i live with my bf of 4yrs in a condo we rent. we split the household bills 50/50 and anytime we go out movies,diner ect we take turns paying.i work full time and so does he but i only work 4 days a week to his 5 days.the problem is he feels i should do the cleaning,grocery shopping,pay the bills,errands all on my day off.i don't feel this is fair since we split everything else we should split the house work.he always makes me feel guilty/lazy when i ask him to help with stuff and says things like why don't u do that on your day off.don't get me wrong he does help but not on a regular basis.i do all the laundry,bill paying,80% grocery shopping,cooking,and cleaning.most of the time when i ask him to do something he agrees but never gets around to do it,then after a few days of me nagging we get into a fight over it and he does it pissed off.or i just do it.so can anyone tell me what they do if they both work and each pay half of the bills?is this always the womens job even if she works?
2007-01-12 09:49:40 · 6 answers · asked by carrylucus567 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO, it is NOT just your job.
Split up the month. This week, his turn next wek yours.
My bf would stop and do all the shopping, only because he thinks we can live on lunch meat, lol but he also thinks and says he cleans house better than I do. But that won't stop me from trying to do my share.
Your not wrong. Have a heart to heart.
2007-01-12 09:57:12 · answer #1 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to always come down to being the woman's job (I have a feeling, even if you'd work 5 days, it would be the same); however, I noticed, the only time to really get him to do something (like laundry), is to just not do it...of course, you will hear forever, how he did this...you could just not go grocery shopping, and say, with all the house work, no time!!! If that doesn't work and he insists on the 'you work less' bla, bla, then get down and dirty with the percentage deal...take all the work, divide it into percentages, then tell him: this is your part, pick your chore, but you'll do it all the time. Tell him, you won't nag him about it, just don't do it even if the dirt, mess, whatever bugs you. He'll wake up!
2007-01-12 09:58:14 · answer #2 · answered by avechm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been together 26 years. He does his laundry, I do mine, I shop, cook he does dishes. He pays bills. I clean house. He works full time I work 4 days a week. We share some things. Compromise without nagging.
2007-01-12 09:59:59 · answer #3 · answered by ratth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you don't marry this man. I think it will only get worse. I am a stay at home mom and my husband still helps when I ask for it. And he never makes me feel guilty for not doing something. Think twice before moving forward with this relationship.
2007-01-12 09:58:25 · answer #4 · answered by An Inconvenient Thinker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont work and when my husband comes home i always make sur i leave atleast one thing for him to do. THATS 50/50 TOO! tell him to get off his lazy butt and help before you kick him in it!
dont ut up with that and dont allow him to control you because if you do it will neve change it will just get worse.
2007-01-16 09:46:17 · answer #5 · answered by teapea102 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats what men think women are for. go on strike
2007-01-14 16:19:58 · answer #6 · answered by junebug501 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋