Please dont get me wrong, I was once a single mom and had a ex husband that would do anything he could not to pay child support. I by no means want any child to go without.
My question is my husband and I have one child who is 2 and another one due in July. And he is paying child support on two children from another marriage and the oldest is 19. And to get it stopped on the other one he will have to take his ex back to court. We have had alot of problems from his ex she uses the children to get money outside of child support because she has a drinking problem. And gaining custody of his 15 year old is no option he wants to live with his mother. I really dont have the strength to fight for that because his two children when they have visited have become violent to my daughter their half sister. my question is should i be upset that he isnt trying to get the child support stopped on the 19 year old. That means we will be paying twice the amount for one child.
2007-01-12 06:20:49 · 9 answers · asked by jerry w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Both children have failed three years in a row And they say things like we are going to stay in school as long as we can so you will have to keep paying our mom child support. We hope you get poor so you will leave daddy he wouldnt be with you if it wasnt for the baby. They say things like to bad you didnt miscarry. i am totally fed up with all of it but i do love my husband. He is willing to take his ex to court but i have to do all the leg work. It is just a hassle because the ex uses the children to gain money. On the other hand i have two from another marriage that receive child support and our two together and it feels like i am sending my two childrens child support to his ex for their kids. And yes my husband works very hard.
2007-01-12 06:35:03 · update #1
yes i would be upset, as it is taking away from your amount that u have to live on. he needs to stop it if the child is out of school and could get a job. he most likely is avoiding taking her back into court, as he knows she may cause him problems. the children of a past marriage will always cause problems, as they think u are the reason their dad isn't with them anymore, they become jealous and pick on the siblings that do live in the home. the ex will always cause trouble, as she sees u are happy and she is not, so she will keep doing whatever she can to create problems within the marriage. good luck to u. he just doesn't want to deal with the woman so he avoids taking her back to court.
2007-01-12 06:30:36 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is doing the right thing by supporting his children. If the 19 year old is no college, then he should help. And just ways, 15 is not so far from 18. You just hang in there and ride it out. Also, these kids are old enough that you or your husband shouldn't have to deal with the ex anymore, if the kids need something from their dad, they are old enough to contact him themselves.
We stopped ALL contact with my husbands ex when the child was 16. She was driving, so she could go see her mom when she wanted, ask for money when she needed it, and so on. I tell you, it really made life much easier on all of us. The mother couldn't use the child anymore, nor could she twist the story around anymore. . . . .just something to think about. Good Luck!
2007-01-12 06:33:39 · answer #2 · answered by lady_blu_iz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im not sure where you are or how your child support system works, but ours is based on your income and what other liabilities you have. So based on the fact that you have one child and another on the way that have to take that into consideration and reduce the amount of child suport paid. Also we only pay child support while the child is still studying. If the 19 yo is not still at school then you shouldnt have to pay for him/her. But as for the 15 yo, you will have to continue to pay for him until he is old enough or leaves school. But look into having a review after the baby is born.
2007-01-12 06:30:26 · answer #3 · answered by kyleemckenzie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I were you, I would want to child support to stop on the 19 year old, too, assuming he/she is out of high school. In my state child support is paid until the child is 18, OR graduates high school, which ever comes LAST. But if it would cause problems with the ex, maybe continuing to pay until the 15 year old is an adult is worrth it. You have to weigh the pros and cons.
2007-01-12 06:25:55 · answer #4 · answered by mystery_me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the 19 year old in college? If yes then he has to pay until whatever age you state says it has to stop. If no he should just go to court and get it corrected.
2007-01-12 06:25:33 · answer #5 · answered by caribbeanmeme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lady Blue and jane are right on here.....I know it sucks but look at it this way, you only have a few more years to deal with her. By the way, all 18 year olds should have a job, whether they are "in school" or not...the sooner they grasp the reality of life, the better off they will be.
2007-01-12 08:42:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your husband's problem, not yours. If he wants to continue paying for the 19 year old, then that is his business. He doesn't have to give her money out side of the child support, but you stated that he does. Again that is his business.
Get over it.
2007-01-12 06:29:33 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He just needs to get the child support motified and I believe at 18 child support is suppose to end, unless the child is in college or something was written in their divorce agreement.
He needs to fix it.
2007-01-12 06:29:56 · answer #8 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-12 06:26:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋