Just to clarifiy he is 28 years old and a homeowner. We are'nt a bunch of teeny boppers. HELP!
2007-01-12 08:17:34 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Gaming is actually very popular among adults in their 20s and 30s because they have the income to afford such games. Also, you have to remember that adults in this age range were raised in the video game era so it's not uncommon. My husband is 34 and is really on the borderline of being a gaming addict. When I noticed that his gaming was starting to affect our quality time together, we had a long talk about it. I let him know how I felt about him playing games everying evening form the time he comes home to he goes to bed everynight. Now he spends some time with me each evening and some time playing games. I also started a hobby myself so while he's playing games and can partake in something that is of interest to me. Whenever I see his gaming becoming a problem, we just revisit our discussion. Just because he likes to game, doesn't mean he's inmature. As long as family, work, and home are well balanced, there's nothing wrong with gaming.
2007-01-12 08:28:41 · answer #1 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude honestly if the guy is addicted to it leave it be , or at least try to get interrested in some of the stuff that he likes too I am quite sure that if you play for a little bit you will see that is a lot of fun and plus the guy is not cheating on you with another chick see me and my boyfriend both play the game and this ended up to be a very good pastime for the both of us so I think you should consider showing some interest for the things that he likes and like this you might find out that the game maybe amongst other things that interrest him might bring you guys a bit closer than further apart
2007-01-12 09:14:24 · answer #2 · answered by Luna23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming this is a computer game???
Let's talk about addictions, because such things, when carried to excess are indeed addictions, and are as is any addiction, used beyond reasonable time. Alcohol, computer porn, nicotine, gambling, sex, and yes, computer games. It is one thing to come home from work and play for an hour to unwind, maybe even with a beer before dinner. But if your honey, then goes back and plays from that time until it is time to crash, goes to work the next day, and does the same thing, and this is a pattern of playing this game for more hours that he does about anything else but work, hon, you have an addict, and as such, he is already in a relationship, it just isn't with you. Game addiction, from what I understand, have read, and have talked to my friend who is a marriage/sex therapist, states that it isn't nearly as addictive as is computer porn, so perhaps, you're lucky. Gamers usually tire of it, but they then go to other games, and unless they can see what a colossal amount of time they are wasting, you have a problem if you hope to be number one in his life.... Addicts tend to take on other addictions....
How can YOU break him of it? You can't ..... HE has to see that it is a problem, and HE needs to decide that it is taking up too much of his life, and HE has to decide to get into a few sessions of counseling.... maybe he can, and maybe he can't. If it were computer porn, forget it... that one isn't even treatable.... AA has better luck ending a drinking problem than any counselor has ever had with computer porn addiction....
2007-01-12 08:44:44 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a little suggestion, and I don't know what you're talking about, but have you tried it? Or at least tried something you both may enjoy along the same lines? Married people have much bigger problems is all I'm saying. I understand you may want to spend more time with him, and if that's the case, it's partly your responsibility to find something he likes to do with you better.
2007-01-12 08:27:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate world of warcraft! My boyfriend sometimes stays up all night playing it and I have to yell at him to turn down the stupid sound effects! Sometimes I look at the bright side and think, well at least I have some alone time now.
2007-01-12 08:23:26 · answer #5 · answered by me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you cant break the obsession, you should try playing the game with him. you can work on your relationship through this game.. may even be able to socialise more with him. yeah its only a game.. but through this game, we are able to learn how to trust, be reliable.. be a teamworker, leadership skills etc.. world of warcraft isn't that bad; as compared to other types of obsessions
its only a phase.. dw he'll get over it.
2007-01-12 17:50:44 · answer #6 · answered by k4talwayz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend and I both play, but it still bugs me that the game can get in the way. When it does, I just say, "Hey, you need to get off and pay attention to me." Usually he does, and if he doesn't there is hell to pay. Just make sure there is hell to pay if he doesn't get off. You're more important than a game.
2007-01-12 08:44:40 · answer #7 · answered by Pastorale 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cant beat him, join him. Ask him to teach you how to play. I asked my husband to teach my Gears of War, and now we play together. Just think, it is better that he is at home playing that game, instead of out fooling around on you.
2007-01-12 08:41:40 · answer #8 · answered by Kari R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha... my husband was into that for awhile (he is 28, I'm 26) He will lose interest!
2007-01-12 08:21:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use the parental controls to limit his time on WoW.
2007-01-12 10:05:45 · answer #10 · answered by Evolu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋