Is it worth not having much money, or do you really want to go back to work?
2007-01-12 10:30:16 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
My husband and I agreed I will stay home for the first year no matter what...for us we looked into daycare here and its not worth it for me to be away from the baby and make like $5 an hour after paying for daycare and taxes...Not to mention my husband will be in Iraq for the first year so I want my baby to atleast be with me as much as possible.
2007-01-12 10:33:42 · answer #1 · answered by Samantha M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I just swapped. I'm the stay at home dad and she went back to work so that she can qualify for maternity benefits for our next baby. We still get some money from the government (in Canada we get Employment Insurance parental benefits for a year), but that will run out soon. The government money helps, but things are still pretty tight. I'm saving most of it to have a buffer when we only have one salary coming in. We had no one to take care of our baby and once we figured in the day care costs plus the money we would lose from the government, I would be working for free for the next few months anyways.
So, now I'm the stay at home dad and love it. This opportunity is really priceless and I'm happy knowing that my baby is being raised in a loving, caring environment. Her needs are being met really well and she is an incredibly happy and good baby.
It is worth it not having much money, but we do get by. No dinners out or anything like that, but with the time I now have I've been practicing in the kitchen. I will be working part time once the benefits end just to make a little more money to help pay the basic bills.
Once our second is born, my wife will be the permanent stay at home mom and I know she's looking forward to that already.
2007-01-12 11:39:20 · answer #2 · answered by Mark F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK. I worked when I was married the first time. We had 3 children. It was really hard for me to leave the kids and work everyday but I had too. After we got Divorced I worked even more. My oldest daughter was having a hard time with school. I was not around alot to help her and I felt horrible about that.
When I got with my New Husband things changed. We have a total of 6 kids. I stay at home now and Love it. The kids are all doing much better in school, there social life's, and we have a close family. Times are tough but in the long run it is worth it. I am here to help them with Homework, school problems and making sure we have a sch.
I at times want to go crazy but I know the kids are better off with me at home..
For the kids STAY AT HOME, It is worth it
2007-01-12 11:34:48 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. Getz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 11 weeks pregnat and have a 9 year old daughter and 20 month old. Once this baby i born I will be a stay at home mom because of day care costs. We worked it out: I would only be bringing home about $75 a week after day care costs. Add up gas to and from work and work clothes: We'll be better of me not working. Im nervous though, we have never been one income and it seems things are tight right now im worried what its gonna be like when I dont work but like right now I have to work after the baby I cant work because we'll actually lose money.
2007-01-12 10:38:22 · answer #4 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stay at home with my kids and yes, to a certain extent it is worth it. We don't have alot of money but we really know each other and I am as close to my kids as a mom can get. Sometimes I want to go to work just to get away from them for a while for my own sanity but then I think about it and end up changing my mind. Enjoy what you have if you can truly afford it. If you think about it, daycare will cost you as much as you might make. Weigh your options. If you aren't really benefiting from going to work and financially it isn't going to help you any, don't do it.
2007-01-12 10:40:01 · answer #5 · answered by lilphill1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been a stay-at-home mom for both of my boys, for a year and a half for each and then between had to work simply because we were barely making it off of my husband's check. I must say that it is very rewarding being at home with my children, but it saved my sanity to go to work. Being at home all day long gets very lonely and very frustrating at times and having that time away from home AND making money feels even more rewarding. It's nice to be able to have conversations with adults outside of your personal life. It also helps your children to know that they will be okay being away from mom and in a way helps them (personal opinion by all means). And if the child/children are with their father while you are working, it definately helps them to have a better relationship with him.
2007-01-12 12:25:43 · answer #6 · answered by Emily W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to work all my life and unfortunately I didn't have the option to stay home and enjoy them my mother enjoyed there first everything. So now I re get it and wish I would have ins tend of trying to work thinking it would be better for the children. Enjoy your baby while you can, all the money in the world is not worth, not being there when they smile at you. Good Luck
2007-01-12 10:48:44 · answer #7 · answered by jakhiamylove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I see it and would be true for us, I could go back to work, make okay money. But the problem daycare is outrageous here and about 75% of my check would go to the cost to have someone else take care of my child. So really to work hard and bring home 25% of a check, not worth it.
2007-01-12 10:34:53 · answer #8 · answered by The Invisible Woman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've tried going back to work and I hated it. I felt so guilty after being home with my first and then going back to work (part time) with my 2nd. I got totally stressed out and ended up quiting my job. I'm home with my kids now and things are harder financially (my paycheck covered the girl's dance classes and little extra's like that) but I wouldn't change it for anything. Even when I'm about ready to go nuts, I still wouldn't trade it for anything!! So, in my opinion, it's so worth not having the money...but it's not for everyone.
2007-01-12 10:36:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a stay at home mom and my husband is working 3 jobs and we are barley making it . For me it is worth it due to we don't have anyoneto watch our kids so I can go to work . If I went to work it would just pay for the daycare so it would be pointless . It is worth it to me even though it is hard but i try to sell on ebay for extra income .
2007-01-12 10:39:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋