My Ex-Girlfriend is pregnant?

Question

So she is about 3 weeks pregnant. I am the father but we split up about a month ago now. She wants an abortion and I heavily disapprove of it. Quite frankly, it's not quite the way forward. For some reason we still love each other and need each other through this time as neither of us have and won't tell anyone. ???

Answer 1

I feel sorry for you. It would be nice if you had a say in this considering it is your child too. It sounds like you two really need each other, and she is very scared of what is to come in the future. Maybe you could make a date to get together somewhere private, and have dinner, and relax, and discuss your situation thuroughly. I wish you all the best, and I really hope that everything works out for you. She is probably scared, and nervous, her body is going through changes too, she needs you to support her. I hope that this works out for you, and maybe in another 8 months or so, you will be a proud father. I wish you lots of luck. I think you should sit down together and talk, she maybe doesnt know how you feel about her. Maybe if you explain to her that your willing to do your part, and youve already stepped up to the plate, then she will re think her idea. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your girlfriend.. Good Luck! I hope you find the answer that you need.

Answer 2

Honestly, if now is not the time to have the responsibilities and priorities of a child, then I say why bring a child into something he/she did not ask for. The soul of the child will not die if it is aborted. In fact, it will more than likely come back to you on your next pregnancy, whether it's with her or someone else.

Abortion is not always a bad thing.... it's all on how you look at it. I, personally, would feel better about not having a child at a time that I know I cannot give it a life, rather than bringing it into a life where all it will know is hurt, grief, suffering, and loss.

And if the ex is 3 weeks pregnant, and you split up 4 weeks ago, how are you the father? Or did you have a "slip" during that first week of being apart?

If it's an abortion she wants, let her have without giving her a hard time... there may be more to the story than you know, or it could be her way of protecting BOTH your futures. A child is something you will have to give every waking moment of your life to, and depending on your age, are you really ready for that? And is she?

Never rely on pregnancy/forming of a child to solidify the relationship. Never put that kind of pressure on a child either. And if you make her have a child when she wants to have it aborted, it WILL ruin your relationship in the end........

I say think twice about the WHOLE situation, and definately talk to her and WITH her about how she is feeling as well.

Answer 3

No decisions to abort should be made yet. It is too permanent. If you 2 still love each other then you need to explore that and see if you can possibly work it out. Why did you split up if you still love each other? It is your child too and there was a true story made into a movie about a guy that took his girlfriend to court so she couldn't have an abortion..he actually won. You are obviously not running away from them so you need to both do alot of soul searching before a final decision is made. If you need to, and it may be more helpful, please seek some couseling from a counselor or even your church. Good luck, and hang in there!

Answer 4

If its 3 weeks its still early but if she has an abortion shel prob regret it for the rest of her life,adoption may be a better idea.She should come on here and ask some questions of her own from people that have had an abortion so she knows what to expect.I hope the pill failed or the condom split to be honest because if your too stupid to not use protection you are too stupid to be having sex.

Answer 5

I'm not sure on these people and their answers but first let me say Thank You for wanting to be a real man and own up to any responsibility. Most guys now are real jerks and my opinion still babies making babies and NOT being in the babies life. Try to be supportive and don't let her abort the lil life God allowed you two to have. If she is willing to go all the way be there for her all you can. She needs all she can and you are not a wuss if you help her shop for baby stuff or help pick out maternity clothes. And yes marriage is an answer but after my first marriage(he was forced to marry me) my current Fiance(sp could be wrong here) is here for everything and even though we act married we aren't(looking for the best time and ring) So all that to say BE SUPPORTIVE!!

Answer 6

If you think the baby will help you keep her you are wrong. Do you have any idea how much you will be paying in child support over the next 18 years. Do you think you can get custody of the child? Even if she was the worst mother in the world a judge will not remove an infant from its mother with the exception of dire circumstances. If she does drugs they will get her in rehab, if she needs a home they will provide if she cannot afford to raise the child by herself they will raise your child support. If you think you can control her through the child you are wrong.
Still, I would be upset and you will find its about 50/50 on who agrees. Some will say you have a choice, some will say its her body she can do what she wants to. Like I said if you think the child will make one big happy family you are very very wrong. You were very irresponsible for getting her pregnant out of wedlock. You are obviously not responsible enough to raise a child.

Answer 7

if ya'll still love one another then you sholud get back together not b/c ya'll love each other but for the baby and what ever happens do not let her have an abortion and im glad that you are aginst it it is wrong! and yes you do need each other at this time so just figure out if youwant to be with each other and if the answer is yes then go back out with her and then tell evryone about her being pregnant because theres nothing anyone can do about it now

Answer 8

nicely - enable's do the maths: 15 weeks X 7 days in per week = one hundred and 5 days pregnant. 13 weeks X 7 days in per week = ninety one days + 6 added days = 97 days of smash-up. one hundred and 5 - 97 = 8 days jointly + yet another 6 days for possible theory days = 14 days of possible theory. Did you've sex for the time of those very last 14 days? if so, then all of it proper should be your toddler. If she is declaring it really is your toddler - be there for her one hundred% in the course of the being pregnant, difficult artwork, shipping. If this ends as a lot as be your toddler you'd be so satisfied you've been element of the being pregnant, difficult artwork, & shipping. If this ends as a lot as not be your toddler and also you supported her throughout the time of the being pregnant, difficult artwork, and shipping, in simple terms chalk it as a lot as a best aspect you probably did for an previous buddy. Any doubts you've will in effortless words be relieved via a paternity try and that ought to't ensue until eventually after the being pregnant, difficult artwork, & shipping.

Answer 9

sorry but if she chooses to do this there is nothing you can do about it.. the two of you should have talked this through before you had sex.. i have told both of my kids m/f that when you have sex with someone be prepared to deal with them for at least 18 yrs on a somewhat daily basis and after that too because then you will become grandparents together some day as well.. once you take that risk of having sex you may have just set yourself up to spend your life being involved with that person and on her part she should have thought this through and if she doesnt want the baby and you do and are able to take care of it she should give it to you when its born.. no BABY should have to die because two people made a bad choice and then want to take the easy way out of it

wow you know i have to say something to you CPRUCKA my best friend just died 2 yrs ago at the age of 35 of a massive heart attack she left behind 2 teen children and a husband and lots of people who loved and miss her greatly and then you have the nerve to sit there breathing and complain about being alive how dare you that makes me sick.. i would never wish anyone death ever but it sure makes me wonder why God chose my friend to die at such a young age someone who loved life and then leaves people like you who dont even want it.. im srry i dont mean to offend anyone and i know this isnt an answer to this question but that really strikes a nerve with me... stop pouting and feeling srry for yourself and be greatful that you are still here and if you really want to be a gardian angle you dont have to be dead to do that there are thousands of people in this world who you could choose to help... wake up and think about things...

Answer 10

How can she get a positive at three weeks? Maybe 4 or 5 you think? could it be possible she is lying to get you to come back to her... happens all the time.

how old are you? you are young? If so, you need to go to both ofyour parents and tell them and figure out what to do... this is serious, you dont want her to get some cheap abortion somewhere and die from infection.
I know you think its like the worst thing in the world to tell your parents, but BELIEVE me, its the worst thing in the world not to.. if they found out you did something like this without going to them and trusting them they will be HEARTBROKEN... they love you more than anything in the world and there is nothing you can do to make them hate you.