Me and my current boyfriend meet online while he was away in the miltary. We talked over the phone and online for about 7 months till the day we made arrengements to meet. By this time we already had fallen in love with each other. We both say "i love you" . When we met it was like magic. The emostional connected with the phsyical.We kissed and it was like magic. We spent the week together and even got intimate.We decided at that point that we would want to spend our life together dispite all the obstacles against us. Everyone thinks we are crazy for moving this fast, his mother does not approve of us at all since i have 2 kids.we are going to continue our long distance relationship till he gets out of the miltary next year and move in together kids and all. did i mention he is 22 and i am 25. and after a year of living together we plan on getting married.We have it all planed out.I have never love someone the way I love him and he feels the same. So what u think? will it work?
2007-01-12 07:38:29 · 12 answers · asked by angelgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Whatever makes you happy!!!
2007-01-12 07:45:29 · answer #1 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to know for sure is to try it. You've allowed yourselves the year of living together, which, by my own experience, may still not be long enough to know for sure. I would suggest more like five years if you have any doubts whatsoever.
Don't worry about what the others say; they're not the ones in love. Try it and see. Just don't take the big step until you're 100% totally certain.
2007-01-12 07:53:20 · answer #2 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it would certainly appear that you are on the right track. There are many things the 2 of you need to discuss in advance of such a committment too. Things like finances, children, in-laws involvement etc... everything has to be on the table and mutually agreed to. You need to know his drinking habits too, and how he shows and continues to show respect to you.... It is so easy to get caught up in the passion and block out the real things that can and will affect your life together. So many women say...if I had known that about him I'd never marry him.... so thats why you need to find out before a committment.
If all of this is agreeable, then there is no reason why it shouldn't work....... but it's up to the 2 of you to make it happen.
2007-01-12 07:58:55 · answer #3 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow...
I just read the last 14 months of my life in your question. Do i think it will work? Maybe...do I think it will last....based on what has happened to me and my SOon to be ex military husband...no.
We met the same way. We thought the same things. We moved in together, faced our obstacles, married, he was here but then was stationed in Hawaii.....as soon as he got there he put up personal ads, started messing with one of His soldiers and now we sit separated geographically but not legally....
There are some relationships that can make it the way you 2 met....but there is not too many that do.
Good luck. IM me if you want to chat.
2007-01-12 07:54:50 · answer #4 · answered by Smiling Belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Ya
It has every chance of working like any other marriage. You are taking it slow (at least I consider slow....... if you’re engaged now and it will be another 1 1/2 to 2 years before you get married) you are willing to compromise. And get to know each other better before getting married.
My husband and I met on the internet we started out as pen pals and after a few months we met. We did this for 3 years with holidays of him either flying to the states or me flying to scotland. I moved across to scotland 6 years ago and we have been married 5 years in May. So yes it can work if you want it to.
As long as he is good to your kids and kind and thoughtful of them and you. Do you have problems with him disciplining them? Do they like him? How does your family and friends feels about the relationship? As it may come to a time that you will need there support.
The only advice I have to give, is to give a long hard thought about whether you can put up with his mother. I am speaking from experience on this one. Does he stand up for you with her?
Does he take your side or hers? In fact 90% of the arguments my husband and I have had is over his mother. And there are times to be 100% honest where I have to admit that divorce sounds better to me than putting up with her. But then I know I am not alone on in-law issues. :0) There are many people out there who have them.
Other than that it is your life and you have to live it to the best of your ability. If it makes you happy and hurts no one than what can be wrong with it?
Wishing you the best of luck!! And Congratulations on your engagement!!
2007-01-12 08:03:25 · answer #5 · answered by justmetisher 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it depends on the people involved. For me it did not work. I even moved out of the country to be with him . We had a baby boy together and were waiting for my papers to come through so that we could get married. I had to go back to my native country while papers ect were to go through.In the meantime he was dating other women and then called me to let me know that he didn't our son or myself in his life anymore. That does not mean that it will happen in your case. I have known some relationships to work out very well. I wish you both the best of luck and happiness.
2007-01-16 05:32:17 · answer #6 · answered by detsmom 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not have him move to the same town as you, and you both date for a year to make sure that there is nothing that the other does in person that you can't live with.
Do not drag your children into this so quickly, let them adjust into it.
If he moves right in, and then you see sides of him that you do not like, do not expect him to change.
You need to date for a year and see if there are things that each of you don't like about the other and are deal breakers.
If there are things you don't like about him in person, DO NOT expect him to change. You are taking him AS IS. you are not getting someone that will change when you find things you don't like.
2007-01-12 07:47:40 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-12 10:03:18 · answer #8 · answered by vannostrand 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not? If you guys love each other go for it! Who cares what his mom or anyone else thinks. His mom will always try something to keep you apart but dont let her. You are both grown!
2007-01-12 07:46:54 · answer #9 · answered by Dana W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i have to teacher friend that meet there mate on-line and they are both happy married.
2007-01-12 07:50:26 · answer #10 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it, your not marrying his momma and neither is he, it will work if you continue at making it work.
2007-01-12 07:47:51 · answer #11 · answered by Mary O 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋