i feel i am trying to be more independent, and im trying to take more hold of my own life...i just started a serious relationship a year ago, i communicate with my mother well, but there are always those moments i feel like she cannot handle me getting older...she always wants to put her foot down even though i am 22...i still do respect her decisions and opinions, but i think it is high time that i am "allowed" to make my own...how do i make that transition?
2007-01-12 07:07:13 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Its great that you want to be more independent. If you live in her house then you have to live by her rules. If you are 22 and and want things your way then its time to move out. Cant have it both ways.
2007-01-12 07:12:12 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there. I kept having to tell her time after time to leave me alone, even when I was an officer in the military and married. I was moved by the military several times and quit giving her my address and phone number each time. I got unlisted phone numbers and Post Office boxes so she couldn't find me. Years later, when she finally got it in her head I was my own person, we had contact on my terms in my way. Things had improved a great deal.
You should sit down with your mom, once and for all, in seriousness and present to her how you feel. Explain that you will no longer tolerate her interfering in your own business. I hope you don't have to get so extreme as I did, but if your mom won't get the message, you may have to take some actions to get her attention. The apron strings need to be cut.
2007-01-12 15:31:50 · answer #2 · answered by Captain Cupcake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how it feels . but right now whatever you do will make things worst .try to tell her how you feel but in a way that she doesn't feel bad .she has a problem letting go and this happens with all mothers its normal stand up for yourself but make this a gradual process do what you want to but avoid arguments .and one thing make it clear that you are a individual and have a mind of your own and that its normal that children don't agree with their parents even they must have not when they were kids this is going to be difficult in the beginning but with time she will get it.
2007-01-12 15:25:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are her blue print and if she has done good Job you will not fall down but you need to stand to how she did (life I is just footprints in the sand) hers will fade
2007-01-12 15:31:29 · answer #4 · answered by Peter S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your foot down. How hard can it be?! Maybe that's what she is waiting for, to see that ou can take care of yourself.
2007-01-12 15:11:26 · answer #5 · answered by DREAMER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you becoming mother you will understand ?
better ask your grandmother
2007-01-12 15:19:26 · answer #6 · answered by moddy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋