How do i get stared on putting her to bed on her own with out having to rock her? i have tryed a couple of times but all she does is cry. and ideas? if when its nap time i have to rock her.
2007-01-12 06:16:01 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Mom - you have a smart baby. She already has you wrapped around her finger. Yes, she is spoiled. You need to start putting her in her crib when it is time for bed, and let her cry it out. Don't keep going back in there to check on her. Listen thru your monitor to make sure she is ok. If she is screaming, she is breathing. She will do this for a while, but you have to stick to your guns. It will probably take a few days, but she will eventually figure out that you are not going to rock her to sleep.
2007-01-12 06:20:17 · answer #1 · answered by MommaSchmitt 4 · 2⤊ 4⤋
You just have to let her cry it out and deal with it. She may cry for a long time the first time, but each time will be shorter and she'll eventually not cry at all. When you hold your baby to put her to sleep you are giving her a false sense of security. When she falls asleep in your arms, she is going to expect to be there when she wakes. She will probably tend to be more independent when she's older if you go through with this. I know it's great to sit and cuddle with a sleepy baby. It's the most wonderful feeling in the world to feel that needed. I promise you that it will be much better in the long run. It also allows you to get much more done around the house if you can put her down to go to sleep on her own; even if you have to listen to the crying. I put my daughter down with her blanket, classical music and the closet light on. Whatever you prefer. I learned from experience with my first that you shouldn't rock them or even lay with them. She is now 5 and still tries to talk me into lying with her. I have more of a struggle with her at night than with my 16 month old. I hope this helps.
2007-01-12 06:32:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ha ha ha this is so funny me a guy being able to tell a girl what to do about a baby ... its so easy ... ok the secret is routine....your baby is out of routine so as you cant tell it whats going on its confuzed and scared so what you do is make a routine the same time exactly every day feeding times must be the same and wakup the same and most importently bath time about 7.00 pm then after a bath every night into bed with a bottle or feed just before bed as the baby can be dehydrated from the warmth of the bath then the baby knows its bed time soon after a bath and wont be scared also if your baby was born in the evening then sometimes babys can feel pressure on there head every night at the same time it was born so massage its head and sinuses and cheeks(very gently) to releave pressure as this can happen upto 9 monthes after a baby is born or even longer... good luck and stick to the ragime and you will get a good nights sleep and stop the rocking as that is a bad routine only use that in emergencys like when its got a cold also when you wind the baby keep saying big burp and make a burp sound yourself and that will teach it another routine and after a while you dont even need to pat or rub them just say big burp and they will burp..it kinda makes them feel like they have acheaved somet themselves.. lol.
2007-01-12 06:29:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im trying to be gentle here, but your baby is your biggest responsibility and if that's what she requires to go to sleep, then by all means rock her! I know moms who can rock, swing, drive, feed their babies for hours and not get them to sleep so consider yourself lucky. When they are this young we have to put their needs first. I always rocked or help my son to sleep as an infant and now as a small child he has good feelings about sleep and easily gets into bed on his own when it's time. Bed is not a scary place where he'll have to cry and wonder if anyone is there for him. I wish you luck!
2007-01-12 06:21:40 · answer #4 · answered by infojunkie 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
As soon as my son was born, we taught him to fall asleep on his own by not rocking him and just laying him in his crib on a schedule. If I could go back and change that, I would. My son is 18 months now and isn't the "cuddly" type like my daughter. He is not demanding for attention at all and won't sit still for a hug, kiss, and especially to be rocked. By not rocking him, I missed out on alot of bonding time, some of our memories, and loads of relaxation.
I know you think its a burden now, but she won't be six months old for long. Enjoy the ritual you've began, because I would cherish it if it were me.
2007-01-12 06:34:02 · answer #5 · answered by pixiedustplease 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
whats the problem here?? My fiancee and I both rock our 7 month old son to sleep. We want to!! It's a great way to bond with a baby. It's my time to hold him since he mostly wants to crawl and be active when he's awake. There is nothing wrong with rocking your child to sleep and those who said she is spoiled are wrong. It's called being a parent...an attentive one. I'm sure you're daughter will not be 5 and want to be rocked so if you think you are going to be doing this forever...you're probably wrong. Enjoy it while it lasts...she only 6 months!!!!
2007-01-12 06:33:37 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best book I ever read on helping teach your kids to fall asleep on their own was "The Baby Whisperer" by Tracey Hogg. Both of my kids were putting themselves to sleep for naps and slept throughout the night by four months. It seems unrealistic but it is possible. It truly saved my sanity.
2007-01-12 06:20:55 · answer #7 · answered by Mom of Three 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
And? OMG why do mothers have babies if they don't want them to be babies? My daughter is 15 months old and we still rock her to sleep. It's called being a parent! My doctor works nearly 65 hours a week and her daughter is 5 months older than my daughter and she still rocks her baby to sleep. It's so disgusting that people like you have babies and they have to cry themselves to sleep or have their mom mad at them for holding them. Why not give your baby up for adoption? At least then the person will WANT to be there for her!
2007-01-12 06:27:05 · answer #8 · answered by angie_laffin927 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There will come a time where you must not give in to the babies crying. lay the baby down and keep an eye on her. Everytime she stands in her crib lay her back down and stay near her. keep repeating this and the baby will soon relize that you want her to sleep on her own. Remember stay with the baby but don't give in. ( I saw this on Nanny 911 )
2007-01-12 06:28:00 · answer #9 · answered by Victor G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget this let her cry it out crap. Thats crazy. Try laying her on her side, and rocking her left to right in her cot, slowing down as she falls asleep. She'll probably cry to start with but persist with slowly rocking her, maybe patting with one hand depending on how nifty you are. She obviously finds movement soothing to go to sleep and is used to it. It'll take a few days to adjust.
If this fails, lay her on her back or side and just pat her til she gets to sleep, patting lighter and lighter as she nods off. Even if she cries just keep patting and hopefully she'll start to find that soothing. She's just gotta adjust to somethinh different. Be prepared it'll take time to change her from what she's used to.
2007-01-12 10:45:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋