ok, i am 8 months pregnant, and i am going to be moving out of my boyfriends house, soon, and i want to get full custody. i will be 18 when i have her, and he is 19. now, i need to know if you think i can get full custody, or any information you know. he has to go to jail in about a month, and he will serve 2 weeks, for stealing a car, and he will be on probation for 2 years. does this help my chances? how am i gonna be able to get full custody, and only let him have visitation, until he gets his own place. he is staying at his moms, and she does some mean stuff, and hurts her grandchildren and blames it on the parents, cuz she wants custody. so, i need any help i can get....thank you!
2007-01-12 07:47:39 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
as a legal assistant, i cannot myself advise you to do anything besides to talk to a lawyer.
2007-01-12 07:58:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order for him to have ANY rights as a father, a court will have to recognize him as the father, that cannot happen until there is a paternity test that is submitted to family court. You will have full and complete custody of the baby once it is born. It will be difficult for him to argue for custody at all with a criminal record, but once paternity is established he will have visitation rights. To help seal your custody, breastfeed. Many states will not allow the court to grant custody of a breastfeeding baby to anyone other than the mother unless she is seriously unfit (drug use, prostitution, felony warrants). You have very little to worry about. If you breastfeed, you can also keep his visitations short and under your control because you will have to be there to feed the baby. Breastfed babies frequently nurse every 1.5 hours so that would mean that the baby could only have about a half hour to an hour of visitation time because of transit time and the need to nurse.
Before you set this up as a major battle you need to consider the baby though. The baby needs a strong connection with Dad. The more you do to foster and protect that relationship, the better life your child will have. It sounds like Dad doesn't have his life together but you mentioned nothing about drugs or violence. Your daughter will need to know her father so your job becomes to make sure that she is safe and cared for and to step back and let them have a relationship. No matter how much she loves him, she will not love you less and vice versa. You have chosen to have this baby very young and you need to think long and hard about the baby because it no longer matters what you want. Everything is now about what the baby needs. And a baby needs her Dad AND her Mom.
He sounds sneaky so be careful but don't start a war in which the baby loses.
Best of luck.
2007-01-12 08:23:30 · answer #2 · answered by Huggles-the-wise 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Usually it's the first parent that gets to court gets custody of the child. If you already have the child [which obviously you do lol] you have a better shot. Go to court before him, like right now, even before the baby is born. Bring along police reports from him being in jail. Bring anything that shows him as unfit. A lot of times when a child is young the judge will give joint custody. If you are worried [which you seem to have every right to] then get to court now while he's in jail. It's not going to look good for him showing up for court in a jail jumpsuit. They will still take him to court but he'll be dressed like all the other prisioners. And mention the facts you told us about the grandmother. If you have any proof bring that too. It seems to me that courts really judge in your favor if you can say things that happened on such date and what time ect.
Remember just because the child is with you does NOT give you custody. My daughter lived with me and her father had her on a visit and ran off with her. It was legal because we never went to court. Just because the child lives with you does not give you custody. And they don't have to wait for a parenity test. If he says he is the father then they will say he's the father. You don't have to have a test done. For instance, when my son was born his father went into the DA's office with me and swore that he was the father. He had to sign a paper that says he'd be unable to go to court and claim he was not the father. You don't need a test if your bf admits he's the father.
Please, remember just because a child lives with you does not automatically grant you custody. YOU MUST go to court for that. I've had to do it. I know.
2007-01-12 09:47:50 · answer #3 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well legalities differ depending on where you are from. However, I do believe that as long as you see a lawyer (which can be done before the baby is born) you can get full custody. If you can prove that he is unfit (his up coming jail time is helpful here) you can ask the courts to grant supervised access until your child turns 2-3 and able to speak and tell you what is happening on visits. You can also stipulate that visits are not to take place at his mothers home......she too can have supervised access.
2007-01-12 07:53:34 · answer #4 · answered by looneybinexpress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will automatically have full custody until someone takes it away from you. I doubt that he can given the circumstances. He has to prove that you are unfit in order to take custody from you. You do need to go to court once he is out of jail and establish paternity (since you aren't married) and come up with a visitation plan. Do this sooner rather than later because until you have a court order you both have equal rights.
2007-01-12 07:55:52 · answer #5 · answered by sannice25 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-30 22:43:20 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can. If you can (get a lawyer) to prove that he and his mom are irresponsible and not fit to raise a child, you can get full custody. You'd also probably have first dibs because the kid came out of ur body, not his.
2007-01-12 10:04:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first i would have him charged with statutory rape because whether you consent or not the law doesn't recognize your rights until you are of age. Live at your parents house that gives you stability and as long as your parents have no his with childrens services and as long as they have never been arressted then getting custody shouldn't be a problem.
2007-01-12 07:56:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need solid evidence that he is an unfit father and that his living conditions are horrible. Make sure you have proof like pictures or a video or something
2007-01-12 07:58:25 · answer #9 · answered by crodriguez1010 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u gotta prove that hes an unfit parent and that his living conditions are bad and stuff like that,
2007-01-12 07:52:30 · answer #10 · answered by nashoba 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋