what should i do?

Question

I have a friend who i thought was my best friend. I also felt like she was my "true" friend. We always hang out in school and we tell each other everything. She was one of the NICEST person i know. But one day, when i was talking to her on the phone, she told me what she REALLY thought of me and what she said really REALLY hurts. ='[ what should i do? I don't want to stop being her friend, but it hurts to talk to her or look at her. It was shocking because she was the last person that i thought would never hurt me. ='[

Answer 1

You should tell her what you think about her, and what bothers you about her.

This sounds farmiliar. Some 2 months ago, my ex-best friend and me had a hheart-to-heart when I slept over at her house. I was like "hey, how about we tell each other what bothers us about each other?" It was a shocker to hear some things but it helped us to know each other better. Some unforseen events happened that separated us. We're no longer best friends. I don't talk to her anymore. She kept on trying to get a hold of me through myspace and by calling me non-stop but I would always ignore her. She called a bunch of people up so that they could do three-way without me knowing so that she could talk to me that way. It pissed me off and I yelled at her that I didn't want her calling me anymore EVER. It kinda hurt when I heard her say "you don't want me to call you anymore?" I'm over it though.She went so far as to threatened to kill herself but I still ignored her. She's still alive. What a retard.

Heart-to-hearts hurt. But mine was for the best. I'll go off to college soon and leave her behind as a bad memory. Tell your friend what you think of her. Here, I'll help:
You: "hey, can we talk?"
Her: "sure, what is it?"
You: "it's about that day on the phone. You really hurt me and it isn't fair that I should feel like crap thanks to you."
Her: "But I was just....."
You: "I didn't finish. Now it's my turn to tell you what I think of you. At first I though we were best friends. I felt that that i could tell you anything and this is how you repay me? Well, just to make it even, I think that you.........(here's where you fill it in).........

Good luck buddy!

Answer 2

If she said things about you that were hurtful and she told you that she thinks you are not a nice person- THAT is NOT a friend!
Hang out with other people and don't tell her things that she can use as emotional ammunition. You have to stop being her friend because she has stopped being yours.
Move on. It's sad and hurtful but must be done.
Good luck!

Answer 3

I'm sorry you were hurt. It does seem like this friendship is over, though. Try to keep your distance and certainly don't tell her anything confidential. Plus, make sure that you are correctly interpreting what your friend said. Some things in my life that have hurt me at the time...I look back and realize the person probably did not mean something QUITE how I took it.

Answer 4

people come and go in your life, and i've experiacened this myself in the last few weeks... the people who you think r closest to you and normally the ones who r going to hurt you most.. If the friendship isn't going to benefit you in anyway with what you know now.. do you really want to waste a friendship on someone who doesn't appreciate or deserves it? You can find better friends.

Answer 5

Let her know how you really feel about what she said and how it hurt you. Maybe you can then discuss why she said the things she did and the two of you can work things out.