I have been married for a little more than a year now, and I cant give my husband an orgasm. Back then he used to have the same problem with me but he doesnt anymore. I really feel helpless becuase I feel that If I dont help him who else is going to help him? I feel really insecure ,ive had 12 partners my whole life including my husband and becuase of that Im loose ( or so he says hes only six inches) Anyway I feel really bad I want to help him, And oral doesnt help I cant do it right. I feel so frustrated I want to cry right now Is there something I can do? I know its me his other girlfirends have given him orgasms and I cant! Please help me someone!
2007-01-12 09:53:26 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can do kegle exercises which will help tighten the muscles down there. As far as the oral, get a book that helps teach you techniques. Both will help, trust me!
2007-01-12 09:58:42 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Ok if your husband made that comment about you being loose after 12 partners then the problem is he's insecure! A womans body permits her to have a childs head pass for goodness sake so I think it can handle the "other stuff" too! I think your husband may have a hang up on his size and the fact that you have 12 partners. Which by the way is not alot. I think you too need to talk about what the real problem is. Maybe he has a physical problem that permits him to reach orgasm. Plus u never know if he is lying about getting there with his ex's. This may have been a problem he's had all his life. Also if you feel u cant do oral right, and he still wants to have an orgasm, then he should be more than willing to teach how he likes it.
Just my 2 cents.
2007-01-12 10:03:48 · answer #2 · answered by Trickle*** 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask him for specifics!!! Every person is different and what turns them on or what "works" for them is different as well. Try different things on him and see how it works, ask him to tell you when something feels really good and when something just isn't working. I honestly think that it sounds like there are more emotional problems here than there are physical. You make it a point to say how many partners that you have had and that he thinks you are loose because of it? that is ridiculous!! Sounds like he has issues with the amount of partners you have had and maybe feels that he won't be able to measure up so he is blaming it on you. Have you talked to him about all this??
2007-01-12 10:02:19 · answer #3 · answered by raewrn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a look at the history on your computer, go to tools, Internet options, browsing history, settings, view files. Scan down the list of Internet addresses and see if he's looking at porn sites and what kind. Could be he's just yankin the Franklin too much and that's what his body has gotten used to. Sorry girls, but most of you know, you can do it yourself better than someone can do it to you. This might also give you an idea of what he's into. Mostly, just talk to him. If he seems embarrassed, just keep asking what he would like, let him know you want to please him and are willing to try anything. As far as size or fit, there are exercises you can do to tone up that area. Kagels (spelling) are one form, there are also a form of vaginal barbells for lack of a better term that help tone up the muscles. Good luck, keep trying. He's lucky that you care.
2007-01-15 02:32:33 · answer #4 · answered by sparkletina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband told you you're loose? What a dick. (By the way, multiple partners won't make you loose. If that were true porn stars would be out of a job) He probably can't come because of psychological issues. He is either not into you or he is having an affair. Ask him to go to marital counseling. If he says no, leave him. This guy sounds seriously messed up in the head.
2007-01-12 10:25:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness are you serious? That has to be a terrible feeling.If he says your vagina is too loose why do he marry you? It may be other problems causing this. Do you think he might still have feelings for someone in his past? Because your vagina os one thing, but if you give him oral and it still doesnt help then that is a problem! I would talk to him and find out what it is blocking him mentally & emotionally. Then again it may not even be you! He may be impotent and trying to pass it off as it's you! Because if you cant satisfy him, then why would he marry you? I would definately ask him what it was that his ex's was doing to him sexually that you arent.
2007-01-12 10:00:24 · answer #6 · answered by Wisdom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you're blaming the wrong person. There is no such thing as a woman being "lose" down under. If he's so mentally challenged to believe such ignorance, it's your time to move on. It's not your fault he has a short stack. It's not you, it's definitely him! It seems like he's abusive if he has you believing all this crap, about not good enough oral. Maybe he's gay. Maybe all his "tight" exes made his penis smaller, I guess they are to blame. The vagina is a muscle, which can expand and contract, unless you were sleeping with litterally horses I don't think thats a human posibility. You need to get rid of this mentally, physically and sexually challenged thing you call your BF. Good luck.
2007-01-12 10:00:20 · answer #7 · answered by Brandnewshoes 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try kegal exercises to tighten up that thang. Get a book on tantric sex. Get a book on sexual massage. Give him a hand job. Try masterbating together, looking at porn together, etc. Sounds like you two just aren't engaging in enough foreplay. Orgasm is overrated. It's the fun of getting there girl! By the way, six inches isn't very big..so it's not all your fault!
2007-01-12 09:59:00 · answer #8 · answered by StrawberryShortcake 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
The way you describe the situation is that maybe he had too many exes..you will be even looser after having children maybe going to a sex Therapist would help in your situation,so make an appointment with one. Good luck!
2007-01-14 17:22:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a good boot to the head. This guy is sexually malfunctioning and it's your fault??? Oh no, that's not it at all honey. Don't buy into his shnit for one minute.
If he truly can't *** that's a medical problem. If he can't get it up, that's also a medical problem. Viagra is around for a reason.
Your not loose, his dick is just to small. Put the blame where it belongs.
2007-01-12 10:00:24 · answer #10 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It takes two to tango--is he doing his part. Asked him what is missing in your sexual relations. He is concentrating on you or is he thinking about his work, car, the bills unpaid, etc.
If you really love him tell him what your feeling are, and you want to know what can you do to change things.
Have you heard of Marriage Encounters, is it a great organization for couple who want to make their marriage stronger.
2007-01-12 10:06:42 · answer #11 · answered by D S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋