my ex father in law ( I am now divorced) was a child abuser. He attempted sex with my former wife when she was a teenager. He tried it again 13 years into my marriage while my 7 year old was sleeping in the same room. He is a discusting creep, added to the demise of my first marriage and is and always will be what he is, discusting. My son is now 13, should he know about his grandfather? Should he know what this man is capable of ? Or should I just let it go as some have said. I think not, but just want an opinion or two to go with the counselors suggestions when we talk next week....
2007-01-12 09:46:16 · 6 answers · asked by hunter65 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What you do is personally tell your ex father in law that he is not to come close to your son, and that he is not welcome in your house.
Secondly, you tell your son that you do not approve of him being alone with his grandfather. If your son asks you why, you tell him the truth.
Of course, if your ex-wife has custody of your son, and your ex-wife is on good terms with her father, the situation becomes a bit complicated.
You are the father, and you have to be man, and do what is in the best interests of your son.
2007-01-12 09:54:19 · answer #1 · answered by Jack C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are that boy's father and your job is to be committed to him in every possible way. Keeping him out of harms way, seeing to it that he has the best possible guidance, and loving him. Absolutely, tell the young man the truth. Use no personal feelings, just talk with him about the facts. Let him feel the way he will feel, not walk away with your feelings as an influence. He should be aware of this for his own benefit and so he can watch out for the safety and tender care of others younger than he is that he loves. Oh, I don't envy you but I do believe in you. Make it a man to man talk. Just the two of you, totally honest and there will be only respect between you both!
2007-01-12 09:57:25 · answer #2 · answered by enjoyrselves 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if the discusting creep is into girls, but you never really know, so YES..........I'd of course tell your son about his grandfather.
He is old enough to understand what is normal and what is not.
IF your not sure of the grandfathers sex preference, then, you have to be careful for the son too!
Why isn't this man behind bars??
2007-01-12 09:52:39 · answer #3 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him. Children are so ego focused that he will internalize it and make it about himself. I think he should know, but in time. For the record, I am so sorry for your situation. I hope any visitation with this monster are supervised if at all. Good luck!
2007-01-12 09:55:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not volunteer any information, but if he asks questions I would be brutally honest.
2007-01-12 09:50:56 · answer #5 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should sit down with him and tell him. if you don't your son will just get mad when he finds out for you not telling him.
2007-01-12 09:52:46 · answer #6 · answered by lexi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋