He has 5 girls that are his favorite players and the other girls on the team are feeling less than adequate for him. A few of them are even talking about quitting! They have played together for the last 4 years and have never had to deal with anything like this before. They were all treated as equals and that was part of what made them such a good team. They have been very good in past years and have finished in the top 5 in the state 2 years in a row. This year they haven't won a game!! The 5 that are his favorite players are, of course, happy because they get all of the playing time and attention. But the other girls don't even want to be at practice and are not excited for games like they used to be. Would it help to talk to the coach, or would that only make things worse? HELP!!!
2007-01-12 07:20:43 · 9 answers · asked by Penny T 1 in Sports ➔ Basketball
This would depend on how old they are.
If they are young then participation is important.
If they are older then his job is not to appease everyone and make friends.
His job is to win and most coaches will do whatever they feel gives them the best chance to do so.
Even at the pro level feelings will get hurt.
2007-01-12 07:25:30 · answer #1 · answered by DannyK 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats how sports go down. I was a very good hs b-ball player but i got little playing time and my parents thought i should play more, but , only one opinion counts and thats the coach! so, I would not talk to the coach. He needs to create an atmosphere where they feel like a team, even the girls who don't play alot.
2007-01-12 08:47:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guess what.. It happens in all sports.. very few coaches ensure all kids get their fair amount of play.. most are out to serve their own egos or to build a team around their child. If they don't have a child on the team they are there to win and don't care about the kids and building their skills in the sport so they can move up the various levels.
2007-01-12 07:32:38 · answer #3 · answered by TC_43 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think thats unfair and I play on a basketball team too. This is my first year and of course he has his most favorites. Just tell your daughter to be the best and maybe she'll be the top 5 best if she shows him what she's all about. Tell her to blow the other players away.
2007-01-12 10:31:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what level you're talking about, but sadly organized sports, even at the youth level are incredibly political. It's total crap to me. You should play the kids that work the hardest in practice and perform the best in games.
I'd make sure that she's working her butt off in practice though, because that's where you're going to make the biggest impact on a coach.
I've been there, so I can relate. It sucks, but it's a reality of the system.
2007-01-12 08:23:35 · answer #5 · answered by Berzirk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once had a coach like that. This is bad.
I think you should try to talk to the guy in the school in charge of hiring basketball coach. Make him understand that hiring this coach was a mistake and see if you can work things out that way.
What do you think of the coach as a person?
If you think he'll understand then try it. If not, then maybe you shouldn't because he might dislike your daughter more.
One thing I can tell you, NEVER think of letting your daughter or her friends quit, you'll regret it big time. I almost quit basketball once because of a coach.
2007-01-12 07:55:58 · answer #6 · answered by Ling T 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2017-03-03 16:18:22 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought that's how it works. Now don't go crazy and attack the other parents and kids on that team. We have enough crazy parents as it is
2007-01-12 07:24:53 · answer #8 · answered by Monet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
report him to the school or city
2007-01-12 08:07:56 · answer #9 · answered by lollypop8493 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋