Husband chatting online. Calls girls from other cointries. Shares pictures. Denies he is married. Justifies his actions becasue the girls are in other countries and he thinks it's ok becasue they are not someone he will ever meet. Tells the girls they are hot and he could fall in love with them. Only chats with them 2 or 3 times and deletes them from his list. Won't chat in front of me. Gets mad at me if I try to talk to any of these girls and tell them the truth. He says he only chats becasue he is bored and wants to make some fun. He says he is just playing. Am I wrong to be hurt by this? Or is he wrong for doing it?
2007-01-12 08:14:02 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he is wrong or doing it. it is emotional cheating. why cant he do something fun with you?
2007-01-12 08:27:04 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I belive that when he goes as far as to almost profess his love for someone, when he's already made a life long commitment to you, crosses the line. When you tell him that you are not happy with this situation, and he continues it, it's a blatant disregard for your relationship and feelings. It's not ok, and it's not acceptable. Something has to change. You are not wrong about this, and who's to say these girls are really in another country, he's acting like he's single, maybe he should be single. He should step up and take his marriage more seriously.
2007-01-12 08:24:29 · answer #2 · answered by Brandnewshoes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't tolerate any of that. He's being dishonest to them, and he's probably not telling you everything either. If I were you, i wouln't stay with someone i can't trust. He says that he will never meet the girls from other countries but what makes you think that he doesn't have anyone "in country". It's not fair to you to worry about what your husband does online or anywhere else. Don't let him disrespect you.
2007-01-12 08:22:54 · answer #3 · answered by K9Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is very wrong for doing this. He is disrespecting you and your marriage. If I were you, I would give him a choice...you or the girls on the computer. That's terrible. He sounds like an insensitive jerk! You have every right to feel hurt by his actions. Maybe suggest counseling. If he isn't willing, I would highly question your relationship. Good luck. :)
2007-01-12 08:19:16 · answer #4 · answered by ANGEL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, its very wrong. if he is bored, tell him to get a second job or get a freaking hobby. he better start acting like a man, you tell him that. if he is not willing to stop this because it's annoying and hurting you, then he needs to GO!!! f*** guys like that. my ex used to do that and tried to make excuses as to why thats ok...and you know what happened?? he cheated, not once but a few times. and let me tell you, he is not only talking to girls from other countries...why waste his time on someone he will probably never meet. tell him to shape up or ship out
2007-01-12 08:19:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. You are not wrong in feeling hurt.
2. He's a moron and wrong for doing this.
3. I take it you have a typical Islamic marriage where your opinion really doesn't matter. I'm making this assumption based upon your profile. So if that is the case I would imagine you're not going to get him to see this your way.
However should you be able to pull that off I hope it works for you. Good luck
2007-01-12 08:19:10 · answer #6 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your right to be hurt by this & yes he's wrong for this. He shouldn't be chatting to other girls telling them they're hot & he could fall in love with them, would he do it, if he meet them in real life?
2007-01-12 08:19:39 · answer #7 · answered by oreo7504 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you have every right to be hurt. and he is doing wrong. if he denies his marriage online, he could be doing it in person. and he could possibly meet one of those girls but just lying to you.
2007-01-12 08:18:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are right. He is wrong for doing it. If he is bored maybe he should find a different hobby that doesn't offend you.
2007-01-12 08:18:38 · answer #9 · answered by bewitching_green_fairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone that talks about cheating has already cheated in their own hearts.
2007-01-12 08:19:19 · answer #10 · answered by last_of_the_romantic_men 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋