i just found out today that my friend who I'v known forever likes me and is planning on asking me out!! But I like his BFF, who is totally hott and sweet. I don't want to Hurt my friend but I'm like in luv with his BFF. What do I do???????
2007-01-12 10:04:13 · 7 answers · asked by Hayley P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
just tell him no and try to not hurt his feelings and thats it
2007-01-12 10:07:04 · answer #1 · answered by Mari* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just do what your heart tells u 2. But u first should think of if his BFF liked u n wants 2 go out with u. Cuz if u first tell ur friend that u like his BFF n then if his BFF wont like u, that would b bad. Do whats right 4 u!!!
Good luck!!
2007-01-12 13:29:35 · answer #2 · answered by wanna b me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the great Relations Dilema!
Who knows the answer please tell me too!
I may say something from my own experience:
That happened to me more than once.
One, for example: I was in a party, and a pretty girl comes to me and says that her friend likes me and she would like to talk with me. I had been in eye contact with this girl who came to talk to me before. I tought she was very nice, and smiled to her some times. Unfortunately her friend was most of the times with her, and probably tought I was smiling to her...
So there I was in a dificult situation: I had a girl who I wanted to be with, and another girl, her friend, who liked me, was talking to me (completely drunk :P), and who I didn't like.... (I will talk only from my perspective)
To make things worst: that girl started to introduce to me girlfriends and relatives, who were each time prettier, nice and were obviously interested in me!
That's probably the dream of most men...
And you know what happened?
I was such a good guy, that nothing happened... (ye guys, you may call me names...) :P
Yep, I didn't wanted to hurt any of them, so I got any of them :P
After some more of that, I realised something was wrong...
(no, I'm not gay. sorry guys...)
And decided not be such a good guy anymore. Sometimes, we need to be direct, and say what we feel.
In this case, saying to your friend the truth, that you like him just as a friend, may be the right thing to do. You need to do that, so you both can get on with your lifes without letting it grow between you or waist time. If you're really his friend, I think you should say to him also that you like his BFF. That way you show some confidence on him, and leave the way free to his BFF come to you. All of this is going to hurt your friend, he may don't talk to you for some time, but that are the natural way things are(the ways of changing) and if he really likes you and is your friend, he will end up accepting it.
If it boils, I mean, if your's friend reaction is not good in the begining, with some added difficults between you and his BFF (assuming his BFF interested in you), don't mind, it will add some spice and strength your relation (you and his BFF).
2007-01-12 11:56:32 · answer #3 · answered by Filipe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you don't like him you shouldn't be torturing yourself by saying yes because you'd be unhappy and it would hurt him more if you said yes then broke up with him rather than just saying no. Believe been there done that. So do what you want not what he wants. Plus I hear guys move on kinda quickly. If that helps.
2007-01-12 10:27:40 · answer #4 · answered by Wolf_28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask his BFF out
2007-01-12 10:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u should go with what ur heart realy wants if its ur bestfriend or if its ur dream man
!!
2007-01-12 10:09:21 · answer #6 · answered by the love bug 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
kick him to da curb...and get what ya need
2007-01-12 10:08:42 · answer #7 · answered by bumpercar 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋