Someone I knew just died?

Question

this boy who was in my class jumped off the golden gate bridge this week and I feel so bad, didn't know him this year but last year,I saw him everyday at school, he talked to me a couple of times and was a really nice person. He never seemed like he could be so depressed, I don't know what really happened to him, but he was the last person I would think could be able to go through with this. He was one of the nicest people at school, I'm still in denial that he's gone, I just can't believe it, I don't think I ever will. I know people jump off the bridge all the time, but when it happens to someone you knew, it really makes you realize that they were people just like the boy I knew, they needed sympathy from other people.He had so much potential to do something with his life. I think he didn't want to go back to school either,was 2 days before school started over the winter break. Some say it was drugs, I don't know if it was but he was an open person, how could no one see it coming?

thank you so much to everyone that cares and wrote something

Answer 1

hey,..life is like this

move on.

Answer 2

Well....this doesn't appear to be as much as question as alittle ramble. However my young friend what you've actually experienced is what us older people call "mortality". I wish to be the first to welcome you to the club. You've finally come to the realization that we all aren't invincible and that we die at any age. Sadly when a young person dies, whether by disease, accident or suicide it is always the most tragic.
The reason many people "don't see it coming" is that many times the signs are either not apparent or they aren't recognized. Who knows just what pushes someone over the edge? What may have been the trigger for him might not be the same for you. Everyone has different breaking points.
This is why people shake their heads when young people drive recklessly and do stupid and dangerous things that in the very worse case could lead to their deaths.
During my growing up years in both grade and high school i lost several classmates. All the deaths were accidental. While at work we had an officer commit suicide in the police station. Nobody ever expected it and there was nothing to lead you to believe that this would have even crossed his mind. As you get older you'll see more of the people you know around you go little by little. Each time it reminds you of just how vunerable and fragile your life is as well.
Think of it this way if it helps...it's another step in the process of maturity and life.
My condolences.

Answer 3

I know how you feel. When someone dies suddenly like that who you know, it is almost hard to believe. I'm sorry.
I am one of the most upbeat and hyper people that you will ever meet, but I had a lot of problems with depression at one time. Some of my close friends knew, but most of them didn't. Most of the time, I would put on a front so everyone thought that everything was fine. It's very hard to explain if you have never been through it. But if you didn't know anything about this boy, there is nothing you could have done. Don't beat yourself up over it. If he had told you there was a problem and you did nothing, that would be different, but there is no way to tell what someone is feeling if they don't tell you. Especially since you were not really close with this person. I know it feels really strange and upsetting, but it will get better.
Take care.

Answer 4

The people who are depressed sometimes don't even show their depression. Some people who are depressed don't like for others to know they are. At one time I was very depressed about some things that had been going on so I smiled and laughed a lot. Deep down inside I was hysterically laughing and bawling.
He might of had a home life that no one knew about. He could of had family issues that none of us could imagine. No one could possibly know these answers. It's not usually the people who have no friends or people who have TONS of friends. It's always that person stuck in the middle that feel lost and end up commiting suicide. Depression is something many Americans deal with.

Answer 5

Its hard to go over this and yes I can see why you are in denial, my brother died a few years ago and I still fell like he is going to come and see me any day now, it doesn't fell real at all when it is someone you know. I would suggest that you go and talk to someone about this and get your feelings off your chest.

As far as him not being the type, people do a good job at not showing their feelings in fear of someone knowing how they truly feel.

We never know my brother was going through things either. He seemed fine to us and he was the sweetest and helpful person and would be there to help anyone and do anything, and then one day we found him. It tore all of us, but you just never know what a person is really feeling until its to late to help them.

I wish I wouldn't have known we could have gotten him help. Just like the guy you know, If anyone knew they could have helped him, but he saw an easy way out and he took it with out knowing what the people here would go through with out him.

You may think that you don't need help but you should really talk to a counselor about it....

Answer 6

a lot of people are depressed (different levels of depression and sometimes just certain times in their lives or certain seasons or exen unexpectedly because of something that happened in their lives), but some people, as in this case, may have been adicted to something (something known by others, sometimes you see things around you so often that you take it for granted that others would not touch the stuff but yet others try it, overdose on it, become overly depressed, etc.) and they can't get things out of their mind no matter how a person trys to help them. This could happen to anyone. Maybe his friends or his family "could have" if they knew, interceded to help him, but maybe they know as some people keep everything inside, some are not communicators, some aren't encouraged, and some it's just an ingrained thing and runs in families (hereditary). I would think in his case no sympathy was needed prior to his demise, and not even empathy would have helped. What he needed was counseling and intervention.

Answer 7

Noone can ever something this tragic coming.
Its impossible.
Its a shame, that the nicest, most caring people go.

The cause was most likely depression. The nicest people you will ever meet are depressed. Keeping everything inside until they cant handle themselves any longer.

I dont believe it was drugs, drugs are just an excuse people use when they cant explain the unbelievable.

Im sorry that he died, things like this make me want to cry.

All I can say is pray pray for his friends, his family, and pray for God to bring you an answer as to why things like this happen.
Pray for God to bring you strength, and the courage to believe what has happened.

Answer 8

Thank you for sharing this experience with us. This is definitely a tragedy that needs more attention than it is getting these days. More people than we'll ever know go through depression,...many are so good at disguising it too. Anyhow, it's very important that in your particular situation that you give yourself credit for even giving a damn. This situation sure enough is difficult to understand for everyone which is why more and more of us that have been afftected by this have the courage and strength to perhaps set up a once a week support group for kids in school from as early as 1st grade throughout to the University for everyone who just want to share issues and concerns, motivation and encouragement from one another. We are more powerful as human beings as a group than we are an island to ourself. God bless us all. And may his death not be one in vain....as I'm sure many will read your testimony and it will affect them as it did with me. Good luck my friend.

Answer 9

Look at all the BS that goes on in Jr High & High Schools. Kids are very cruel to each other. Adults do not act the way kids in high school act. There is a lot of bullying and other meanness toward each other that goes on.

However his body hasnt been found yet so maybe you can hope he is playing some cruel hoax and he is really alive somewhere having faked his own death.

Answer 10

That is very sad to hear that a young person takes his life like that. Hopefully your school will have some grieve counselors at the school for the students who need them will use this service in order to help them deal with this loss. Try to not think to much on this event and hopefully you have learned a valuable lesson on how important life is by this tragic event. Good luck and use the counselors if you need to.

Answer 11

I'm soooooooooo sorry to hear that.It's a shame that things like this happen.U might want to speak to a councillor about this cuz it will hit you about his death it's just your in shock right now.When it does kick in it can very much destroy u ,u never know everyone takes things like this differently.It sounds like your ok now but u need to talk to someone about this and go through the morning period to get over this and reassure you'll get through this without finding ways like some use drugs etc to stuff the way they feel down or so they don't feel at all.Chow 4 now and I hope you get through this n maybe talk to your parent or someone .chow