HOW SHOULD I TELL HIM
2007-01-12 11:15:54 · 45 answers · asked by Tkenya J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be very penitent, but tell him right away.
2007-01-19 08:24:09 · answer #1 · answered by Feeling Mutual 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all, im not going to judge you, no one can. Because you have posted your concerns and situation on here, alot ofpoeple can down you easily, but they probably have either done this or been through the same. Sorry it had to lead to tht for you.
Now the issue. If i were you, i would tell, because if you leave it sit it can become worse than it already is(STD). wHETHEr he's going to break or not?..no one knows so to me its a win win. Cause if you dont tell him, but continue to hae sex with him after you have transmitted the STD, THAN you will keep contracting it. Tell him!!! which way it goes is unknown. if he's aggressive, telephone might work, but pack a bag adn stay somewhere for a few days.....could get a little dangerous to you, but you know your man. Here's a little advice. Stop now while you're ahead. It could've been aids, luckily for you doing wrong lead into a second chance for you, always use protection, to protect not only you, but your husband. And dont worry about the "nasty" comments..... if you're having sex...and you're not married you're nasty as well, people often judge before trying the shoe on.
take it easy and take care.....i dont encourage you to cheat, but if you do so....please USE A CONDOM.
HIV/AIDS IS GROWING WORLDWIDE, ADN TREMENDOUSLY IN AMERICA...NO MATTER WHICH EHTNICITY THEY "THINK HAS IT THE MOST"....ITS LARGE IN NUMBER IN ALL
2007-01-19 00:15:55 · answer #2 · answered by Beautynbeyond 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to find out why you cheated. People who cheat then feel guilty and rush to tell their partner just to offload the guilt. That's wrong, why should two people be ruined, HOWEVER, you got an extra "PRESENT" from your affair so it is up to you to be a responsible adult and tell your husband. Sit down with him and explain (and it better be good) why you had the affair and that he needs to be checked. Keep in mind all STD's do not readily show up, some take years to come to the surface i.e. HIV. If he stays with you consider yourself very lucky, if he doesn't there's nothing you can do. Personally if my spouse gave me an STD I'd be out of here. Trust is the one thing in a relationship of any kind that MUST remain intact. You my dear have broken that trust and it may NEVER be regained. Don't dump on him just because you feel guilty though, you'll pay for the rest of your life at any rate.
2007-01-17 03:17:06 · answer #3 · answered by gadgetsgirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself a favor .... When seeing the doctor for the STD have them check your head. What is wrong with you? Your MARRIED!!!! That means you chose this one person to be your mate for life. And yes I believe you should tell your hubby. If you had the guts to cheat have the guts to stand up and take the responsibility of telling your man (or should I say your soon to be ex.). Obviously you dont care about your hubbys feelings so...what????
2007-01-20 10:44:16 · answer #4 · answered by always curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll find out one way or the other so its best to come clean. Then get cured, if you can and learn from your mistakes. Just tell your husband that you havent been happy and have been having an affair then while your walking out the door, tell him the man you had an affair with has an STD then RUN FOR YOUR LIFE. Im serious run, because if somebody cheated on me and gave me an std, i would hurt them
2007-01-12 11:50:48 · answer #5 · answered by anonymous 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell him you are a cheat. Tell him that is why you will not do it with him because you have an STD and you care about his health and do not want him to get it. Then tell him you are a skank and do not deserve him and spend the rest of your life scratching between the legs and picking the scabs.
2007-01-20 11:02:53 · answer #6 · answered by spinster wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First if this is ture that you have an STD then (Yes) you should tell him because he may have it also. I've been there done it and I told the truth. You both need to sit down and talk about why did you cheat on him, than ask ofr his forgiveness to save the marrage
2007-01-19 02:57:38 · answer #7 · answered by 2cool4you 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce hubby & move in wit man cross da street.
2007-01-12 11:45:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well first of all it was wrong of you to cheat on your husband second i think you should tell your husband and admit what you did was wrong (and don't do it again and ask him to forgive you if you still want to be with him) and you should go see the doctor to make sure if you got it from the men across the street or you husband ( if you slept with him recently). now to answer your question.... just tell your husband what you done say sorry and tell him why you done it (and just pray to god that your husband can forgive you even though no one should be treated like that )
2007-01-20 11:20:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about over the phone, or from some place safe, I would go ballistic, not only did you cheat, but now you have an STD. what did you catch? Now for the rest of your life and his you need protection, what a B I T C H. I think you better just tell him and hopefully he will leave you, that is what you deserve. but you probably won't even tell him, will you!! YOU ARE A P I G!!!
2007-01-12 12:00:45 · answer #10 · answered by Sir Hard & Thick 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think its best to come down clean w ur husband. You know its not gonna be easy..but you did it, take the consequences.
Learn from your mistake and never do it again.
I dont know how bad ur std is..have you get it checked w ur gynaecologist? if its a minor one, maybe you can restrain sex from him w excuses until u r cured and you get away w it. If not, no choice-tell him.
2007-01-12 13:36:03 · answer #11 · answered by AlisonJonshon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋