I was in a live-in relationship with my ex for 3 years, until about 2 months ago. While in the relationship, i helped him with a huge amount of money that he owed his parents. He cant be mine forever, coz he is of the same gender as I, and he is dating a girl now. About 10 days back, he turned up wanting to spend time with me. We spoke, he cried and did everything we used to do together during our relationship, except have sex. Next morning, I happened to read a message on his phone, which was dated 3 months before we broke off - from a girl, whom he is dating now, saying she loved the way he made love to her. I let it pass, coz we were no longer in a relationship but did tell him i knew he was cheating on me but he lied to me saying he hadnt. I have asked him for the money, which he says he will return by end of the month..He still wants to be friends. But I still love him despite everything. Trying to move on, but doesnt seem to work - he is on my mind all the time. What do I do?
2007-01-12 06:02:25 · 11 answers · asked by Fast C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know his family and they know me quite well too. He will definitely have to return the money, coz i know he is scared that i might talk to his parents or his new gf about his past with me. Thats not the point....Point is - why did he come back to me again? He doesnt say he loves me anymore, but says we will always have our own time together and we will always be a part of each others lives. I am planning to marrying soon, so I dont want to get involved with anyone except from a long term point of view. Escapes me though, how do I get over my feelings for this guy, who has obviously moved on and once the money factor is dealt with.....would I even have anything else to speak to him about?
2007-01-12 06:15:23 · update #1
You asked why he came back to you in your additional comments. I say that he is confused and lost, more so than you are. Be that as it may he has established a pattern of cheating. You still love him because that is natural human nature. You have to realize that whatever you are puutting up with or have put up with, you will have to continue to put up with and live with if you maintain a relationship with him. Letting go of a relationship is difficult but in my opinion it is unhealthy to try to hold onto one that doesn't work and causes so much pain. There are millions and billions of people on this earth, surely you can find someone who will treat you with more respect and honesty.
2007-01-12 06:28:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to let go you have to let go.No sex now that he's with another and no cuddling either.The money is a loss and don't expect it back even though I am sure you could use it.The money connection will only keep you two entwined and he will continue to woo you because he can't repay you.Tell him to repay you when he can and stop the communication unless he's giving you your money.I wouldn't tell him I don't expect the money back but you should move on and don't let that ,money enslave you because it's owed to you.
2007-01-12 06:11:39 · answer #2 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok your a gay guy right?
Well that is how the ball bounces he used you and now you want him back . Don't be fool for loneliness . Move on and let go women go through this mess daily by men . That proves even more that men are dogs whether they are gay or straight
2007-01-12 06:09:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least you're being honest with yourself. It takes time to get over a love, there's not much you can do about it, except distance yourself from the one who makes your heart hurt. It will pass in time, be patient.
2007-01-12 06:08:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he may be back for more money I have been cheated on and I a married I forgave him and we have money problems and he lied but I know he messed up and does care... he sounds like he just wants money...
2007-01-12 06:20:04 · answer #5 · answered by The H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont expect your money back
you are not logical(but love isn't)
distance yourself and start anew
don't live in with others
never lend money, money is always a gift
2007-01-12 06:10:34 · answer #6 · answered by Question Addict 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Logical no, but when did logic enter into the realm of love?
2007-01-12 06:07:00 · answer #7 · answered by Gotta Question 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When are you going to learn? And best of wishes retrieving your money. Again, when are you going to learn?
2007-01-12 06:06:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its time to find another guy to be with. make sure that you get your money back, if not from him then try his parents.
2007-01-12 06:07:38 · answer #9 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no clue, I guess wash your car, and change the oil.
2007-01-12 06:06:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋