum to come over as my baby was crying and I couldnt even pick her up because of the pain!

Go with vaginal birth.

If you are still too scared to have a baby maybe consider adoption.

With my third child I adopted and it was all worth it. You are worried that you won't be able to bond with him/her like you would with your own baby but it just comes naturally. I am glad I have experienced a cesarean, vaginal birth and adoption because you only have one life so live it to the full and now I can share all my experiences with other people like you.

What ever you decide to do good luck xx

P.S I don't know what my life would be like without my children and I am only 31.

Have fun!
Whatever you decide

Answer 8

Hey fear not....honestly our body was designed for it, and although it is painful its also one of the most wonderful experiences you could ever go through-pushing new life out into the world, life that you helped to create. Besides there are so many pain relief options these days that theres really no need to miss out on this excellent experience. You could have an epidural if you wanted and then you'd be numb from the waste down. Honestly please dont let this fear stop you, it'll pass and if you got pregnant when you get near the end you are so big and heavy that all maternal instincts kick in and you just wanna get your baby out and start nurturing him/her. Goodluck I hope you overcome this fear, many women have it but if it was THAT bad, we wouldnt all end up with 2,3,or 4 kids would we!! x

Answer 9

I was absolutely terrified of giving birth - when i found out i was pregnant i thought oh my god im going to have to give birth!
but i suprised myself, when i went into labour, my mum and my partner were the ones flappin and i was really calm and went with it, got in the flow of it - i had a good labour and delivery though,people always go on about the negatives as well. there are so many positives theres nothing to be scared of, but its natural for you to feeel so scared about it, but if you want a baby, your gonna have to give birth im afraid!!

Answer 10

Its normal to be scared I remember havin thoughts like that myself when I was younger. I have had three kids, and beleive me, giving birth is not that bad, the first stage of labour is worse its the contractions which are painful, but its over quickly, doesn't last afterwards and is well worth it to hold that baby in your arms, and unfortunately, once its in there it has to come out lol, don't worry, go for it

Answer 11

Giving birth actually isn't that scary anymore, but If your scared find a OB before you even start trying and talk it over with them and may I suggest definitely giving birth in a HOSPITAL that has a birthing center not just maternity ward, they are a lot more relaxed and less scary but with all the medical stuff right there just in case.