Iv been with my bf for 3yrs now ....if it was just me and him the relationship would be GREAT!!!...but his mother has a problem with my nationality and my financial status.(which i'm currently in college for!!).His mother really wants him to get back with his ex...because she's been suggesting hints of her nationality, major , and she even has a picture of both of them in her wallet showing it off to other people which obviously comes back to me. the ex is very close with his family and constantly writes" i love you messages even though you broke my heart but i respect your current girlfriend" and lyric from other songs like Maria carey " dont forget about us" song kinda notes.!!! i dont now what to do cuz i feel like i have to compete and ive spoken to him about it but he says to trust him... but how can i when he's just letting it happen???? Please Help I'm starting to hate them and i dont want that to happen
2007-01-12 08:24:37 · 6 answers · asked by Happygolucky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I wanted to answer this, but now that I have started I am a blank.
You can't get the ex. out of the picture because everyone seems to like her in your question.I wonder why they broke up in the first place ?? Your nationality may be an issue all right and I think that ts because we just don't understand you. I have that issue in my family.My daughter in law was offended by things I said in a conversation around the kitchen table and weeks later I found out we wern't welcome in her house anymore because I had offended her. I had no idea.That action of hers has changed our family forever.I resent her for that. I want their marriage to work however because they love each other and they have 3 beautiful children. We have been so kind to her and we feel she wanted an axe to grinde or she wouldn't have found one.I pray to God to keep us all united. Good luck to you & don't stir up st----, the more you do the more it stinks. Love endures all things.~~Jill
2007-01-12 09:31:24 · answer #1 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats the trouble with ex's, everyone has them seems like and not just has them has them in a major way. I cant really answer your question but I do know my boyfriend is in the same situation you are and I feel really bad for him and I to like your boyfriend just tell him to trust me and know that I love him(current one). but if I were to be in his shoes I would just wanna puke and probly would cause a lot more havic then he does so I give him and you a lot of credit and cant say I would be as mature on this subject. The other thing I wanted to say was this is why Divorce and taking sexual relationships for granted and lightly is a major problem in todays society we need to get back to the old ways where you basically only had a few light relationships prior to a life long marriage and all these situations would be eliminated and not just the adults that suffer the children to, and the product of children because of this that will be running our next generations are all screwed up and angry, I wish I could be of more help the only thing I can really suggest is before you actually do start loosing your feelings starts showing him a difference in your actions like seeming down, or withdrawn twords being excited about the relationship or eachother and explain why and have a talk again and say this is the last time or close to that you'll be mentioning this before doing something about it. He also needs to make his mother respect his decisions and tell her what hurts you and that if she doesnt stop have him withdrawl his time and attention from her until it changes or it never will, one more thing maybe he is taking his time with it because you guys are taking your time becoming for sure so to speak I mean I dont know thats the case but maybe I mean have you made plans to be married? do you live together maybe he doesnt want to go to all that trouble if he doesnt see a concrete reason yet, that isnt meant to sound cruel or like he doesnt care at all but you know how relationships go these days, good luck Kim
2007-01-12 16:35:34 · answer #2 · answered by KIMBUR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either you can grin and bear it, believe him, or let the hate manifest and tell all the sick f u c k s where they can go. I personally don't think I would be able to put up with such bull. You have to confront him again and be very very serious about what you want and don't back down. If he doesn't comply cut your losses and move on you deserve happiness and this is not a happy situation.
2007-01-12 16:32:29 · answer #3 · answered by nina_ross692000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut the ex completely off, and bake the mother a cake.
2007-01-12 16:28:16 · answer #4 · answered by L R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tpp late for that... get out... if he doesnt respect you enough to not speak to her at all and tell his mom to too then he's not ever going to... it is unfortunate but he will end up with the other one and you will end up even more hurt!! good luck
2007-01-12 16:28:51 · answer #5 · answered by kellbelle21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out!! You deserve no issues, DUMP him.
2007-01-12 16:28:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋