Things gone wrong in relationship?

Question

Well im a bit fed up.Someone to talk to might help.Things have got on top of me and i dont see a way out.Not moaning but could use some advice.Kept things bottled up and its no good.

Answer 1

I once went to a very good counsellor who told me "Depression equals too much impression and not enough expression," or, basically, that if you feel things a lot and don't find a way to talk about them, you're really risking hurting your mental health.

God knows it's difficult talking about things. I find it very difficult talking about my problems, partly because I think I should be able to solve them myself, partly because if I'm having a problem within a relationship I feel that it is disloyal to talk about that with someone else. But nonetheless it is so much better to get it out there.

The thing to remember is: no problem is unique. No one expects you to be perfect. You can't be everything to everybody. Everyone finds life hard going from time to time.

So talk to SOMEONE. A relative, a friend, someone you only know on the net who doesn't know the players involved is often capable of giving good advice. Email ME if you want, although I'm not the greatest advice-giver in the world, I'd be keen to help. There are a lot of people about who would do that for you - you may be surprised how many people have similar problems. Talk to a counsellor, even, I've never regretted that, even though I was extremely fearful (and proud) at the time.

Sometimes as well, it's the tendency to keep things bottled up that send things awry within the relationship. Your own wants and needs are important to your partner, and maybe s/he just doesn't know what's wrong, or how to help.

Good luck... and please please please, find someone to talk to. I promise you it will make things clearer, and help you get your head right at least.

Answer 2

Life is too short to worry over things which are ultimately not very important.

Look at your problem and think of it as not the most important issue in your life.

Think of ways to deal with it - 'way out' and simply do it. You havn't said what the problem is so I cant help but everyone on Yahoo has an opinion and I am sure if you ask the question completely and honestly, you will find the answer you need.

Answer 3

You said you don't see a way out, there are always ways around things, look outside the box x Also you gotta talk no good keeping it bottled as it will come out in the end anyway, talk to us, a close mate, your family, your never alone with feeling poo x

Answer 4

I do the same thing and it's not fair to you or your partner. Bottled up emotions always find a way of comming out and being VERY hurtful. Check out this website. It really helped me be a better girlfriend.

Answer 5

Try talking to the other person in the relationship. Then you will be able to let it out and get some of the feedback you need.

Answer 6

give us some more info on what is wrong. it is never good to bottle up emotions, as eventually they will just come out later on. got to find a trusted friend, or a pastor, to talk to.

Answer 7

At least you know whats wrong with your relationship. I got out of a relationship because my girlfriend wont talk to me and don't know why.

Answer 8

Could you please clarify this question???? I could answer it better if it was clearer.... Are you married or just dating or living with someone??? Whyd do you feel you have to bottle things up... You need to talk and let your feelings out and talk with your partner and be honest and open and listed to them as well!

Answer 9

Talk, communication etc!
Do not bottle things up, they can only get worse!

Answer 10

jus talk 2 the person whom u think really loves u, u mst shares ur problems wid the loved ones.