My man's ex still calls him even though he thinks I don't know this. Just a month ago, she's telling me she's going to get him to leave me and go to her, so I know she's not just dropped out of sight like that. I'm wondering if she knows he married me. If she knows would she continue to keep calling or disappear. The next time I see her number on his phone should I call her and let her know he is now married. I don't know if this would fuel her even more. This would be my way of knowing if my man is still keeping doors open with her. (how unfortunate) I guess I'm also wondering if an ex would still try to stay in the picture if they know he's married now?
2007-01-12 08:03:54 · 13 answers · asked by stella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She's not the only woman you're competing with. You're competing with women you don't even know exist. You'll never know some of them exist, either. Your responsibility as a wife lies in doing your part to keep the communication channels so open that you always know better than the competition what your husband wants.
The problem isn't that this woman is calling. Some women are desperate and will get with any man they can. The problem is the reason he even talks to her. You need to know. Use tact, be patient, and make him feel good about himself when you try to find out.
2007-01-12 08:17:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are there children between them? If there is, then there will always be contact between them. If there are no children, there is no reason for them to keep in touch, in this case. In some cases, ex wives and husbands can be friends, but not when one is trying to get the other away from his new partner.
I would talk to my husband and let him know how I felt and what exactly was going on. Also, let him know what his ex said about getting him to leave you. He should respect you enough to put an end to this. He is the one who should speak to her. If that does not work, then you should have a long talk with her. If he does not want to speak to her, then I would question his sincerity and his commitment to you. Then ask him right out if he still wants the door open for her.
Get things out in the open.
2007-01-12 08:20:28 · answer #2 · answered by coolkatt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should put a stop to this, not you. It's not your responsiblity. The fact that he has not makes me wonder if he's still seeing her from time to time or at least keeping his options open. The fact that he's never brought it up to you ought to be a big red flag. If you call her, then you look like a desperate, whiny woman (unfortunate, but true). He's the one that needs to tell his ex to stuff it.
2007-01-12 08:21:44 · answer #3 · answered by Lilith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is important between you and your husband. Not this other woman. Sit down with your husband and explain your concerns. Ask him to tell her to stop contacting him, because it makes HIM uncomfortable and not to mention you. If he still wants to stay in communication with her, then you should ask him if he’s willing to go to counseling with you. In order to get these emotionally confusing things out of the way and build on your life together.
Marriage is a union of two people and takes a lot of effort from both. He should be willing to do this small thing for you, in order to give you piece of mind. After all, wouldn’t you do the same for him?
2007-01-12 08:12:50 · answer #4 · answered by last_of_the_romantic_men 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to your husband about this, let him know how you feel. She is just jealous. I told my husband EX off, and boy did it feel good. She thinks that she could still get him back, but I know better then that. I am secure in my marriage, and in my husband. We have a very open communication in our relationship, we talk about everything. That is the key Communication.
2007-01-12 08:09:00 · answer #5 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By having contact with her he is doing something wrong. He may not be cheating by just talking to her but you do not know if that is all he is doing~ I think you should tell her but she may not believe you because he could of told her that you would say that. She may still try some women/men are nothing but home wreckers~~
2007-01-12 08:17:34 · answer #6 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your "man" isnt being to much of a man if he still picks up the phone..you need to tell him that you know shes calling and that you want it to stop...and if he loves you then he will stop...
2007-01-12 08:10:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it first. He shouldn't even be talking to her at all other than to tell her he is married.
2007-01-12 08:15:44 · answer #8 · answered by Wondrin Dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to tell her to stop calling him up and he needs to tell her he's stopping all contact with her. Then he needs to do just that. Insist that he does.
2007-01-12 08:17:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is already cheating by being in contact with her,but from the looks of it you condone it so .he can only do to you what you let him.hoes dont give up,they could careless if they are married or not,open your eyes!
2007-01-12 08:08:42 · answer #10 · answered by youngprincez23 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋