When we were first married before kids we were pretty adventourous. Now with 3 kids it is pretty tame. I hope it does return to at least some of what it used to be. Any thoughts?
2007-01-12 07:29:25 · 24 answers · asked by Brian 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've been married for 35 years and my last daughter left 3 years ago. We may not do it as often as we did in our 20's, but, I'd say it's better. We don't have to worry about pregnancy and we do it in whatever room we happen to be in at the time (although I prefer a couch or a bed, getting to old for the carpet). The passion is still there it's just warmer and steadier than back in the day. So while it's not exactly the same in so many ways it's even better.
2007-01-12 07:56:48 · answer #1 · answered by mjm52 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why WAIT? Find an escape for the two of you. An afternoon at a hotel/motel. Perhaps a weekend away. Change the scenery on occasion and enjoy each other.
Hire a sitter or have a friend watch the kids and then at some other time thw two of you can watch their kids so they can enjoy the same.
Dont wait until the kids are out of the house as other factors can impact your sex lives such as; menapause, job changes or pressures, illness, health,etc.
2007-01-13 07:55:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have now taken on the responsibility of three children, that will take alot of time and work on both parents, so yes, it is more difficult to be spontanious with your sex life. But you can still find time for each other, learning more about intimacy, and planning 'date' time for your time together as man and wife separately from being parents. It is not easy, and will take work on both sides, but well worth the effort, so be creative, and patient. Because yes, when the kids are grown, opportunities arise to make things more adventurous again, providing you have taken good care of the relationship with your spouse
2007-01-12 15:37:11 · answer #3 · answered by renegade_dancer5678 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our kids are 11 & 8, and I have to say, romance is better than ever - and we were teenagers when we first hooked up! Hang in there!!! Dh has been way more attentive than ever, and we just love to hold hands, snuggle on the couch, and stare into each others eyes. Of course, it never stops with just those things, but having that intimacy is awesome.
2007-01-12 15:38:17 · answer #4 · answered by hiya071 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is entirely up to you and your spouse. If you want a better sex life and work on it together then you will achieve a better sex life. My wife and I are married twenty years, the children are both driving, and when they are out for the night sometimes my wife and I jump each other's bones until the windows rattle.
It's all about your commitment.
2007-01-12 16:27:53 · answer #5 · answered by Jack Hip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me tell you something, when your kids get into mid teen years
they are never around. you will find yourself alone with your spouse more often than not. If you take the oppertunity to spice things up its even better than when you where younger. this time around you both know what really turns you on. and having the flexablity to do whatever you want whenever you want is a great turnon. Just hang in their my freind life gets better.
2007-01-12 15:46:35 · answer #6 · answered by topside 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
By the time your kids leave home, you are in your 50s or 60s. By that age men have a hard time getting it up, and women have menopause causing. So good luck on more s_ex after kids leave home.
2007-01-12 15:34:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm..I would assume that sex would become a bigger part of your life once the kids grow up and start flying the coop...BUT keep in mind, once you grow older and are done raising kids, its time to settle down as a couple...I guess it also depends onyou and your wife's sexual stamina and sex drive as well :)
2007-01-12 15:32:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the couple. Once you get to middle age you will hit your sexual peak ( I know Women do)! But I'm sure when you don't have 3 kids to take care of anymore, you will both have more energy :) Good Luck
2007-01-12 15:35:50 · answer #9 · answered by Lace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sex life is what you make of it - kids or no kids. I had three and while they napped we played. Then when I ended up with one it was even easier to be spontaneous it all just depends if you both can go with the flow. Now with no kids its still spontaneous but it depends on our moods and schedule. For some reason you end up with more things to do... go figure.
2007-01-12 15:41:40 · answer #10 · answered by florie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋