I had a little a little fight with her regarding her parents attitude with me. i don't know why doesn't realize that i have self respect and i just cant live without it.
i needed a little space to cool my self down and when i have cooled down she isn't picking up my phone not replying to any sms. She doest know how much life is difficult without her. all my nights i just think her and cant sleep. i love her more than anything. i just dont know how to handle things because i m a afraid that i she keeps on ignoring me i might start ignoring her too which is the last thing on earth i would like to do. i have tried everything to communicate with her but nothing has worked
plz write detailed answers let me know if m wrong.
2007-01-12 07:24:20 · 17 answers · asked by J@W@D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well if the 2 of you are getting married its between you to.Her parents do not need to intrfere in your relationship.You are not marrying them you are marrying her, if she refuses to answer her phone to talk to her, don't call her period. wait untill she calls you and tells you she is sorry from what you are saying she should be kissing your tail.
2007-01-12 07:35:04 · answer #1 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Family issues are difficult, but when you learn to accept that the way they act has nothing to so with you or who are as a person, the easier it becomes. If they say something you see as disrepectful, it is a reflection of something going on with them. You must not take it personally. Your self-respect never has anything to do with someone else's attitude towards you.
Your fiance should at least be willing to talk. Communication is key to a healthy relationship. If the argument occurred recently, she may just need time to cool off as well. Give her some time to get back to you. Don't try so hard to get in touch right now. I know it's difficult but she'll come back when she's ready to talk.
2007-01-12 07:41:50 · answer #2 · answered by heatherb9 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You left out something crucial here... What's the deal with the parents??? Did they diss you... or did you make some rude remark without thinking?? It's hard to answer without knowing the issue with the parents. If you are trying to communicate with her and it's not working, then.... and as much as this might hurt... back off a little. Let her know what her life is going to be like without hearing your voice and seeing your face. There's an old saying, " Absence makes the heart grow fonder". Give that a chance for a few days.
2007-01-12 07:42:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, be a man and go talk with her parents, find out what it is, if anything that is going on with them and their dislike for you. It might be that you're imaging things, and if not, try to find a common ground of respect where all of you can hang out at. Also, you should NEVER fight about each others parents, because parents give an unconditional love that no one else can EVER replace. You need to apologize to your fiance and go chat-up her parents. Call them up, make an appointment and bring flowers for her mother and talk it over. Clear the air. Good luck!
2007-01-12 07:31:26 · answer #4 · answered by Faerie Girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's upset too. Trust me she doesn't want to end the relationship BUT the in law issues need to be handled before marriage. I don't know what her parents said or did to you but if its something totally disrespectful then you have every right to be upset.
People don't understand once you're married that your spouse comes before your parents. Forsaken all others don't just apply to adultry that applies to everybody. Your spouse comes before your friends and family.
Let her know that. I hope everything will work out between you and your finance. I wish you the best of luck.
Take care.
2007-01-12 07:50:51 · answer #5 · answered by gloried 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You proboly both need time to cool down and blow off some steam. Some people need more than others. I'm a woman and I'm much more detatched than my fiancee when we have a fight. Just give her time, and the storm should pass. If you guys have gone so far to get engaged, then she's going to have to talk to you sooner or later, right?
2007-01-12 07:29:39 · answer #6 · answered by Shannan 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You had a fight and wanted space and i think she is giving you a little more then you anticipated. She may need space now to see what is going to happen. You need to tell your fiancee how much she means to you and that you need to speak to her...why don't you go and see her in person~
2007-01-12 08:12:49 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude,
You may have been wrong but you need to sit back and think about this. she is not answer your calls why is that? maybe she has someone else, maybe she is listening to her parents. In any case you need to move on and if she wants you back, dont just run back. Make sure you and her have any understanding about what happen. Thanks and good luck
2007-01-12 07:45:08 · answer #8 · answered by Quinton S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a big fight because she is not speaking to you. And you should know that you can't say bad things about a girl's parents --- unless of course she says the bad things first.
2007-01-12 07:28:45 · answer #9 · answered by Aurora 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe she needs time to think and decided if she wants to marry you or maybe she's torn between you and her parents. You needed space and now she needs it. If you love her you'll just give her sometime and space. If you two are meant to be you'll get married.
2007-01-12 07:30:21 · answer #10 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋