ok...now she's been getting on my d*** nerves! I mean but just because her husband left her that doesn't mean she can call me and my lil bro "M***** F*****'s" im sick and tired of her s***!!! OK...my 'use-2-be' step dad was an alcoholic, he abused drugs, and cursed like its nothing. im GLAD he left. and he said, "i dont love you anymore, " to her and thats where i draw tha line1 ans she still love him! OMFG!!! shes also an alcoholic also, she stays at that D*** VFW every friday night! i'm so pissed off rite now! she comes n yelling! tha whole 9 yards! and Russ "tha evil step dad" watched porn, he IS a sex freak, andhe hitted me onethime so i WOOPED HIS A**!!! ans im sick of it "have i already mentioned that?" and now shes telling us 2 move out! I love her like a-lot and i dont want her 2 die cuz if i move out then whose gonna take care of her? i mean if i did move out ...my house would become a sex house probably, shes on match.com and that yells out DESPRITE to me!
2007-01-12 11:09:24 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
wut should i do im going crazy!!! n e suggestions?
2007-01-12 11:14:15 · update #1
Dear "nlrhsband", my heart goes out to you and your brother. You're in a complex and very painful situation. I agree with "Jon's girl" and "rustybone". Your mom IS projecting and taking her anger out on you, among other things. And the alcohol,etc., just makes it worse. And you really do need someone to guide you through this, who might also be able to help you find somewhere you and your brother can go, where you can concentrate on healing yourselves.
It sounds like your mom is repeating a pattern which may have to do with her relationship with her own father, or other aspects of her childhood/background. It may also have to do with general family dysfunction in her background as well, or some past trauma she has experienced. Because of one or more of those reasons, she may not have any sense of personal worth or value-this can lead someone to people and situations that are bad-sometimes REALLY bad. Counseling can help you and your brother to break this incredibly unhealthy pattern so you don't repeat it in your own lives. (There are places and agencies in every town where people can get help without needing a lot-if any-money. Ask clergy, school counselors, others; check the phonebook and the web.)
Be assured, your mother is as miserable as she's making you. And somewhere inside, probably hates herself even more for it. That is an excuse- but it might help you feel a little less angry-perhaps, in time.
Whatever you do and whatever happens next (or ever), do not give up. Your situation, your life, is not without hope. But working things like this out can take time. Take it a step at a time, and hang in there man, hang in.
2007-01-12 12:11:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 21:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i am so sorry to hear that, no one deserves to be talked to the way you and your brother are being talked to especially by your own mom that is hard, well maybe you and your brother need to move out and go stay with a realative you trust and make your momma realize that she does need you guys, its really a hard place for me to sit here and try and tell you what to do cuz i couldnt imagine being in your shoes just hot your knees and pray to god and he will help you, but i defintly think you should leave with your brother, then maybe talk to someone and then go and talk to her with an adult and tell her you love her so much but she needs help and she will probalrly yell and fight you but if she really loves then she wil do it family is everything and that sucks that she is willing to lose the best things that could ever happen to her over a freaking man and a d**n bottle of liqour your mom is dealing with something that she cant hndle so she takes it out on you'll just try and be strong and please before she hurts you'll even worse get some help i will keep u guys in my prayers good luck:)
2007-01-12 11:30:31 · answer #3 · answered by brown_eyedgurl22 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because maybe your mother feels alittle pressure with everything. It sounds to me like your step father was abusive. And women who tend to fall into those patterns tend to only be with that kind of guy. She's using defense mechanisms against you are your brother; such as projecting her flaws on the two of you.
2007-01-12 11:19:38 · answer #4 · answered by amyman12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom still loves that guy, and she is not yet over him...... some people are just like that.... like my mom for an example.... she loves her husband more than she loves her kids..... when my stepfather got tired of my sister, and my brother... he kicked them both out, and she didn't do a DAMN THING!!!!.... when i was younger... that evil stepfather used to beat me!!! and my mom didn't care.... they don't even love each other... they just live together so that they share the bills.... it's ****** pathetic.... and he swears he can tell me what to do.... but i don't listen because he is crazy.. and he brainwashed my mom.... your stepfather has brainwashed your mom.... and you NEED TO GO AND SAVE HER!!!!! obviously, she means a lot to you.... so tell her how you feel, and POUR YOUR HEART OUT TO HER!!!! you are not yet 18 so she can't kick you or your brother out... IT'S AGAINST THE LAW.... AND SHE KNOWS THAT!!! i feel bad for you and i wish i could do something.....
she probably doesn't mean a word she says..... she is drunk.... and the only thing you can do is deal with it until you are 18... or find a relative that cares for you, and move with them..
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.... AND KEEP OUT OF TROUBLE.... YOU ARE A GOOD KID, AND I WOULD HATE FOR ANYTHING BAD TO HAPPEN TO YOU... I LOVE YOU!!!!!
2007-01-12 12:09:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will suggest if you could talk to your mom...beside i believed she doesnt know that you guys been affected by your step dad...and she doesnt know what inside your mind unless you tell her...trust me!!!
she's a mother so she will understand and listen to you....to be honest its hard to be mother...
well the only reason i could give you why she on match.com is maybe she's scared to be alone...you know what i mean???
if you guys start having your own family ofcourse she will be alone right??? and she doesnt want that...
put more patience to your mom...i know in my heart she didnt mean to kick you guys out!!! it just right now she having too much stress...
2007-01-12 11:35:25 · answer #6 · answered by angel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are in a tough situation. I would suggest you find a alcoholics anon. association and attend the meetings designed for families.
They will provide advice and support to you and your brother.
Good luck to both of you.
2007-01-12 11:27:43 · answer #7 · answered by rustybones 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take her to a theriopist! or you need to move out fast. dont forget to take your lil brother. you guys dont need to be stressed out like that! call your grandparents or a close family member and move in with them until your mom gets right!
BEST OF LUCK♥
2007-01-12 11:29:59 · answer #8 · answered by ♥la chica♥ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey man, you should see a counselor or professional who will help you and love you more than your mom does.
2007-01-12 11:15:15 · answer #9 · answered by CPDawg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MOVE OUT, TAKE YOUR LITTLE BROTHER WITH YOU AND SAVE HIM. HE IS IMPORTANT RIGHT NOW. AM SORRY YOUR MOM IS ACTING IN SUCH WAYS AND SHE HAS NO REASON TO DO SO BUT SHE IS NOT THINKING OF YOU NOW.
YOU SHOULD LOOK FORWARD TO SAVE YOURSELF AND UR BABY BROTHER.
2007-01-12 12:04:33 · answer #10 · answered by ââ¢Â¥*~áƦ~NYSunrise~áƦ~*ââ¢Â¥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋