How much time is enough time when someone is asking you to give them space.?

Question

My ex-boyfriend and I have recently broke up. He said he needed his space because I was becoming clingy. At the time, I was going through alot of situations for that past month. With almost getting evicted that week, being on medication which stopped my menstrual flow for 6 months and it chose that same week to come. My body was week and filled with anxiety from worries. I didn't know where I would live, what to do with my furniture, cramping. The job I had was an agency placing me on assignments that always let me go when the person would come back to work. I would go days up to a week without work, thereforth, incapable of paying my rent on time. He walked out on me because I wanted him in my presence too often. Saying he needed his space. After 3 weeks of talking to him over the phone, still needing his attention, he finally called it off. He said he wanted to see other people but we could still be friends. I think he only said that because he didn't want to feel bad about it.

Answer 1

I can't believe what you just wrote because pretty much the exact same thing just happened to me except I didn't have a job at all. We were together for almost 4 years and when my left fell apart (my breakdown, crying, anxiety, panic attacks, depression, no income, waiting for insurance/medication, possible eviction) he said he needed 'space' because my problems were stressing him out and I was asking him for too much help. We talked on the phone until he 'couldn't deal' with that anymore and he said I couldn't call him at work anymore, then he said I couldn't call his cell or house either because he was getting anxiety from talking to me and he was getting angry because I was crying too much. It turned into an email relationship until he said the emails were 'going in circles' and that I had to wait for him to contact me first.

It went from him 'wanting space' to him saying he doesn't want a relationship with anyone anymore and that I have to 'move on'. Now he's saying he really wants to be friends but I have to stop 'pressuring' him into wanting our relationship back (I'm not anymore, I just can't help being sad over this and he's angry that I'm sad) I've taken care of all my personal problems and I'm finally on meds, I'm happy, the depression is gone but he refuses to try again and still treats me like I'm a psychotic mess like I was a few months ago (when I had a BREAKDOWN and didn't have meds yet)

Now I'm only miserable because I still love him and he doesn't want to be with me because I was too hard to deal with from July to October of 2006. I'm angry, I don't think he'll ever get back together with me because he simply refuses to. I partially think it's because he's stubborn. I don't have any advice for you since I'm in the same situation and I don't know how to deal with it. My friends can only help a little bit and I still cry every day since he left. I'm sorry you're going through it too.

Sometimes there is nothing you can do.