what can i do about a cheating husband ??????

Question

he denies everything but his friends snitch .........

Answer 1

Once a cheater always a cheater.
Do you want that kind of life?
Remember. you create your life, one choice at a time.
Create the life YOU want, not the life he chooses.

Answer 2

Mine actually did admit it to me... I guess he had a guilty conscience, We did manage to get through it. I did respect his honesty however I never forgot about what he did.. I did forgive him but visualizing your man or woman with someone other than you is very difficult to forget.. Our marriage did last to 18 years of marriage but we did eventually part ways.. We are good friends today which is good for our children.. I say if it was a one time cheating thing then maybe you can go to counceling or try to find out why he cheated and maybe you can both work it out.. If it was a lasting affair, well then I am not sure what to tell you.. Thats harder cause that means he shared more than just sex with her and I don't think I could deal with that... I do however feel for you and wish you all the luck in the world with this difficult decision..
I would like to add that alot of people suggest that you dump him, well you might wind up doing that.. But remember that there is usually a reason why cheating happens and no one but you or your husband can answer that question. It's easy for people who don't know all that facts to say things like dump the bum.. He might be a rotten bum, and then he might not be, that is for you who know all the facts to decide.. It is also human nature to defend one self, some even to the extreme of lying.. He is probably embarrassed or knows that what he did was wrong (and it was) and maybe he fears losing you... sounds funny but it could be true..Some people make terrible mistakes in life and can't take it back.. So it is totally up to you to make this decision based on all the facts.. I am sorry if this sounds like a novel, but I have been through this and am sorry you are too. :(
Please note: That spying only hurts you in the long run!! You need to approach your husband in a non accusing way and ask him to be honest with you and tell him you would like to talk about this so you can work everything out... Remember anger begots anger and denying.. honey gets honey.. Well you know how the saying goes I didn't want to say it on here... But if you approach with anger he will automatically become defensive...and lie

Answer 3

I was in that situation before too. I really did want out of the relationship, but I hesitated because we have children. I didn't leave and we were able to work through it. It is a very hard obstacle to cross. It all depends on how committed you both are to the relationship you have and agree to make some changes. He also needs to understand that a blow like that to your ego will cause a lot of jealousy on your part. You are the one who has to decide how much you are willing to put up with. Some men make a mistake and learn from it, but others will just continue the cycle. Are his friends that reliable that you trust their word over his? Did he admit anything? Don't do anything drastic.

Answer 4

Why are his friends snitching? you need to investigate yourself and find out what you come up with. Never take the word of another person over your spouse unless you know for a fact that it's true. You shouldn't confront him with things they tell you. You keep quiet and then you go looking for it yourself. Never give up your source.

Answer 5

Pack your bags and leave when he isn't looking. He thinks you are gullible. Pay a private investigator to take pictures and then serve him with papers for divorce. He will groval back. Do not take his phone calls, return any letters unopened and send back gifts. He will try all of these things to get you back. Then get that divorce legal and heal your heart. Not all men cheat and you deserve better. Don't tolerate less than a total commitment. Good luck.

Answer 6

Are you really sure that he is cheating or could it be that his so called friends are just trying to make trouble?? I would just keep my eyes and ears open. You have to be patient and gather whatever evidence that you can before you go and accuse him of cheating. When he is not around, check all his drawers, pockets and whatever else you can. You must have seen something that would make you suspicious. I hope his friends are lying to you but if not, then I would rack him over the hot, hot coals!!

Answer 7

as long as he chooses to deny it, u can't resolve it, if he says it never happened. he is not willing to be accountable for anything, a bad trait. personally i would not stay married to him, because i would not want to keep getting hurt over and over, wouldn't matter if i loved him or not. as i know i could never get past it, and i would know the marriage would never be the same. sometimes it is best to leave someone who refuses to be honest with u, or show remorse, or admit that what he did has hurt u emotionally, and has hurt the marriage. to deny it is just a coward who doesn't want to be confronted, who doesn't want to make it right, and admit the wrong. just a Coward, not a real man at all.

Answer 8

I do not consider them friends if they are snitching on him. How do you know they are telling the truth? Maybe, they are trying to get next to you. I have seen this done many of times in my life.
If you love him and he loves you, then I would consider counseling together. Good Luck

Answer 9

He will always say. that is deny it. After all he has to cover himself. Which guy will admit to it. He wants the cake and icing. Life of convenience, marriage of convenience specially if he knows his wife has it all. Please Dump him. Sooner the better. you deserve better in life. Your parents and more so, God does not want that for you in life. Now you will feel miserable abt divorce but believe me, in the long run, you will be fine and happy.

Answer 10

Leave him. You have no reason to stay with a cheating, liar. Of course he's going to deny it.