why do men ignore their wives?what causes men to become emotionally distant?and why women long for closeness?

Answer 1

Maybe they have nagging wives!

Answer 2

This is the way I see it, as this was my question several years ago when I was still married. I don't feel that we as men are ignoring our wives, we are just comfortable in the relationship. We become emotionally distant, only when we tire of talking (dealing) with something over and over again, and this is because we are comfortable. Our women long for closeness, because basically in our comfort zone, we are ignoring them and their needs. What they need might be a simple conversation, or a date night (without the kids), and basically it comes down to wanting to be heard and understood by the man they love. Take the time to listen, it's easy and could save your relationship.

Answer 3

I think men ignore their wives because they are stressed from working 10-12 hours a day to provide for his family. Men don't want to hear women complain as soon as they walk in the door. Men need to sit down in front of the tv when they come home so they can zone out for a while. If he is emotionally distant maybe something is bothering him. Women long for closeness because they want to feel like they are appreciated for what they do all day. They want to feel loved and important.

Answer 4

for some men ignore their wives to avoid an confrontation,they become emotionally distant because that is the big man in them you know they are so moncho and they can handle anything and nothing can make them show that they are emotional it's OK. It's just something that some women long for maybe it's where they never had that close relationship with their Father and they want it from their husband/ male partner to get what they missed from the earlier years in their life I'm just guessing I don't now because I don't long for closeness from nobody but God.

Answer 5

Not all men ignore their wives. Something occurred for this to happen, i.e. cheating, falling out of love, conflicts, stress.

Men become emotionally distant only when something traumatic happens to them, between them and their wife, or they don't have the same feelings anymore.

Women long for closeness because it's in our nature. We strive for attention and love because that's how we grew up. Men are expected to be less emotional than women.

Answer 6

Other women, a nagging wife and a busy schedule at work causes men to be emotionally distant to their wives. Wives long for closeness from their husbands because they've been used to it when they were still sweethearts.

Answer 7

The question you ponder is not generalized to "men" or "women". The question concerns relationships in general, not in gender. If you are being ignored and emotionally deprived, then it is not uncommon to "long" for closeness. Most people long for some sort of bonding with another human, whether it be personal or societal. If you are living in a relationship that is void of what you expect, then the answer is to leave it. That may sound too simple to make sense, but life is short and you should not take up your time complaining if you are not happy with the way things are; only you have control of your happiness.

Answer 8

First of all, that's generalizing...
In this era, men and women are having the same problem...
finding common ground.
(I personally think)... human beings take things for granted to easily. I have her or him so, why should I continue the effort.
We put so much effort at the beginning but, it fades away with time. WHY... because we don't feel the fear of loosing the other person anymore. That's what i call, taking for granted.
At the beginning, we go out, we give compliments, we talk for hours, buy flowers, we sleep super late at night together, and etc...
Once we are married and secured, we start taking our relationship for granted and stop doing these efforts. then we ask ourselves ( why did he or she change).
They didn't change, YOU CHANGED. YOU stopped doing the efforts, YOU stopped being passionate.
Instead of putting some effort into our couple, we chose the easy way. We go out there and satisfy our needs elsewhere without realizing that we are falling into a sad pattern or we are risking to lose the one we really love.
My advice : life is precious, take care of your loved ones like it was the last day you had on earth.
Good luck and live life to the fullest.

Answer 9

Most Men equate love with provision and substance! How he keeps you and what he buys you! The nurturing spirit in a woman is the reason that we long for closeness!! Men sometimes distant themselves when they have expereince a personal failure or let down! If could be a promotion on the job or the raise he thought he should have gotten!! Men like to appear to be there wives and saughters hero!! If they have fail its hard for them to get close when they feel they have fail you!! You should talk to him about it and let him know that you need to feel connected to him again!! If he is completely opposed of the idea something else could be going on!

Answer 10

The gate swings both ways. What cause women to lose interest in their man? What causes a women to lose all sexual interest? What cause a women to accept all of the compliments in the world, but rarely return the gestures?

When you can answer these, you have your answer. It's a two-way street. Both husband and wife can feel the same way. When one starts to ignore the other, the other feels more degraded than ever. This makes it hard to make the playing field level again.

Answer 11

Men do not respond to needy women very well. It might be a simple as an issue of controle. When he wants to talk to you, do you hang on every word? Jesus came to this world to set people free. Give him some space. Maybe when he feels the draft, he will shift gears. Praise God sister set the day free. Haven't you ever noticed that when your on the telephone he and the children are in your face? Just relax...shift your gears. Don't need him sooo much. It's all good.