2 weeks ago I was told I was having a boy, I couldn't be more excited and thrilled. I have 3 girls. Then today at my Level 2 Ultrasound I got confirmation of a girl. I cried...ALOT! Is this normal, I feel terrible. Do you think I will be just as good a mother to my daughter? I dont know, I'm so confused.
2007-01-12 11:27:32 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
No this is not wrong at all this is actually called gender disappointment.There is a a very good article about this here is the link http://www.babyzone.com/pregnancy/fetal_development/genetics_gender/a1142
2007-01-12 13:06:10 · answer #1 · answered by Brittany 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you will! I don't think you were disappointed that you were having a girl more disappointed that it wasn't a boy or that you got thinking what it would have been like with a boy. What if the first time they told you it was a girl all along? I don't think you would be disappointed at all. It's just that you got thinking and used to the idea of a boy. Then things changed. You will be a great mother. You already have three wonderful daughters whom I am sure you adore and whom they must adore you. This daughter will not be any different. You might have these mixed feelings because of the added hormones in pregnancy and maybe because of the insensitivity that you may get from others. For example someone might say "Oh, bummer I thought you were having a boy. But it's another girl." People can be so thoughtless. Trust yourself that you will be very happy with this newfound daughter. After all how many people out there are dying just to have one child. Now you will have 4 beautiful children. Bless your heart!!!
2007-01-12 11:37:25 · answer #2 · answered by AB11 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am there with you. I have two girls and I am 9 weeks with my third. I have dreams of having a boy, and I want one very badly. I have gotten my hopes up and if I find out I am having a girl, I will probably cry too. But once that baby is in your arms, you will know that she is meant to be here and will love her just as much as your other three girls. Congrats and everything will fall into place for you. Your not a bad mother, its normal and will go away the closer you come to having her. Start looking at baby stuff, that always make me really excited. Good luck and congrats!!
2007-01-12 11:52:37 · answer #3 · answered by kristin h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is OK to be a little bummed. Remember, there are all sorts of hormones swinging through your system. I was a little bumemd when I found out I was having a boy, because I kinda wanted a girl. And don't forget about all those extra hormones swinging through your system.
And since it was also a bit of a shock...if you're a good mom to the three daughters you have already, and remember that you're lucky to have another healthy baby, then you'll be just fine.
2007-01-12 13:11:18 · answer #4 · answered by Paige D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you will be a good mother to your daughter - in fact - you have lots of experience!
You were excited because you were expecting a boy after 3 girls - that is soo normal. You will be overjoyed when you hold your new baby daughter in your arms and look in to her beautiful eyes! You will forgot you felt like this and won't even be able to imagine life without her.
one other thing, tho::
The same thing happened to my sister - they told her she was definitely having a boy (they claim they saw the "organ" . Mark ended up being Elizabeth. You just never really know. All the best!
2007-01-12 11:44:40 · answer #5 · answered by what's up? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Aw... don't feel bad. It's ok to have those feelings. Trust me... I have 3 daughters and finally got my boy. I don't feel that it made me a bad mother to my daughters to be thrilled to finally have a boy. And it shouldn't make you feel bad that you were disappointed that your hopes for a boy this time were dashed. You're going to be a great mom. The fact that you're worried about her feelings on your disappointment is a good sign. When your baby is born, and you look into that sweet little face, you're going to love her just as much as you would any boy. Congratulations on your new daughter! You have all my best wishes.
2007-01-12 11:34:57 · answer #6 · answered by Nancy B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah everyone makes mistakes and it sounds like the doctor did too. Thats okay to feel a little disappointed and upset...i mean im sure you were sooo excited to finally be having a boy. It may take some time but you'll eventually just get over it. Think of how fun its going to be dressing them all in pink and the pink bows...and you can have them share rooms and stuff.. Its not going to be that bad. I think youll be an awsome mom to all of your girls. It was just a let down itll be okay...blame it on being pregnant...goodluck on having a little girl and picking a name:) have fun and just be excited for a healthy bundle of joy no matter what it is:)
2007-01-12 11:33:24 · answer #7 · answered by cutenwild1769 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I really really wanted a boy and thought I wouldn't be happy if I had a girl either. Granted I did get my boy... but those feeling were still there and I felt guilty for them. You'll be just as good of a mother to your little girl, don't even worry about that, but know these feelings you have are completely normal. Best of luck to you.
2007-01-12 11:32:58 · answer #8 · answered by Gig 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i have 4 boys i was fine with the first 2 but i really wanted a girl when i found out the the 3rd was a boy i did the same i cried and cried thought i wouldn't love him but i was wrong i went through the same thing with the 4th....you will love them all the same cause they are your kids after they are born it just doesn't matter anymore....i won't be having any more tho i don't think i could quite cope with life with 5 boys....lol
best of luck xxx
2007-01-12 11:40:43 · answer #9 · answered by sway137 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hi I think that alot of people get bummed about it I was kinda upset when i found out i was having my second girl i had my heart set on a boy but once the baby is born feelings change alot and you love them anyways. As long as they are healthy that is the important thing
2007-01-12 11:33:15 · answer #10 · answered by shortmomma 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you were upset but I'm also sure that when you hold your precious little baby in your arms, you'll be over joyed with it whether it's a little girl or little boy. Nothing works quicker as a mood lifter than holding the child that you and your husband or significant other created. You'll love this child just as much as your other children.
2007-01-12 11:35:54 · answer #11 · answered by cookiefactory4 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋