The only thing is I don't have a car and haven't left the house in over 15 days and I am loosing my mind. My feelings are hurt he doesn't ever want to take me out. Any solutions or ideas?
That is probably hard. Sorry and thank you.
2007-01-12 12:28:32 · 16 answers · asked by tina*21 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know I'd be going crazy if I was cooped up for 15 days. If you husband is too depressed to take you out, you need to get out without him. If you don't, you're going to find yourself as depressed as him. Do you have any friends you can call? Do you have any neighbors to visit? If the weather permits, take a walk or job. Exercise is one of the best antidotes to depression. Perhaps you can persuade your husband to join you. It would do him a lot of good.
Try not to have hurt feelings. If you husband is truly depressed, it's not about you. It's about his brain chemistry. Try to get him to see a doctors. There are many meds out there than can probably help. Good luck!
2007-01-12 12:38:23 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your husband has been depressed for 15 days he really should go and seek medical help. You on the other hand need to get yourself out of that house before you go insane. Don't you have public transport ?? What's wrong with getting on a bus or train ??Catch a cab if you have to or walk but get out and get some fresh air. You really should get your licence and your own car and this would never be a problem again. Best of luck
2007-01-12 20:43:54 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to take you out? Or is he too depressed to take you out? Although you don't have a car, that should not stop you. You can always go out with friends and family, but please take care of your husband. I can understand what you are feeling being stuck in the house, but depression is a serious illness. Check out this website. Take honey and don't be sorry!
2007-01-12 20:41:02 · answer #3 · answered by Mother of Four and More 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, maybe there is more to the story you're not telling. I mean, Is he depressed because you have been asking him to go out constantly for 15 days? He thinks you just want to meet someone else. This would make the average man depressed.
2007-01-12 20:39:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has been depressed for 15 days then he should see a doctor. He is only hurting himself and you by ignoring the problem. Depression is a serious issue and a very real illness, and many people, ESPECIALLY men, have a hard time admitting that and asking for help. Please get him help before it gets too severe. Tragic things happen when depression goes untreated.
2007-01-12 20:34:03 · answer #5 · answered by rtobor84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you drive? If not, I strongly recommend you get your driver's license. My wife does not drive therefore, and she has to depend on me taking her the grocery store, going out to different places. I wished a million times that she would get her license and drive, but that is out of the quesiton now.
Have you asked him why he is depressed?
My wife is always telling me that I never take her anywhere, but I also do two jobs and we do not like the same type of food.
I wish you the best, and get out of that house. No man or woman should be put up in a house for two weeks without going somewhere.
Good Luck 2007
2007-01-12 20:36:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what your husband's issues are, but EVERYONE has issues to deal with. He needs to come back from the self pity party and shape himself up and be the husband he should be. If he needs counseling and/or medication to control his depression, then you should expect him to do it. This is your life too, so you should respect yourself not to settle. You should have access to the car, being his wife, unless you don't have a license of course. Hopefully you aren't allowing him to control you or abuse you in any way. If you want to go out, call some friends and have a girl's night out. Have one of them pick you up and be safe, of course. I suggest marriage counseling, meaning you both go together most of the time.
2007-01-12 20:38:59 · answer #7 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is confiding in you that he is suffering from a mental illness. I think you need to be supportive of him and urge him to seek help from a doctor as soon as possible. Let him know that you are concerned about him and that you need him to get help for the both of you.
You need to realize that depression is very debilitating. It can be difficult just to get out of bed much less go out anywhere. He was at least willing to confide in you that he is suffering because he wants you to understand and reach out.
I rarely ever get out because of my husband's work schedule and the fact I can't drive due to health problems. I know how that feels except that I am the one who suffers from depression. You need to get him help before you both end up being depressed and it seriously affects your marriage.
Good luck...
2007-01-12 20:52:40 · answer #8 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is he so depressed??? This is very sad indeed... Has he seen a doctor about his depression and is he on medication for it yet.... He may also need some counseling as well... Is he prone to panic attacks? Try cheering him up and see if he is willling to go for walks with you.... Why does he not want to take you out if i may ask...... There has to be reasons why he is depressed.
2007-01-12 21:05:18 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please urge your husband to get help. You need to become more independant also. I thought I was "stuck" for a long time. I got myself a car, a job and my own money. I am a much happier person now that I can go anytime I need or want too. Don't depend on others to get you places or make you happy. Good luck.
2007-01-12 20:46:13 · answer #10 · answered by GraceSlickChick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋