do i tell a friend that her bf is cheating on her?

Question

my best friend is cheating on his gf that is also a friend of mine. should i tell her, or respect my best friends wishes and not. see the thing is he told me that the other grl is his old gf whom he doesnt have the guts to break up with. is that still cheating? what should i do?

see the thing is, my best friend ( hte guy who is cheating on one of my firends) is cheating on a grl who goes to another school so there is no way in her finding out. and i dont know if i should tell beacause he told me that the grl at the other school is a grl taht he just doesnt have the guts to break up with

Answer 1

To be honest as much as it sucks, you shouldnt tell her. i have been in the same situation before BOTH as the position you are in AND as the girl who was being cheated on. When i was in the position you are in we (me and my sister who also knew) tried to intervene and tell her, she refused to believe us and we lost her as a friend because we were "making up lies" and even when we told her to go thru his phone for proof of pictures with him and the other girl naked, she did and forgave him anyway. As the girl who was cheated on, we had mutual best friends and when i found out what he did, i found out everyone else knew, i felt foolish but i wasnt angry with them because i realized that they didnt want to lose either of us as friends and intervening would do so. What you can do is either persuade your guy friend to tell her, or try to help her find out for herself without truly telling her anything. Like if you know your guy friend is on a dinner date with the other girl, suggest to your friend that you guys go out and eat at the same place. You'll be helping her out but not getting involved.

Answer 2

umnn kinda tough call hey,catch 22. do you do the samaritan and go tell your friend. at the cost of possibly being told to mind your own f ing buisiness. or say nothing and when asked later when your friend finds out " lie a little and say you knew nothing about it and it's none of your concern. either way its not much fun
be there done that. still know some of the old friends and a few moved along, thats life hey.
anyhow all the best

Answer 3

It's their relationship, and it's really not your place to butt in and spill the secret, and thus breaking them up. You'll feel awful either way (to tell or not to tell). The best advise I can give you is, tell your guy best friend that what he's doing is extremely hurtful to his gf and the other girl, from a girl's perspective. Tell him to respect himself and the girls. Be fair to everyone. If he doesn't like the one girl, be honest and end it. Tell him not to waste the girl's time and her youth for the matter, and using her as his 'umbrella' in case something goes wrong in the r'ship with the other girl.

Answer 4

Your in a very sticky situation. Don't say anything to the girlfriend. You are friends with both involved and eventually she will find out. If you start to feel really guilty about the situation then you don't tell her, you show her! Set your friend to be in a place with both women in the same room. I'm sure your pretty smart and can figure something out. Good Luck!! You will need it with this situation....

Answer 5

that IS cheating, and while it shouldnt be ur responsibility to tell the girl that he bf is cheating, think about what will happen when she finds out (and she WILL find out), and then she finds out that you knew the whole time... she'd be pretty pissed huh?

also, since it really shouldnt fall on your shoulders to do this - its not fair that you are in the position that you're in... - tell ur friend (the guy - the cheater) that if he doesnt break up with one of the girlfriends right now, then you'll have no choice but to tell the girls that hes cheating. this gives him the opportunity to say it himself, and if he doesnt, and he puts u in the situation where u need to tell one of the girls... well he's an as$!

goodluck!

Answer 6

yes....tell ur friend. if u dont tell her and she finds out herself bad things may happened. you dont want her heart to break if she finds out herself because its a secret. if u tell her it wont b a secret anymore and she wouldnt be as sad if she found out by herself. and yes that is cheating because her bf is with her and another grl. she should really tell your friend. if you dont then ur not really her best friend/friend. dont break a friendship or a heart. b a nice person. tell ur friend

Answer 7

U need to stay out of it...she may be mad if she finds out you knew and didn't tell her, but if you get in the middle it will cause trouble also...It is a no win situation...Yes he is cheating, he probably is still in a caring relationship with the other girl also, he is not going to tell you...it will all come out in the end...

Answer 8

I suggest that you call your friend, but BLOCK the call. Get someone that your friend won't recognize to talk. Write on a sheet of paper what you want them to say, EX "your b/f is cheating on you. Go to this place and you'll see them". DON'T TALK until you get to their voicemail. Leave it as a message that they can check later. If they pick up while it's ringing, hang up and call again. CALL AND CALL until you get to their voice mail. Don't talk to them directly b/c you'll let out more than you might want to say.

Hope it all works out buddy!!!

Answer 9

i experienced that before and the best i can tell you is not to get intervene. by the time your bestfriend started cheating on his gf, and if you respect his gf, you should better hang out less with your bestfriend. tell your bestfriend that you think what he's doing is not right, but you dont want to get involved. that's all. so, dont say anything, otherwise it WILL be YOUR problem.

Answer 10

yes, my best friend and I, talked about this ! We would both feel bad if the other DIDN'T tell. She's my best friend, and I would want to know, and AS a friend, a TRUE friend, you can't keep each other in the dark.