I know this is stupid?

Question

Ok I know this is idiotic and I know I shouldn't even think about it. But honestly if you could tell me if this makes sense it would make me less worried. I have an acquaintance, not even a close acquaintance, who found out, (completely by accident) that this person blocked me from myspace. And it confused me because I could see no reason why this person would hate me. I'm always nice to people and basically never talk. They have no problem sitting next to me in class. All I can think of is that I basically and obviously have no confidence at all and maybe they just think I'm worthless, I honestly get that feeling more than dislike because they're usually nice to me and accepting, and I've never done anything to them and they've never done anything to me. And this person seems to just put people they think are cool or whatever on the friend list and I'm absolutely fine with that I would just like to know that they don't hate me.

Answer 1

Truth be told, most people who lash out with hatred hate themselves most of all. Something you do that is right makes them feel bad because they don't do it, so (logically) they lash out at you instead.

Years ago when I lived in FL, a neighbor who lived on the water showed me how, if you put crabs in a bucket, they will pull any of their number down to attempts to climb out. Humans do the same thing. When one of us seems to get ahead in life, we tend to find anything we can to libel and defame them to bring them back down so that we don't feel so bad about where we are.

When you're young, people don't like you as much for who you are as much as they clique together for what they can get from each other, even if it's just mutual association in the nonsensical and transitory. Don't worry too much about what people do. Worry about living YOUR life well, and at least you'll be able to hold your head up proudly, even if you don't have many friends on Myspace.

Answer 2

Don't judge yourself by other peoples actions towards you. Some people are just how they are and if they dont like you they just dont like you. You just have to accept the fact that not everyone is going to be your friend. I went to a really small high school where the girls were so concieted and didnt like other girls for no reason at all just because they wanted someone to dislike. As long as you have one great friend then thats a lot. Myspace is a waste of time. Find other hobbies, its nothing but a cause for fighting and trouble.

Answer 3

You'll have to ask them, if you want to know how they feel about you. However ... why does it matter? You seem to feel that it's important, but why? Who are They that their opinion ought to make a difference to You? You can learn the answers to those questions by reading the following ...

How to Find Real Happiness
- Think of Your Spiritual Needs
- Keep your Life Simple
- Happiness and Self-Worth
- Hope--Vital to Happiness
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2001/3/1/article_02.htm

We All Need Friends
- Satisfying Our Hunger for Friendship
- Good vs Bad Friends
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2004/12/8/article_01.htm

How Can You Find Inner Peace? :
- The Search for Inner Peace
- "Happy Are those Conscious of Their Spiritual Need"
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2005/7/1/article_01.htm

What Is Your Life Worth? ...
- How Precious Your Life Is!
http://watchtower.org/e/20050201/article_01.htm

(NOTE : Most of these URLs will likely be modified soon. After that, each sub-title can be entered in the Advanced Search engine at : http://watchtower.org/search/search_e.htm , which will give you a link with the new URLs.)

Answer 4

if i got this straight it sounds like someone u thought you were cool with but they didnt put u on the friend list... if this is the case and u really want to know u could ask them if they have a problem with u...if you're not bold enough to ask so bluntly u could try and play it off a lil bit and say something i tried to contact u or whatever and noticed i was blocked what's up with that and see what they have to say about that. Maybe it was a mistake

Answer 5

Well just because they blocked your myspace , it doesn't mean that they hate you. It might have been a mistake or someone else blocked you. SO don't worry just ask them and be ready for the answer. You might like it or not so if you want to know just ask. Or else just don't worry their are a lot of more friends you can make.

Answer 6

I'm not sure what your question is, but I'll offer you some advice. Stop worrying so much about what other people think. It's ridiculous. Not everyone in the world will like you. That's just the way it is. If you found this out "by accident", then it apparently hasn't really affected you at all (besides hurting your feelings). Forget about it.

Answer 7

I also care what people think of me, and it drives me mad when someone doesn't like me and I can't figure out why.

That said, the best thing to do it let it go. I doubt that approaching this person about it will suddenly make them like you. Just be yourself, pretend as if you have no idea you've been "blocked", and if the person doesn't come around it's their loss, not yours.

Answer 8

If they're opinion of you means that much to you then you should ask them this question. It does not sound serious enough of an issue to cause you this level of stress. As another responded stated - Get your own page and add or block who ever you want for whatever reason you want. May peace and bliss be yours 2 ! ! !

Answer 9

I am sorry you are going through this. I doubt very much that this is a hate situation, sounds like your friend is just moving on to people she has more in common with. Just keep smiling, a stranger is a friend you have not met yet. Get out there.

Answer 10

Yes
Identifying the problem means you are half way to solving it.
Accepting that it could be you is also helpful.
You have a lot of work to do to sort your self out yet.
But i think you might be able to turn your self round.
If you don't I suggest you seek professional help.