For example: A Hindu boy does not want an arranged marriage, but his parents insist he have one. The parents arrange for him to meet girls in India, but he refuses. The boy politely tells his parents he will marry who he wants to, not whom they select. Is it common, or possible for the Indian parents to, on their own, promise his marriage to someone he has never met on his behalf? How would Indian parents then get him/force him to India to marry? What tactics, besides mental blackmail, would they use? What would they try? Has anyone known or heard of stories like this? What happened? Could the Indian parents stand in on his behalf for a marriage in India and then just bring the girl to the US, and then tell him---SURPRISE! you're married. Would this be legal if he protested such actions? What recourse would he have if he did not want to be married to someone his parents selected?
2007-01-12 06:41:36 · 6 answers · asked by cj.blue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well I am an Indian/Punjabi girl and I am currently dating someone who my mother despises (but she has never even taken the chance to get to know him) and I think you just need to be polite and respectful and tell them that you can make your own decisions because it is your life!!!
I have thought that my mom would try to take me to India and then "trap" me there forever and make me marry someone there who would force me to live in India for the rest of my life!
I think if something like this happened then you should speak to a lawyer because they would know the best course of action to take.
2007-01-12 09:12:34 · answer #1 · answered by Punjabi_Princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey Hey, which age you are talking about?? I am a indian and been there for more than 20 years and never heard any incident like that.. Okie.. Yes.. we do have arranges marriages. but not forced arranges marriages..
let me help you with this.. these days. boy and girl see each other.. they meet for say 3-4 months( most of american relationships do not even last for so long).. and then they still have their say to go with marriage or stop there.. About 95%, they go with marriage.. parents understand now that ultimately we have to stay together.. and this is not the story of big cities.. In fact.. it happens in small cities also.. I am from one of the small cities and i have seen all this freedom around with more than a dozen cousins marrying in last 2-3 years..
I hope i cleared your doubt. Thanks..
Abhi
2007-01-12 20:57:18 · answer #2 · answered by Abhi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Parents stand on his behalf for a marriage in India??? Ha, ha, ha...that is absurd. I'm not an Indian, but I have lots of Indian friends. Never heard of anything like that before. Usually in a Hindu or a muslim marriage, the groom has to be there for the ceremony!!! At least your question got me laughing this cold cloudy morning.
2007-01-12 14:55:58 · answer #3 · answered by Ginger 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I sincerely doubt this marriage will be legal in any country, and is grounds for annulment, Only you can decide whom you marry, and your parents cannot sign a marriage contract in your stead.
Do your best to move out of their house as soon as you turn 18.
2007-01-12 14:48:02 · answer #4 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for them. Be glad we are American and or he is in America and can go to the Court house and marry who he chooses.
2007-01-12 14:48:50 · answer #5 · answered by danceteacher5555 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't approve of any of this. God, I love Canada!!!!!
2007-01-12 14:44:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋