Only problem is he is out on bail since september and is not supposed to contact or approach me but we have met up and we speak/txt daily. I went away for while to sort my head out and am due back to refuge shortly. I want to be with him but not sure if it the right thing to do. I love him and afraid of him at same time. My family are fuming as they found out i was talking with him they keep telling me he will kill me next time but i know that so long as i don't talk to or hug other people we will be fine and most of all i lost without him. They cited me to go court and i cant face doing that to him i love him and afraid that he will end up doing time
2007-01-12 09:30:25 · 18 answers · asked by lynscrazyworld 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ouch.
2007-01-12 09:33:42 · answer #1 · answered by Bluntness 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really feel for you, I have been there and I can tell you from experience he will never change. You will go on fogiving him and he will probably go on hurting you.
You could ask him to get Anger Management Counselling and maybe the two of you could go for counselling.
You have to ask yourself if you really love him, or has he broken you down so much that you dont think anyone else will love you?
Emotionally these kind of people can manipulate, and at the moment he is all sweetness and light, but it wont stay that way, you and I both know that.
I suggest that you stay away from each other until you have both had some help. You need some counselling to empower yourself and get free of this behaviour.
I wish you all the best, but ultimately until you both get help this relationship is not going anywhere.
2007-01-12 09:47:33 · answer #2 · answered by Denise H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you have some sort of dependency on this guy. Trust me when I say that the best thing that you can do is stay away, and start a life with out him. I know that when you are in love, you can do some of the stupidest things, and let him get away with doing some of the worst things to you. It sounds like you think that if you dont talk to another guy for the rest of your life, things will be fine. I promise you they wont. If a guy is willing to hurt you and wants to control you in such a way, he will find a way to take everything from you. I know that it seems like you'll die if you leave him, but you will survive. You will continue to breathe and your life will go on, so go live it----WITHOUT HIM!
2007-01-12 09:38:06 · answer #3 · answered by kellie_new_mom25 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really know what you should be doing but do not want to face up to it, this fellow must have hurt you before and he will again, run as far away as you can and trust your family they do know what is best for you. You will have a hell of a life if you tangle up with this person again. Please dump him you do not love him how can you love someone like him.
2007-01-12 10:12:35 · answer #4 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOVE YOURSELF MORE! Stay away from him . I was in a relationship just like that and it was hard to get out and stay out. But he had to leave the State and stay away from me or the authorities were going to put him away for a long time. It took me finding me again and realizing how much damage he had done to me. I had to heal and now I wouldn't talk to him for anything. He doesn't deserve to ever hear my voice again for the way he treated me. It isn't real love sweetie. Please believe me. Pray god will help heal your pain.
2007-01-12 09:38:08 · answer #5 · answered by holliemay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T take him back...he abused you didn't he?...if you do this then he's going to do it all over again...why are you doing this...do you want your family upset with you again?....just forget him, if this man loved you he would not be beating you up all the time....move on....i cant believe you are still talking to this guy....let him do time...he deserves to be in jail....and he's a woman beater....a coward is what i would call him...you must be crazy to even think about taking him back...are you a glutton for punishment?
2007-01-12 10:02:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a serious post? After reading your first sentence i figure moving on is the best thing to do. Don't settle for the felon...you are really setting your standards to low. Up your self esteem and create a healthy environment for yourself.
2007-01-12 09:36:26 · answer #7 · answered by Petra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your family has a right to be fumeing!! STOP right now being an enabeler to abusive men! They have no rights doing what they do to women!
STOP now and don't go back to him.
You really need to go where there is a place for you to see real actual beat up half dead women. Really...you do! It makes you stop and think.
2007-01-12 09:35:58 · answer #8 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I refuse to believe that anyone who is clever enough to use a computer is stupid enough to write this. It can't be true, because if it is, you are the stupidest woman I have ever communicated with, and I'm sorry to say you are probably going to die at this mans hands, but hey, long as you don't talk to or touch anyone else........you're kinda dead already aint you?
This has got to be a wind up. You need help, because you and REALITY are not well enough aquainted.
2007-01-12 09:36:36 · answer #9 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I get the feeling that this man has hurt you before. If he truely loved you, he wouldn't hurt you. You don't need his type of love. If you are having doubts, it's not the right thing to do. Follow your gut instinct and stay away from him.
2007-01-12 09:34:51 · answer #10 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would not let him back into your life as if he hurt you bad before there is no doubt hed do it again you would lose all your friends and family and also your dignaty please dont do it girl not only has this man been to prison he is also deep down very angry and could seriously hurt you or even maybe kill you it will be hard at first but why waste any more time effort and life on this man.
you are putting yourself in great danger and also your family and friend or any siblings you may have please please please dont go back with him your making a huge mistake.
2007-01-12 09:41:24 · answer #11 · answered by gunnermarie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋