we never fight...we get along great, i love him so much, and everything other part of our relationship is very very pleasurable. The problem is, for some reason i've allowed myself to become interested in a guy at work. we actually kissed one night. I feel terrible about it, and wish i never did it. The fact is...i did. I know it will break his heart if i tell him, and it was just meaningless, and will never ever happen again. i still feel bad about this, i think about it everyday.should i risk breaking his heart over something that meant nothing to me, or should i just live with the guilt for the rest of my life????
2007-01-12 11:35:06 · 35 answers · asked by Jamie Lynn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
noooooo nonono dont tell him
dont break his heart and tell him about that
if u really feel ur fault then dont make it again and forget about it
but dont tell him about that because u may drive him crazy and he may hate u
2007-01-12 11:40:46 · answer #1 · answered by micho 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are not ready for marriage, and kissing another man is proof of that. You need to either break up with your boyfriend or make the relationship WAY less serious! You need time to explore other people and explore your own feelings. Above all, you MUST tell him about the kiss, and DO NOT pretend that it didn't mean anything! Obviously you did it for a reason. Don't get stuck in denial. Search your inner self to find the reason.
HONESTY is the KEY! You must be willing to be completely and totally honest in a relationship, cuz if you can't do that, then either he is not the right man for you, or you are not the right woman for him.
2007-01-12 11:48:22 · answer #2 · answered by wijit13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"we never fight...we get along great, i love him so much, and everything other part of our relationship is very very pleasurable."
So this is how/why you became interested in a co-worker and kissed him?
As far as most the women I've known over the years, this is nothing new.
Pathetic.
PS. The flip side is every time he wants to knock boots you'll put out in a heart-beat just because you feel so terrible for wronging him.
2007-01-12 11:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy already knows your morals aren't great if you have been living with him without benefit of marriage for 2 years. Kissing this guy at work is not worse than what you have been doing. If you get married will you be totally commit ed to him or will you still be attracted to others? If you tell him you will have it out in the open, if he can't forgive you this may be the end of your relationship but on the other hand he will know he can trust you to be honest with him and you won't have to be waiting for this guy at work to say something that will get back to your boyfriend.
2007-01-12 11:44:56 · answer #4 · answered by bluebird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it in fact was a meaningless one time thing like you say.. then i would just continue to go on as if it never happened in regards to telling your boy freind but you should let that be a reminder that if you truely do love your man then things of that nature on unexceptable. It after all was and is your choice if you are to remain faithful or do a "meaningless" display of effection with someone other then the guy you are thinking about marry'n. If there is any doubt he is not the right man for you then dont rush into marriage becuase there may lay a deeper problem. Best of luck to you and remember if you love someone stay faithful.. a kiss is steal cheating =) just a quickie per say
2007-01-12 11:42:28 · answer #5 · answered by Get Money 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's hard to give advice on something so serious without really knowing the people. But I think maybe you shouldn't tell him. It would only hurt him, and really the only reason you would be telling him would be to relieve your own guilt. I think you should just live with it. If you REALLY love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him, and if the kiss with this other guy was REALLY meaningless, then just stay with your man and make him happy and NEVER do anything like that again.
2007-01-12 11:38:25 · answer #6 · answered by melissa b 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What would you want your boy friend to do if he had kissed someone? Would you want to be told? Relationship's are built on trust and to many lies can change a perfectly great relationship but you have to do what is the best, if the kiss meant absolutely nothing maybe you should not tell him, everyone makes mistakes and if you love him then maybe the best thing is to not tell him, kissing that guy and feeling nothing shows you your boyfriend is someone you like if not strongley love, so why ruin a 2 year realasonship with one kiss that meant nothing? If you kiss someone again though i would tell him though, just to make sure that you are not hiding to much, one meaningless kiss is one thing, but two means you are having douts, do what is best, and will make you feel good, but keep your realasonship=)
2007-01-12 11:48:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is a question that you hae to answer yourself. If you think it will break his heart then don't say anything at all about it. Just go one living your life with him and be happy with only him and stop letting your other emotions and curiosity get you off track. Don't risk loosing the husband in your life behind lust. It is not worth it at all. Love your husband and treat him like the KING he is to you and not woory about anything else. Be happy with your husband he is your he is the only one your suppose to invest all your love and emotions into. Get on your knees ask GOD for forgiveness and to strengthen you and he will clear your mind of this. Pull your husband close to you and hold him tight day in and day out tell him how much you love him and once you start to feel all those vibes and feelings between you too trust me those thoughts will fade away. Cherish your husband and be thankful of your blessing now that you know you have done wrong just don't do it again. Love him cause someone else will. Treat him the way you wanna be treated.
2007-01-12 11:47:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The declaring is going what feels so proper will be so incorrect. Ur mom is searching for u and would not want u to make any blunders, getting married is a huge step. If u in simple terms on your coronary heart experience that it really is the guy for u opt for it, in simple terms try now to not have a falling out consisting of your mom over it, because adult adult males come and go yet kinfolk is there for existence u won't be able to shake that.
2016-11-23 14:57:41 · answer #9 · answered by schifano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The heart break would be easier for him to handle at this point than later. What breaks the trust most is hiding it from him, not the act itself. If you are marrying him, I assume you love and trust him and him you. If this is the case tell him and work through it, you'll feel better. If it's bugging you this much now it's really the only way...
2007-01-12 11:45:27 · answer #10 · answered by mmaxx59 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you tell him, it will rock your relationship, may break it. He will never trust you again. If he finds out about it-its over for sure. This is the worst "couple crime" you can commit. He will always wonder what else may have happened. He will know you will deceive him. Better to call the marriage off than to marry and then divorce. At this point it is better for you to think about what may happen in this situation, than to worry about or think about what you really want. this is serious-people kill over less.
2007-01-12 11:58:21 · answer #11 · answered by DATA DROID 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋