Every day when my husband gets home he is so stressed out that he yells at my son, and is in a really bad mood. I know he doesn't mean it but he turns a good day bad really quick. He works very hard and is extremely tired so I try to make things go as easy as possible. He is not abusive and is a really good husband and dad. Any ideas on how I can make evening time a little less miserable?
2007-01-12 11:11:01 · 11 answers · asked by giamc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get some alone time with him and provide 'safe' time for him to just talk about what is stressing him out with you, alone. Don't necessarily offer advice, don't try to fix his problems, just let him vent and talk it out. Reassure him that you love him, that you're behind him no matter what happens on the job, that he's a good provider and that you really appreciate all the sacrifice he's made to make sure you're provided for, and that it takes a big man to have the courage to work a hard day and then go back the next morning for another bite.
Then move on with the rest of the night as normal and see how it goes.
Best to you.
2007-01-12 11:16:01 · answer #1 · answered by Timothy W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him about the way he changes to mood of the house when he gets home. Maybe you two can come with better was to handle things when he gets home. Maybe you can give him time to his self when he first gets home. You and your son can have a few minutes alone until he has settles down. Sometimes when you are extremely tired from work you don't want to many thing coming at you at once when you get home. You need a minute alone. Home should be a place everyone can feel at peace and relax from their day, work, school what ever you do. Yelling at your son for know reason other then he is stress is abusive behavior. Trying different things before this someday becomes a worst problem. He may be to stress at the end of the day and not be aware of his behavior. Let him know and work from there. I'm sure you can come up with a way to make home a better place to live in for everybody. Good luck on your new changes. One step at a time, one day at a time. There is always a solution to a problem. May just take time to find out what works for you.
2007-01-12 19:35:05 · answer #2 · answered by relationcounseling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel.....both me and my husband snap at our kids once in a while - we're just stressed from work, bills, life in general. I think you should talk to him and tell him it stresses you out that he does that to your son. Its not your son's choice that he is here on this earth, and he doesn't deserve to be yelled at. Maybe you could occupy your son for a little while - until your husband unwinds at the end of the day. Good luck.
2007-01-12 19:32:53 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him a special dinner when he gets home from work and give him a massage on the neck and back and shoulders... try to help him relax.... Spend time alone with him..... Tak with him and by the way how old is your son.... Try a night a week or so having your son at a sitters so you can focus on just your husband... Hope this helps some.
2007-01-12 19:16:02 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, find out why he is so stressed. Then, you both need to discuss reasons to eliminate that stress or the problem will NEVER go away. Also, talk to your son. I bet he is sad. And being yelled at IS abusive. Maybe you should see a family counselor.
2007-01-12 19:15:23 · answer #5 · answered by GK2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. This is the same situation my wife and i are in now. We are close to separating and its killing me. I was stressed from work and always angry. She got sick and tired of it and being the great mom she is took herself and the kids out of that situation. Yes she left. I realize now what the problem was. I was so blind. I'm hoping eventually we can resolve this. I took the opportunity to seek
help to change. Even if we don't get back together i cant carry this to another relationship. Sit your husband down and talk to him now seek help!!! Trust me Your kids cannot be exposed to this... If you feel like arguing think of the kids and take a deep breath sit down and discuss the problem when the kids are sleeping.
2007-01-12 19:25:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your husband about the negative effects of his yelling is having on your son. if he is a good dad, he'll understand and perhaps change his actions.
if not, don't be home when he gets home from work. go grocery shopping or to the library with your son. give your hubby time to unwind.
2007-01-12 19:17:43 · answer #7 · answered by Dreaux~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he is in a good mood you need to let him know how his anxiety is affecting the family. Be loving but also firm and direct. Suggest he see his Dr. because physical problems like sleep apnea or thyroid problems can cause irritability. If it is anxiety there is medication for this as well.
2007-01-12 22:12:35 · answer #8 · answered by mjohnson1422 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to discuss what he is so stressed over,then you need to explain to him that taking thing's out on your son is not right.If he continues to do this your son is going to begin having some real problems.
2007-01-12 19:32:00 · answer #9 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him have ten minute chill out or sit down time before he joins the family he probably feels guilty himself but is so pent up from his day it bubbles over ???
2007-01-12 19:16:30 · answer #10 · answered by lozie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋