I had a boyfriend who ended up in juvie. He is there now and will leave here in about 2 weeks. He says he loves me. There's another guy at school (I'm 16, in high school, by the way) who doesn't like me, but wants to have sex with me (he's for the most part blatantly said all this). I, being 16, sort of do want to give in to both the guy who "loves" me and the guy who wants to get physical, but I'm not sure that I'm ready for either. I'm still kinda into the guy in juvie, but I'm not sure that I'm ready to say "I love you" to someone at such a young age. Basically, it's really hard not to give in to love and sex even though I question their morality. How do I stay strong through all this? Or do I go ahead and give in? How did you (or are you currently) make it through your teen years?
2007-01-12 12:32:30 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
say by you man, if you are goint to just give it to a guy just for the hell of it thats really bad, theres a man who loves you and respects you enough to not pressure you into sex and you wanna give it to some punk for the hell of it?
2007-01-12 15:08:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I completely 100% agree with Jenn!!! You are sooo much better than this and you know it deep inside your heart. You said yourself you are not sure if you are ready or not and being only 16 I can teel you from experience you are not. You are still veryu young and should be thinking about other things right now besides sex and boys. Trust me girl, you will have plenty of time for that later. I know you are growing and you get curious but girl if you give in now and find out that your weren't ready you will feel regret for a very very long time. So wait until you know for absolute certainty that you are ready and please be smart too and wait for the right boy too!!!!! Good Luck!
2007-01-12 12:40:52 · answer #2 · answered by ஐ♥Just Call Me Mommy♥ஐ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you give in, chances are you'll feel used and like your not special. I'm not saying to wait till after marriage or anything, just make sure you get the right guy. And any teenage guy who's dumb enough to get into juvie doesnt deserve a girl as special as you. peace.
2007-01-12 13:29:49 · answer #3 · answered by qtpie16707 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about what you wrote. He doesent like me he jsut wnat to have sex with me. That would make jsut wnat to jump in bed with him right now. What would make you want to sleep with a guy like that. Stay strong and hold out. About the not being in love at 16 mabey the other guy is just not right for you. My husband and i started dating at 15. and it has been 7 wonderful years. But we both agree that we just knew from the begining that we were just right for each other. There is somthing that draws us together. Its unexplainable. I know some people think it stupid but i really think that we were put here for each other. I hope you can wait till you find a love like that. And i belive that you will know it when you find it.
2007-01-12 12:52:28 · answer #4 · answered by coliepollie22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now, I understand emotions, but if you want to live a happy, fulfilling life, I would not suggest pursuing a relationship with a boy who is in juvenile hall. Though, if you really love him, love is, of course, more important.
I don't know if you'll take my advice, but for the record, I am 13 years old. And, to make it through my teen years, I plan not to date at all so I can focus on my studying.
2007-01-12 12:38:20 · answer #5 · answered by Random G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if you were on the news tonite, and they were talking about how YOUR boyfriend is in juvie, and another guy wants to screw you?
Would you be embarassed? How would your mom feel to hear her child is promiscous?
Keep your legs closed.
Both guys sound like LOSERS! One's in juvie, the other is RUDE! No man should ever talk about/or to a woman like that.
2007-01-12 12:39:12 · answer #6 · answered by kabmiller@verizon.net 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree that you should cut ties with both of these boys. Hanging out with someone who ends up in juvie is not wise, nor is hopping into bed with another loser.
Get your self-esteem in gear and say no to both of them. Focus on yourself, your friends, your schoolwork, helping others, etc. Make something of yourself.
2007-01-12 14:08:54 · answer #7 · answered by Shars 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your just looking for a fling go with the sex guy if your looking for a serious relationship go with the juvie guy if neither say no to both
2007-01-12 16:25:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just dont set yourself up for failure. If some guy is willing to have sex with you, even when you tell him you're waiting until you get married, then HES NOT WORTH YOUR TIME.
I didnt have sex until i was 20, and married. It was well worth it. It wasnt easy, but everyone i know who gave in regretted it terribly after they got married. You cant give that to someone else after youve given it away. Its not worth it.
My husband respected my wishes to wait until I was married. No matter how weak I got and begged him, or how naked I got, he wouldnt give in just because I was having a moment. You should look for a guy who cares for you THAT much.
2007-01-12 12:37:47 · answer #9 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you have to wait you are not missing out on anything. enjoy your youth wait till u find the guy that you really want to be with. dont just do it because you feel like it. o r someone is pressuring you. wait dont do anythin you might later regret.
2007-01-12 12:38:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋