i am am pregnant with my fourth baby and i had the last two c-section. the first one was an emergency and i passed out from the shock of them moving my insides around. my husband thought i died. the second time i told them to knock me out first and told my husband that unless he wanted to he did not have to be in the room while they did the c-section, because i would be knocked out anyway. i plan to do the same this time. i dont want my husband to think that i dont want him in the room, but i dont want him to be in there if it will upset him to see me unconcsious. am i wrong for giving him a choice to wait with my family instead of making him be in the operating room with me?
2007-01-12 08:27:55 · 13 answers · asked by Thumbs down me now 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
no thats great shows you consider him at a time thats hard for you, also he can be more comfortable with his choice, you can still be together without been in the same room
2007-01-12 08:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by da rinse mode 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No your not wrong.. however he may assume the choice you gave him was you telling him not to be in the room. I know my fiance would see it that way. Just be sure to make it VERY clear to him that you want him there to see the birth of your baby but if he if would rather wait with the family because it would upset him to see you knocked out than you completely understand. Dont let there be any doubt in his mind. Good Luck and Congrats
2007-01-12 08:40:55 · answer #2 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The thing is, you're giving him a choice which is very noble of you ^_^. Most girls would be extremes on both ends of the spectrum...either being A)Wait here with me (No questions), or B)I don't want you to see this etc. etc. At least you're staying level headed about this and offering him a choice.
In fact me and my gf have talked about this and she gave me a choice as well...but I chose the latter, to stay with her the whole way. It's good to have a heads up about this early to prepare. But I dont' plan to have kids until I'm like...30 or something haha. Quite a ways left to go ^_^.
Birth is an amazing process, C-section or not and because girls get over excited and paniced, they tend to over react when it comes to who can see it happen etc. Good to see you give him a choice at least.
2007-01-12 08:43:37 · answer #3 · answered by kam_fl.kevyn06 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not an expectant father but...........
As far as giving him the choice....I think that is very good of you to offer that up to him. If he is squimish and it upsets him, then it is great that you let him know that he can wait outside without upsetting you in any way.
As far as him possibly thinking that you don't want him in there, just be honest with him and say flat out "if you want to be in there I'm very happy to have you there, just don't stay for my sake alone" he will get the picture. He may find it important to be there when his child is born, so he knows it really is up to him.
Congrats on the new little one on the way!
2007-01-12 08:34:30 · answer #4 · answered by Just Me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so... just let him know you want him to make the choice. My cousin had to have her son C-section 7 yrs ago and her husband still talks about how it freaked him out to see her "out of it" on the table with the doctor digging inside. He said he doesn't want to do it again, so I would definitely let your hubby decide. You never know, he may be hoping you'll "let him off the hook." Sure, it's exciting to see your baby come into the world, but... sometimes its not what's best.
2007-01-12 08:35:09 · answer #5 · answered by missionhtg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered that maybe he's come to terms with knowing that you will voluntarily not be conscious, and he does want to see his baby being born? Maybe he wants you to want him there, it is a very important moment in both your lives. If you're giving him the option, and not expecting him to chose not to be there, then it's fine.
2007-01-12 08:32:02 · answer #6 · answered by Brandnewshoes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think so- give him the choice, but tell him why-- tell him that you want to be knocked out and you dont want him to get upset seeing you out like that. if he is ok with it would you be ok with it? let him decide if you dont care
2007-01-12 08:34:22 · answer #7 · answered by bourke 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to be with you at the birth of the child.
Let grandma/grandpa watch your other little ones in the waiting room.
Dad needs to be with the new baby when it's born.
2007-01-12 08:31:35 · answer #8 · answered by phamy76 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
by giving him a choice you leave it up to him. That is the smart choice
2007-01-12 08:37:37 · answer #9 · answered by David S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you are giving him a choice. What's wrong with that.
2007-01-12 08:30:17 · answer #10 · answered by Jen G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋