my dad is one of the strictist people ever...my mim was murdered in Fl and i hadnt seen or heeard from my dad in 10 yrs.....they MADE me *** and live with him.. and he is really strict about things...he has his times where hes ok...but all he can do is yell at me even over little things...i have been here almost 3yrs..he has fornidden me from talking to my older sister and niece in Az, and i also get grounded for the littlest things,,,,,and for a long time...right now im grounded for a month beacause i didnt ask to eat a cracker that i bought at school!!!!!! he thinks i took it from his stuff from work in his closet! someone help me i have NEVER sat down an talked with him for i fear him WAY too much!!! i am almost 15 and im not a virgin anymore but i cant talk to him about it..only my 18yr old sister....but he always finds out what we talk about ....she knows.but how do i deal with my really strict father yelling and groumding me ALL the time__!!__!!__!!
2007-01-12 07:43:37 · 6 answers · asked by jamee981 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Wow! Sorry about your mom :'(. The only way anything can be done is if he hits you. He's not really taking away your rights. Is he denying you food/clothes or other things you really need. I would suggest talking to your school guidance counselor, he/she will be able to help you.
Another very extreme solution would your sister taking custody of you (you said she is 18, therefore making her able to be your guardian). That could only happen if she was prepared and really willing to take on the responsiblity. You'd have to talk to her about it. It'd be a long court battle.
I would highly suggest talking to your school guidance counselor or trusted adult before you try anything like that, first. There are some solutions. He seems to be taking things a little to far to the extremes.
2007-01-12 07:56:06 · answer #1 · answered by countrygurl587 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with country girl. There should be no reason your older sister can't take custody of you. You might not even have to go to court for this if your dad will agree to send you and your sister mutually agrees to take you. The way it sounds, he desn't want you with him anywayz (sorry to say) but start off by talking to the school counselor. perhaps she can then direct you or set you up with a liason or social worker who will then get a meeting set up with you and the counselor and social worker present. You'll be amazed how much people change when they have others to moniter them and then tell him everything. Let it all out and explain that you would like to go and stay with your sister( if your sister agrees prior to meeting). The court may have to come in, in terms of financial support for you. dad may have to send support payments to sister once your with her, but perhaps this would be best if he doesn't want to have you with him. I'm so sorry for your situation and God bless you!! I'm praying for you as I type!!
2007-01-12 08:42:54 · answer #2 · answered by candyred1999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry to hear about the situation with your mother. and its sad that you have to go live with this guy that wasn't a part of your life for well.. like the biggest majority of it. its hard to say what you should do or how to handle it. talking to him directly would be very hard and scary. does he hit you? if i were you i'd talk to the school counselor who maybe able to give you some kinda guidance. also, if your having sex you need to be on some type of birth control. do you have anyone that can drive that could take you. at least in the state i live in.. you don't have to have parental consent to get on birth control. good luck to you. and you are in my prayers.
2007-01-12 07:49:52 · answer #3 · answered by amandalucille 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A craker???? wow......Thats REALLY HARSH!! I'm in shock....A craker.....Tell him your not a little girl. You should take the whole big sister taking costudy into court, I'm sure you'll win on that if you place your case right. And what I always did was yell right back, and make sure you have something pointy with you.
2007-01-12 09:19:05 · answer #4 · answered by SeijuxChan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its really that bad maybe u should get a social worker. someone who can help you, because that makes me worried that he might become physically abusive to you. call ur local department of human services if ur really that scared of him. and if u cant do that. at least talk to an adult from ur school or neighborhood that u trust enough and see if someone else can get u help.
2007-01-12 07:50:31 · answer #5 · answered by myluvis4mac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run away.
Go to another town.
Go to the police there.
Or a shelter.
Godspeed.
Peace.
2007-01-12 17:22:38 · answer #6 · answered by N/A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋