My friend Alicia has tried so hard to stay away from this man.... I really care about my friend and i don't want to see her hurt because they are both married... She was involved when she was single and he was married but now she is married too.. she says she is happy with her husband but there is just something that attracts her so much to this guy... I really don't know what else to tell her but to try to stop seeing him... but she just won't. Please maybe she needs psychological help, what do you think?
2007-01-12 09:09:12 · 9 answers · asked by My dreams are my sanity 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
But how to push this other guy away... he like takes her off her feet
2007-01-12 09:16:52 · update #1
Hmmm... I actually get this feeling every once in a while, I have to admit, but not with the same guy over and over and not with returned attraction.
Sometimes we feel attraction towards other people when we are involved because we want something different in our lives instead of what we're always used to. Sometimes it's because we think someone else has something that our partners lack. Sometimes just because we're curious. And sometimes we just like the fact that we're being liked.
I think she can talk to him and stuff as long as it doesn't go any further. Because no matter how much she likes him, if they end up doing something, there will be nothing that will make the guilt go away for the rest of her life.
2007-01-12 10:15:03 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has gotten away from morals. This kind of thing was never so popular a while ago. No one cares about marriage and being faithful now. If she really loves her husband she wouldn't want to be with this guy. Obviously it isn't real love.
2007-01-12 09:14:12 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel C 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so involved in your friend's life that you cannot allow her to make her own decisions? After all, it IS HER life, not yours. You are not responsible for what she does. We all are responsible for our own decisions and the consequences that come with them.
Perhaps you should focus more on you and your own life, what you want out of it - and how you can be the best YOU. Of COURSE you do not want to see your friend hurt. But back off. Let her live her life. If she gets hurt, she gets hurt. She has her own karma and her own lessons to learn. Perhaps one of the things she has to teach you is detachment from what is not yours.
2007-01-12 09:16:49 · answer #3 · answered by Alice laughing 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe there's something her husband isn't giving her - she may well love him, but in alot of cases it's the thrill factor. Get her to spice up her life with her husband! If she really loves him then she wouldn't be thinking about someone else.
2007-01-12 09:14:07 · answer #4 · answered by cheesemonkeymonkeycheese 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She "says" she is happy but she isn't. I don't believe that you love your other half if you would go as far as to have an intimate relationship with someone else. Obviously she doesn't love her husband anymore. If you are in love, you wouldn't think about it.
2007-01-12 09:13:19 · answer #5 · answered by Esther 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's a question of what he gives her. What role in her life does he fulfill?
2007-01-12 09:14:20 · answer #6 · answered by Eric E 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's instincts. it makes you want to either mate with as many people as you can or mate with the best one around
2007-01-12 09:13:23 · answer #7 · answered by Jonas_83 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hook the guy up with hot chick.
2007-01-12 09:18:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ain't nuttin wrong with a little strange now and den.
2007-01-12 09:11:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋