It seems they have spent so many years doing their own thing that they don't want to change even when they marry. They also don't seem to need one another anymore with the availability of sex without committment and with women being so independent that they don't depend on men anymore. It seems that marriages lasted longer when the couple depending on each other for things that were not so easily available as they are today.
2007-01-12 08:47:25 · 10 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I never really thought about it. I guess that's true. Some people just don't hold marriage as sacred anymore.
2007-01-12 08:51:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You're absolutely right - those of us who are still unmarried late in life are reluctant to compromise on what we want.
And that's not a bad thing - that's a good thing!
And I'm glad that women my age are independent, so they don't have to marry a guy just to pay the bills - I actually like independnet women I don't like women who are totally dependent on some guy!
Yes, back in the day when men didn't know how to do our own laundry and women HAD to get married because they weren't allowed to have good jobs people had no choice but to stay married.
And things really sucked because of it!
Men either cheated or drank or beat their wives or all three.
And women had to suck it up and take the abuse with a smile.
Things are different now - women are independent and people don't have to get married if we don't want to
AND THANK GOD FOR THAT!!!!
2007-01-12 16:57:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mmm, no. I'm putting off marriage for as long as possible - or at least until I meet someone I know is wonderful - and don't really care if I ever get married. I don't see how it reflects on one's ability to 'compromise.' I teach for a living and compromise with 25 students every day. Historically, the ones who had to 'compromise,' or give things up, in marriage were women because if their husbands threw them out on their a.sses, they wouldn't be able to support themselves or go to school. And they were tied down with kids all day and couldn't do what they wanted even if they had the chance. Women have compromised their freedoms for the totally ridiculous and unnecessary commitment of 'marriage.'
The single life is great. Living by oneself and taking care of one's own business and not having somebody else around bothering you and taking up your time is great. Women should not have to depend on men. Men never depended on women for anything more than to raise their children for them and do their dirty work.
2007-01-12 16:58:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
While it is true that people tend to become "set in their ways" as they get older, I believe that it is beneficial for a couple to marry when they are older. My first marriage lasted 10 years but began when I was barely 20. As time went on, my ex (and I guess myself as well) felt that he had never done the things that he wanted to do. So, he left to go do those things. Devastating yes... A learning experience, definitely! I did my own thing for a couple of years and "refound myself". Then I met a man almost 8 years older than myself who had spent a lot of time "doing his thing" too. We both have our opinions, but are both grateful for our experiences and that life brought us together at this time in our lives.
2007-01-12 16:57:24 · answer #4 · answered by SchrodingersTigress 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The research doesn't back you up at all. Actually, marriages at older ages tend to last longer than people who get married young. Maybe it has something to do with sowing your oats and gaining a little maturity before you enter into marriage.
2007-01-12 16:57:55 · answer #5 · answered by silverside 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you will find that marriages lasted longer in times gone by because it wasn't the done thing to be a divorcee. It was usually the wife that suffered, in the more male dominated world. Thank God things have changed and people have more freedom to make better choices.
2007-01-12 16:55:34 · answer #6 · answered by samootch 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so , you got your wild life behind you, you are ready to settle down. You like to have a marriage that you have to depend on their salary , so can make it?. Wouldn't it be better to have or already have the things in life you need and sit back and enjoy them. If one party get sick or something you don't have to worry about how are you going to pay the bills.
2007-01-12 16:56:38 · answer #7 · answered by Nicki 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
totally agree - if they deliberate to long about marriage then they are thinking about it too much - if it is to be then get on with it if not then get on with your life - you should know in an instant
2007-01-12 16:50:43 · answer #8 · answered by boo 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I agree!
2007-01-12 16:52:02 · answer #9 · answered by Bryan's Wife 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
it is not a rule
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2007-01-12 16:52:09 · answer #10 · answered by mr johnson 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋