Hubby wont give his son the sex talk???man to man?

Question

I am concerned about my son?I have given him the sex talk while i was pregnant with his sisters.When he was 10 yrs old i explained the rest of how everything works and how to protect against pregnancy.My son asked me what the symtoms of pregnancy are?He is only 12?I asked him and he said no reason? So today i just picked him up from school because it was a half day parents teacher conference is tonight.I asked again why he had asked me that question.He told me his friend Jimmy who is 13 thought he had gotten his gf 14 pregnant?I am having a heart attack how can i convince my hubby to give the man to man talk?

Also should i bring this up to my sons friend mother who i know ?

My hubby seems to think its my job!

Answer 1

Umm....what difference does it make WHO talks to him. If you explain sex to him, the consequences of sex outside of marriage, and how a female becomes pregnant the what is the big deal?

Do you think if his father explains the same things its going to be any different. Personally both of you should sit down with him together and go over it again.

Answer 2

nope don't tell that boys mom that . Let her find out herself because you are putting your son in akward position . Cause then he'll be known as a blabber mouth whom is a mommas boy and tells moma everything. Worry about raising your kids right you can't raise the entire neighborhood block. Maybe you should talk the friend and give him some gudiance but don't you dare tell his mother. You be the adult and sit him and your son down and explain this stuff etc. An your husband is never gonna be comfortable to tell his son about sex etc. So that again will be your job to tell him about sex and immoral girls and girls whom have morals and etc. Basically stay away from hoochies and look for a decent respectful younglady .

Answer 3

Just say that ur concerned and u feel that they should have a talk explaining all the diseases that u could get and all the bad things that could happen and just stuff that would get hubby to talk to him. See im only 14 and i never told my my about my 1st and so she was concerned with me and she regrets not tellin me everthing about sex. So just explain all the stuff that could go rong and i may give ur son a change of mined even a change of heart. Maybe u should give hubby a smack on the head to get him to say somethin.

Answer 4

Tell him the truth...Tell your son that you want him to be open to you and tell you everything...Ask him what he thinks about his friend Jimmy who thinks that his gf is pregnant...I would really talk to him about his friend and what he thinks would happen to Jimmy...Explain to him about the consequenses of having a baby at such a young age...Then maybe make an appointment with his doctor...Hopefully he has a male doctor and you can ask him to talk to your son for you if your hubby don't want to talk to him...If you have other relatives, his uncles...Maybe ask them to talk to him and see if he'll see signs...I feel for you..My son is 10 and 13...My 13 yr old is already taking sex ed class...So I guess depending on your school systems...Maybe you can find out what grade they do that...Usually around that age is the time...Well good luck to you hon...

Answer 5

It really doesn't make any difference who tells your son about sexual responsibility -- It would be nice if your husband also shared information with your son, but.... just because he can't doesn't mean your son should stay ignorant. Certainly continue to stress abstinence, and talk often about sex with him, now that he is becoming sexually aware, and mature...... but don't forget the other --- we are all victims of our juices, and for sure sex will lead to pregnancy. He needs to know, that he has to protect any girlfriend from his own urges by not getting himself in situations where he suddenly is thinking with his small head rather than his larger one. And baring that, carry condoms. It's just life, hon, and your son needs to know everything. Just because you son carries a condom doesn't mean he needs to use it any more than just because a girl takes the pill, that she is going to be promiscuous. There is no one more fertile than a 13 year old healthy girl!!!! And no one should have to pay a lifetime of 20 years raising a child for 10 minutes of stupidity!!!! and misinformation. Continue to be the great mom by letting him know you will always welcome his questions.....

Answer 6

Start with , Hey Grampa........How do you feel about raising another baby?

If that does not do it then its up to you.
Please do your kid a favor and tell him in graphic detail how this works and how to avoid problems.

My sons got this simple lecture. Everyone makes mistakes but there is one mistake for which there is NO EXCUSE. There is no excuse, none, nada, not any, for getting a girl pregnant unplanned, PERIOD.

Condoms 85% effective. Foam 65% effective. Condoms AND foam 99.9 %effective as well as a deterrent to STD's. If you don't have the maturity to go buy this stuff first you do not have the maturity to be sexual. Simple equation.

Answer 7

Well, I think it's fine if you give him the talk that he needs. It does not absolutely have to come from a man. If you really want your husband to get in on the discussion, then thell him that you really want a man to talk to him about this and suggest other men in your lives that you will bring over to do it if he won't (such as an uncle, grandfather, or family friend). Maybe that will push him to want to do it himself. If not, then you'll have a male voice to provide for your son anyway.

Answer 8

Just tell your husband that your childrens friends are becoming active, (it may not be sexually active, younger people often don;t really know then again quite a few do start by age 13) and that you need him to do it. If your husband won't, you always can do it. Your son might be embarassed, but trust me when I say he'll be curious enough to listen.

Answer 9

I view it this way, I talk to my son he talks to my daughter and its better that way. I explain to my boy how tragic having a child is and how to protect himeslef and stuff, of course he's much older than yours. Now my husband tells our daughter about it all, what guys feel why ect...don't feel bad some people are more prude and quite about those things but you truly need to talk more about the subject to your boy!!!

Answer 10

Tell your husband what your son said, and tell him why you think he should have "the talk" with him. As for telling the mother of the friend, I'd stay out of it for now. It's possible nothing happened.