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2007-01-12 06:46:00 · 18 answers · asked by GiiGii 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
absolutely you should live with the person before you get married. It is an easy way to see if the you of you would be compatible for marraige, since it's very similar to marriage, but without the legal contract (which is a mess to get out of).
and FYI to the people who say that couples who live together before marriage have a higher divorce rate... Living together before marriage does not increase your chance for divorce. Couples who don't live together before marriage are generally more religious than couples that don't. Couples that are more religious are far less likely to get a divorce due to religious beliefs, stigma from thier church and families, etc. Living together and divorce do not have a cause-and-effect relationship, they are circumstantial.
2007-01-12 07:43:53 · answer #1 · answered by nic_fish99 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say no, because you are trying to have all the benifits of marriage, without the commitment required to make a marriage work. Love is not just a feeling as many people will try to tell you, it is a commitment to a decision that you will stay with a person for your lifetimes. The best thing to do is spend as much time with your prospective mate, and talk. Ask questions about hopes, dreams, fears, expectations, etc. These are the hard questions that couples frequently forget to find out about before marriage. There will be times in your relationship when you don't feel like you love your mate anymore, but from my experience, it is generally attributed to lack of communication, understanding, or appreciation. I tell my wife I love her daily, I make an effort to kiss her daily, and I show her how I love her by always trying to do the little things that help make her life easier. Any and every relationship is 100% 100%. If one of you is not giving everything to make the relationship better, you will find you have more struggles. There is no room for selfishness in a relationship. We should always put our partner first. This is what true love is, that we are willing to lay down our life, our hopes and dreams for the other. Not to be a door mat, but to be willing to sacrifice for each other. Both of us have to be willing to do so. Then we can work together to create a strong and lasting relationship.
I have had good examples in my parents and Grandparents. My parents have been together for almost 43 yrs, and my grandparents were together over 40 when my Grandfather passed away. My wife and I have been together 11 yrs, married 10.
James
2007-01-12 07:04:12 · answer #2 · answered by James 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Statistics show that cohabitation before marriage is a bad idea and divorce is much higher for couples that did. I can't speak from experience, but it might help some people if one of the people are impossible to live with, but I can't think of a really good reason to live together.
2007-01-12 07:07:33 · answer #3 · answered by Bridget W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's 2007, but we still need to realize what comes along with cohabitation before marriage. First things first, financial situations will come up dealing with bills and expenses. Then, there's a organization factor of what will go where and who is more oriented towards keeping the place clean. Personally, I did it and I must admit that it had plenty of downs, but more ups because we kept our priorities straight. Just take your time and think it over good before you make any decisions.
2007-01-12 07:00:28 · answer #4 · answered by Blessed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its good to live together for some, and bad for others. I think its good to try it out, but if it doesnt work after 1 year, then you SHOULD KNOW its time to move on... however most people end up staying together and then getting married only to divorce later because they didnt leave when they should have.
Also 85% of marriages between the ages of 18-25 end in divorce.
2007-01-12 06:50:18 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They should not, and they should not have sex before marriage. That is what has caused the demise of the family unit in our society today. This is my opinion. Back when people had morals and values, you didn't see all the crap you see today with people divorcing and kids going crazy. Research the subject thoroughly and see what you discover.
2007-01-12 06:54:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I had a daughter I would tell her to live with him first.
You really don't know someone until you live together.
If it is all good and you want marriage then go ahead.
But you should discuss the possibility of marriage in the future if it is something you think you may want at a laler time
2007-01-12 07:48:57 · answer #7 · answered by shorty 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
From experience the break up is very hard, is like a divorce, you still have memories of waking up together, cooking together, except that is not as expensive as a divorce.
2007-01-12 06:52:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. Statistics show that couple who did not engage in pre maritial sex or live together before marriage had happier, longer marriages.
2007-01-12 06:51:01 · answer #9 · answered by Laura R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maximum youthful Christian belivers have sex. in the experience that they are an severe finished on Christian they could wait. i'm a Christian i had sex earlier marriage. My pals are Christian's and that they had sex with out being marriade. transforming into up those days in the experience that your in sixth grade and having sex they see it as no longer being a marvel.
2016-10-30 22:36:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋