The 2 girls in my office ignore me and the one who is teaching me how things are done there is so disrespectful. I always smile and try to make small talk and they just roll their eyes. No one talks to me,but they laugh among themselves.And that's cool but I don't know if I should be my friendly outgoing self or act snobby like they do.It's been 1 week. how do I handle this situation?
2007-01-12 11:27:42 · 13 answers · asked by gabeymac♥ 5 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
just continue to be yourself, I would give the ugliness another week or so and if they have not changed, then I would take it up w/ a super. go to work and do your job to the best of your ability that way they cannot say you have poor work ethics. my thought is: you have plenty of friends outside of work and you don't need those types of people as friends anyway, it is there loss for not getting to know you and seeing that you would be an asset to them. or you could corner them in the restroom and tell them that you are not there to take there jobs and if they were doing there jobs instead of acting like 5th graders then they would have to worry about someone taking there job....rude insecure b*tches.....lol.....just give it some time and I'm sure it will all work out, think happy thoughts and try to leave on your lunch, even if it is to sit in the car w/ the radio on or read a book. I am a very happy outgoing person too and all that negativity all day everyday would bring me down....keep your head up and smile. hey if you are allowed on the internet you can send me an e-mail to vent and I will try to make you laugh!! good luck!!
2007-01-12 11:43:18 · answer #1 · answered by sweetiepi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh god I know what you mean. I've been there I started this job at 29 yrs. and I was working thru the agency getting send to different job sites at a time and I would usually get treated close to what you are going thru, but thank God I got hired here and the staff here is awsome and I'm 30 yrs. now it has not been that long and I already got a raise. If I was you, I continue to be friendly they are the ones that are insecure not you. Smile~
2007-01-12 19:33:12 · answer #2 · answered by YO~NO~FUI E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
where's the teamwork in that workplace?
It seems unfair how your co-workers are treating you. maybe they're not used to working with a guy and it's only been 1 week. Girls like to chitchat among themselves - I've noticed that. Or they might be thinking that they're better than you because your 33 and have just started. I'm a feminist but I like things to be done fairly. I might regret this but: show those disrespectful and "no sense of teamwork" girls that you're capable of doing your job very well... in fact, BETTER! there's a difference between pro-woman and just plain arrogance. i think perhaps they've crossed the borderline.
2007-01-12 19:41:52 · answer #3 · answered by giselle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep on dishing out the friendly, outgoing stuff despite their antics. Becoming one of them doesn't mean assimilating into their silly behavior. However if their disrespect seriously affects the quality of your work or the environment you work in, you'll have to talk to your superiors about it. Give it some time to get used to them and for them to get to know you. If nothing changes, then either come straight out and ask them, nicely what the problem is, or go to your boss and discuss the problem. If not handled, get out.
2007-01-12 19:34:28 · answer #4 · answered by curious cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hasn't reached the state of them getting to figure you out yet, but when they do, it can go either way... Try to get you fired or depend upon your expertise because you don't take things personally and are assertive.
In the long run this job may be just a stepping stone so just be the nice person you are without taking it personal if they are distant.
2007-01-12 19:33:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go on being yourself - but don't go out of your way to be nicer to them. They are probably jealous or scared of you for some reason. Just act like it doesn't bother you - and the only way to do that is to continue being yourself. Take the attitude that they are somehow intimidated by you. It is probably the truth. But if you continue as you are, they'll eventually get tired of not getting a response from you and take on another pastime. How unprofessional of them. Good luck!
2007-01-12 19:35:07 · answer #6 · answered by itsjustfoolishness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I vote against being snobby, you don't want to mimic bad behavior.
I suggest being respectful and polite, but also not going out of your way to be helpful to them.
Also, try to meet some other folks in the organization so you're not completely dependent on them.
And if you don't yet, I suggest watching the ABC show Ugly Betty.:-)
2007-01-12 19:55:03 · answer #7 · answered by Ladida 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That tough, and I've been there. I would go to your supervisor and explain to him/her what you are feeling, and see what he/she has to say. Sometimes they feel like you are going to take thier job from them, sometimes it can be racial/religious, or maybe they are just in a "click" and don't want to include you. However, your there to do a job, and you deserve the best training that you can get to properly do your job, and it sounds like your not getting that right now. If you don't report it now, it could get way out of control, and then you will end up leaving, and I'm sure you don't want that!
2007-01-12 19:33:11 · answer #8 · answered by BMW BFD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go on with your job and always be friendly inspite of their
disrespects to you. It takes time for them to accommodate you. Doing your job in a right way is the reason you are hired in the
first place.
2007-01-12 19:40:30 · answer #9 · answered by dodadz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
F*ck them! I hate when people act that that! Just be yourself and if they keep it up just wait until your probationary period is up and then just let them have it, nicely of course. I worked with a woman who could get people to say they are complete idiots and then thank you for the privilege. Just remember you are older and wiser and they are just beginning to experience the joy of being done dirty.
2007-01-12 19:37:12 · answer #10 · answered by Julia B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋