ok so i live with my brother(my parents are dead) so me and my brother are really close and me and my bf had sex and now im pregnant, and i wanna keep the baby, how do i tell him,i dont know how hes gonna react to it and i really need help, and its leagl cuz my bf is 16, and i willingly had sex with him, but how do i tell him cuz i dont want him 2 get mad.
2007-01-12 07:50:23 · 26 answers · asked by nashoba 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
im 15 years old
2007-01-12 09:25:58 · update #1
Tell your brother.He might be upset at first but he will be there for you and your baby.
2007-01-12 07:53:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Prepare yourself your brother will be disappointed and possibly upset by the news. Hopefully it will blow over. He may see this as an added resoponsibility......are you planning on continuing to live with him once you have had the baby....you didn't say how old you are.......depending on your age even though you consented it may not be legal consent as you have to be a certain age to be able to give consent.
Talk to your brother, understand he is going to have a hard time with all of this.....give it time.....it is not a one time conversation there is much to work out. He sounds like a good guy since he is taking care of you already......give him some time to get used to it and keep talking. I am sure that he will do what he can for you, if he is not able to provide the support that you need there are other agencies out there that can help. I don't know where you live so I cannot recommend anyplace.....but make some calls, talk to your school guidance counsellor......they should be able to point you in the right direction!
Good Luck
2007-01-12 08:00:28 · answer #2 · answered by looneybinexpress 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
how are you going to support the baby? thats the real thing to worry about.. neither of you have high paying jobs or jobs at all. you will need to give up school and everythign .c ause im dsure your brother is off and doing his own thing.a baby costs over 20,000 dollars a year! and you still need tot ake care of yourself first! how is that possible at 15??????! from now till when the baby is 18 you will have spend over $350,000 on it! where are you going to get that money? you are being selfish in not givin it up for adoption..... keeping it foryourself when neither you or your bf (if he stays) will be able to pay for it...just sit down with your brother. you guys are both close so just tell him!
you shoudlnt even be having sex at 15 anyways!!! and of course your brother is going to get mad! he probably trusted you alot more and n ow you have let him down and disappointed him...
2007-01-12 16:46:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately for you he will probably be upset either way. and i cant even imagine what you are going through, i'm 19 my fiancee is 18, we want a baby, and i can imagine how my mom would act. but you just need to sit him down, and tell him you have something very important to tell him. after hes gotten past the shock. you will probably be able to have a really long talk, and figure out how your going to pay for things, continue school & take care of the baby. whatever you do don't have an abortion. even if you decide to give it up, there are other options, like adoption.
if you ever need anyone to talk to you may email me anytime. i hope everything works out.
2007-01-12 09:49:07 · answer #4 · answered by lilchik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but, your brother will be a little upset regardless. Just the simple fact that you are 16 and pregnant is to get your guardian up set. So just tell him. When he is in a good mood. He might handle it better. Congratulations on your pregnancy!!
2007-01-15 04:08:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's going to be pissed no matter how you tell him. You are keeping your baby, that's great. But your older brother is now going to have to take even more responsibility than the poor guy already had when taking you in. He now will have to worry about helping himself, you and a baby.
Tell him asap, he needs to start saving all his money. The longer you wait, the harder it will be on him.
I take care of my younger sister because both of our parents died. If she got pregnant, I'd be there for her but I'd be plenty mad at her for being so damn irresponsible and forcing me to have even more responsibilty.
Good luck to you, your baby and your brother.
2007-01-12 10:23:41 · answer #6 · answered by Verity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
15 and pregnant that's so sad. But since the deed is done you should just tell your brother. Trust me, he's going to know VERY soon. He will trust you much more if you are straight forward with him. You are doing adult things so you should act like one. I hope he handles it ok, but it's too late now anyhow. Just tell him. It will be hard but it will be ok in the end. Good luck to you and your baby!
2007-01-12 09:35:31 · answer #7 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure before you tell him that he knows that you two are about to have a serious conversation. That way you will let him down a little easier. My suggestion is to call him an hour before you see him and say that something big is happening and you need to talk him in person. Then he'll be more prepare. And before you say it say, "I need you to be calm". then you just have to breathe, and....tell him. Than say you're sorry, that you didn't mean for this to happen. Then he will be upset, but at least you will have told him the easiest way possible.
That is the way to tell him, email me at victoriawallace2004@yahoo.com for more advice about the pregnacy, and how to deal with your freinds. Your in my thoughts and prayers.
2007-01-12 08:58:57 · answer #8 · answered by Victoria W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your going to have to face it, im sure he is going to be mad at first. Hopefully he will understand with time. You need to make sure he understand you want the baby, his first impulse may be that you not keep it so it wont ' ruin ' your life (most people thing this is what happens when you get pregnant very young) the next thing is you need to sit down and really think about all the changes a baby will bring to your life and make sure you are ready for all of them. I wish you lots of luck, and congrats if this is what you really want.
2007-01-12 07:56:32 · answer #9 · answered by Katy 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
complicated. I actually have an older brother so i recognize how complicated they are typically to illustrate to about such issues as this. Hmmm how previous are you? perchance previously you tell them you would possibly want to supply them somewhat speech about the way you want to inform them something yet you dont opt for them to get offended because its been really complicated that you'll locate the braveness to inform them and youre scared
2016-10-17 01:04:48 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't blame your brother for getting mad, but i hope you put the baby up for adoption so it doesn't ruin your life. Girls our age might be physically ready to have a baby, but not mentally. Tell your brother it was a mistake you should have never mad in the first place, and that your sorry.
2007-01-12 08:52:21 · answer #11 · answered by Kimbo 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋