ok so my girlfriend is pregnant... and shes thrownin around the word abortion alot... what should i do? I'll support her i dont want her to destroy my first child... uh im sooo confused.
2007-01-12 09:44:27 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i think its ridiculous that a woman can go out and kill her unborn child and the father not have a say so in the decision. i understand, being a woman myself, that its their body, but if you choose to have sex their is always the chance for a pregnancy to occur. there are many other options out there if she doesn't want the baby. like the father caring for the child or adoption. talk to her about it and let her know how you feel. this is your baby too. you SHOULD have a say so in the choice.
2007-01-12 09:51:42 · answer #1 · answered by happychick 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel. You don't have come down on her for thinking about all of her options, but remind her that the decision should be made between the two of you. It is not her decision alone. It is not just an embryo. It is a life from the moment of conception. Be supportive of her, but just let her know that abortion is not something to be taken lightly and that the two of you should talk this out and make the decision together.
2007-01-12 17:57:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ultimately, whether or not she is going to carry a fetus full-term inside her own body is her decision. However, if the idea of abortion really upsets you, you can sue her to force her to carry the child full-term and then you will raise it on your own. That is an expensive and not often successful method of stopping an abortion, however.
Does she really want to get rid of it, or is she afraid you won't help her out or that she might experience some economic or social set-backs? Have you two gone to speak to a rabbi or other clergy or a counsellor about your situation, feelings, and options? You are definitely in a very difficult situation. Good luck.
2007-01-12 17:51:51 · answer #3 · answered by Shivakumar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all i would like to say its great that you are willing to support her. There are plenty of guys out there who walk out the moment they here the work pregnant. Second you need to sit down and talk with her and tell her how you feel about all of this. Raising a child is not easy it takes alot of patients and hard work. There are also more options other then abortoin. There is alway adoption or if she has a family member that will help you guys out. There is a lot to think about.
2007-01-12 17:57:14 · answer #4 · answered by redhot_001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about your other options. Like having the child or adoption. As for abortion, and the taboo around it, Studies have shown that close to 65% of pro lifers have had an abortion in their life.
Just have her educate herself on all her options before deciding.
2007-01-12 17:48:55 · answer #5 · answered by s7e28w81 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to talk to her. Abortions are not a good choice, in my opinion. If you really want to keep this baby...your baby....then you need to be firm with her, and let her know EXACTLY how you feel. That is a life inside her, not just some babydoll that you can decide to throw away when ready to. Just sit down and talk to her, calmly....don't argue or fight...it will probably just make it worse. Good Luck, and congrats....babies are wonderful.
2007-01-12 17:49:03 · answer #6 · answered by Denise D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all good for you for wanting to take care of your child. You're a responsible person. Secondly talk to your girlfried. Let her know how you're feeling, and talk amongst yourselves to come to some sort of conclusion. Try not to argue about it, and make sure that she knows that you're going to be there for her. She may be afraid that you're going to leave her.
Babies are such a wonderful wonderful thing. They change your life even as they're growing in your tummy. You start to think of all the things that they could potentially be, and you get to nurture that. :) good luck to you.
2007-01-12 17:54:58 · answer #7 · answered by flycreature 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain. I think pro-choice is unfair to the father but at this point there are no laws to protect the fact that the unborn child is 1/2 the mans. all you can do is talk to her and be supportive and pray for the best. however you have to be responsible for that child if in fact she chooses not to for you.
2007-01-12 17:52:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sit her down and talk to her, make sure she knows that you will support her and the child to the best of your ability. Make sure your feelings are known, and make sure she knows how important this is to you.
But you also have to sit down and weigh the pros and cons of this, too. Think it through entirely (I'm not condoning anything, I just want to make sure you know what you want) and then sit down, discuss it rationally.
Good luck.
2007-01-12 21:41:23 · answer #9 · answered by Paige D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her. Tell her that it's your child too and not sure you want her to abort it. You might seriously consider counseling for the 2 of you.
2007-01-12 17:49:59 · answer #10 · answered by farmersdaughter 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋