Ok, you're separated from your childs father and then after so many years he confronted you about this terrible act he did with your sister while you used to be together...You then confronted your sister and even with her denial you know deep in your heart that it was true...So the past is the past and you decided to let it all go and move on with your life...
Now with this whole chatting business and everyone reconnecting online...You find out that those two are communicating again...Meaning your sister and your Ex...How would you feel and what would you do?
PS: you have a long history with your ex...involving physical and mental abuse...shouldn't your sister be there for you after all?
2007-01-12 05:38:46 · 18 answers · asked by $&$& 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just want to add that my sister was married at that time and she still is married to the same man...BUT, her husband has cheated on her plenty of times and I guess now I understand why she's still with him coz they're both cheaters...
My ex on the other hand is single and I could care less...
For me, I'm HAPPILY MARRIED...Luck has been on my side so I have moved on...
2007-01-12 05:52:05 · update #1
Slap the biitch ... she deserves it .
2007-01-12 05:42:27 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
honey it depends on how good your relationship with your sister was. If you two were close then by no means she should be in touch with your ex.. But if you were not that close to your ex or sister, then why are you bothering wether they chat,meet,sleep,whteva !! Just think about firstly what an idiot ur ex was and now think about the badluck your sister is goin to have by hooking up with such a moron,because every one is sweet and charming in the beginning,his true colours will show ,once she gets into a proper relationship with him !! you let go of your past and dont be defined by it.Keep moving on in your life and raise some rocking children,keep fit (focus on gettin a smokin body) and stay Happy !!
2007-01-12 14:00:57 · answer #2 · answered by spin spin sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First: As you said the past is in the past and let it go. You're no longer involved with the man.
Second: For your sister, she knows what you've been through I'm sure, and yet she's still going ahead. If she can't learn from the mistakes you committed getting to know this...let her find out for herself. She's got to learn her lesson.
Should she be there for you after all? She's free to chose what she wants to do. Period. No one has to feel compelled to do anything for anyone, even if it is a relative. It's about having a choice.
If you need someone to be there for you, rely on your friends, you sister is up to no good and she's going to experience your pain soon enough.
2007-01-12 13:48:58 · answer #3 · answered by Querida 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds really painful...I can't even imagine!
I have one brother only; however, family or not, I do not believe that I could forgive such a betrayal...a long time ago, my best friend slept with my boyfriend at the time...we talked about it later, we are still friends, but it took years...besides, we were 17, 18, not adults with kids involved or physical and mental abuse...yes, she is your sister, seems like she might get hurt, too...you need to be there when she needs help, but trust her again???
2007-01-12 13:47:12 · answer #4 · answered by avechm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's an EX. Who cares whom he's chatting with? It's all in the past, get over it. Your sister can be there for you, and still keep in touch with your ex if this is whom she's attracted to. That you and your ex had problems is not her fault - you were the one who married the jerk, stuck around, and had kids with him. She may be exercising bad judgement, but not as bad as yours. Get over your ex, and don't worry about what your sister is doing in her personal time... It's not worth losing sleep over.
2007-01-12 13:49:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is your EX, what matter is it of your now??? Let it alone and as long as your sister is not getting beat up stay out of it. Move on
2007-01-12 15:49:49 · answer #6 · answered by lostlifehard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry. Yes your sister ideally should be on yoru side but it doesn't sound like she is a good sister. She doesnt' sound loyal to you at all. You can't make her be a good sister, but now you know that she's not, and you can just stay away from her and dont' expect much from her, and only see her at family gatherings or when you can't avoid her.
2007-01-12 13:44:30 · answer #7 · answered by stripedbook 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take them on the Jerry Spranger Show. Let the whole world see how low down they are. Or else you could do the right thing, just forgive them, pray for them, then let God take care of them. God Bless.
2007-01-12 13:49:51 · answer #8 · answered by donalddhatfield 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get over it and move on. It sounds like you are trying to justify some type of revengeful act.
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2007-01-12 13:47:48 · answer #9 · answered by Bill G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much you can do about it..
Your sister certainly knows the history of your EX...
They are both adults...
2007-01-12 13:43:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's your ex, so you shouldn't bother with it. If your sister didn't learn from your experience with him, that will be her misery. Don't try to stop them; it will end someday and you will have your sister back.
2007-01-12 13:44:16 · answer #11 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋