My friends are throwing a baby shower for me, but I wanted to have an "All Women" baby shower. She has a nice house and most of my friends have 2-3 kids each which would crowd the house. I don't know how to put it into nice words.
2007-01-12 06:48:07 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
MY FRIEND'S HOUSE IS NICE AND I DON'T WANT 20 KIDS RUNNING AROUND THE HOUSE AND DESTROYING ANYTHING...MOST OF MY FRIENDS LET THEIR KIDS RUN WILD.
2007-01-12 07:05:22 · update #1
I would never bring my child to a baby shower....just like I don't take my children to other Adult activities. Baby showers are celebrations of mommy's upcoming attraction....we want her to be excited. Seeing 20 screaming toddlers wreak havoc isn't going to get her excited. It's going to freak her out!!! (ha ha)
"Adults only" is fine. There is nothing wrong with asking people to find alternative activies for their kids that day. Daddy can watch them....they could go to a friend's house.....grandma can watch them. With enough notice....they can find someone to watch their kids for a few hours!!
I totally understand why you don't want children there.....I would feel the same way (I am going to probably be throwing a shower at my house in a few months....and ALL 5 of my kids will be somewhere else when I do!!!)
2007-01-12 07:18:23 · answer #1 · answered by diapercakesbybecca 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is obviously your first child. It is a bit ironic to not want children at a baby shower, after all, for the next shower, you will have a baby to leave home. You want their presents and their good advice but not the kids eh? This shower is a gift to you by the friends throwing it and you need to take it as such. You don't choose gifts the giver does and it would be very ungracious to be picky. Explain your concerns about space etc with your friend but let it be her choice.
It wouldn't hurt you to see how it is to try to go somewhere or do something once there are kids in the picture either. These women have all the expenses related to raising their children and you would like them to spend money on a gift for you AND a sitter for the kids (that could be as much as $20) so be ready to take a hit on the gifts if you insist that they get a sitter. If it really bothers you, find a neighbor or a small group of teenagers and have a "daycare room" for the shower so that they can enjoy their time too.
2007-01-12 07:06:07 · answer #2 · answered by Huggles-the-wise 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you put "women only" the women could easily think..."oh ok, no men, that makes sense"...they might not think that it means no kids as well...or at least i wouldnt.
The best way is to put "Adults only please"
If it is thrown by your friend at HER house then its completely her decision to not invite children.
I myself wouldn't get offended and huffy and refuse to come to the party just because it said "Adults only". Hey, the baby can spend some time with Dad and I can have a little break. There's nothing wrong with that! :)
And I don't think you're being selfish for not wanting children at the party. I know when I go to my sister's house her friends all bring their kids and dump them there...then the friends don't watch or pay attention to their own kids....My sister (the host) is left watching the kids so they don't hurt themselves and once everyone leaves the party her entire house is a wreck!! Unfortunately, some parents bring kids and leave them alone...not all, but some....
And just because you're pregnant doesn't mean that you automatically want a house full of kids running around...
2007-01-12 06:57:46 · answer #3 · answered by LittleRoo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the reason for your not wanting children at the baby shower. The only legitimate reason for that is that the party you and your friend are planning will be an X rated party. I'm all over that- HAVE FUN!!!!
Otherwise, the best friends you have will be those who will treat your children with "kid friendly" respect. Start taking care of those friends now by providing a kid friendly environment for them in the same way that you'll start to feel that same need...
2007-01-12 07:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by mickeymouse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say adults only please.... But you need to think about this... not all of us women can get a babysitter to attend these kind of things, and you will see that when you have your child and want to do something... I would include the kids...limit them to one room, and tell them that on the invite... if the kids won't behave, then they need not come.... (the kids)... Also you could look into a meeting room somewhere, or even a park....... Maybe all the parents could pitch in and you could hire a babysitter or 2...... If you don't invite the kids, most of your friends will be upset because they may not be able to go..... if it were me, I wouldn't go.. simply because we don't have anyone to babysit for us, and my hubby works 6 days a week, and the one day off, he is on call... and is usually doing yard work or fixing things around the house....
2007-01-12 06:53:49 · answer #5 · answered by Mommy of 2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok we all know kids and be a little difficult at parties, but some women might not be able to come with out them. you need to consider the different situations of the people you are inviting, they might not come at all if they cant bring there kids.
- but if you are set on not invinting kids then just say adults only party.
-or contact you guest personally and explain the sistuation at your friends house to them. most people would apercaiate a personal expantion for the no children rule and would most likey understand and find arrgaments for there children. try to contact them as soon a possible though so they can make those arrgements.
-or you could just not invite people that have kids then you wouldnt have to deal with the potentaly of them showing up.
2007-01-12 06:57:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somebody mentioned A Mommy's Day Away Baby Shower. I like that but keep in mind that you may have someone that cant make it because they dont have someone to watch the kids. Since your friends are throwing the baby shower its up to them whether they want children there or not (Unless you are the one requesting no children because you just dont want them there which would be odd since your pregnant) and it would be them that sends the invitations. Have fun and Congrats!
2007-01-12 06:57:26 · answer #7 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you say you're friends are throwing this baby shower, so aren't they responsible for invitations and who comes? Let them decide. You're lucky you have friends to do this for you, but yet you don't want their kids there, that's pretty selfish.
Does your friend who's doing this have children, if so can't she have her kids in her own house? I would think twice about this, it isn't a bachelorette party...it's a baby shower to celebrate a child, now why wouldn't children be able to come and be a part of that?
2007-01-12 07:03:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can add "women only please". However, you may want to keep in mind that not all the mothers may have access to babysitting at the time of your party or want to pay for it. Don't be disappointed if they choose not to come. Honestly, if I had to purchase a gift and pay an extra $24.00 ( Babysitter $8/hr for 3 kids x 3 hours), i might not attend. You need to decide if you want your friends there with kids or miss out on them being there altogether. The choice is obviously yours and your party should be the way you want it. Hope you have fun!
2007-01-12 07:02:14 · answer #9 · answered by Swim Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i totally understand, i am pregnant with my first and i would like my shower to be adults only. my family and friends are really bad about just letting their kids run wild and do whatever they want when they are at other peoples houses, and thats just too much stress on everyone, i want it to be relaxing and fun, not a babysitting job. i worked in childcare for years so it's not that i dont like children, i just think some things are for adults and some are for children. things like baby showers dont come along everyday so it's not like you've banned children from family functions ect. just this perticular event.
2007-01-12 07:01:33 · answer #10 · answered by TN girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋