How do i get out of feeling so low?

Question

i am 23 have only 1 mate i am shy and quiet which isnt helping as i feel low in myself cause of it and cant seem to get out of my dark hole. My life evolves round going to work and going home and thats bout it. Every person i work with has 4 friends or more which makes me feel worse and are always on the razz. I feel i dont fit in work as weve had 2 new gals started and they get on better with peeps than me and all the guys fancy them which make me feel insecure. How can i make myself feel better inside

Answer 1

maybe get involved with them more..go out to a pub with them or join an evening class or something.

Answer 2

I know it's difficult but you have to present a confident and lively face to the world to enable you to meet more friends. People like people who smile and are happy, so you have to put on that front even if you don't feel it. So, starting tomorrow, get up and dress smart and put a smile on your face. Say hello to your newspaper vendor, to the train station clerk, to everyone in your office. Look happy. People will be attracted to you (think about it - would you want to go and make friends with someone who looks unhappy? probably not). Laugh at people's jokes, ask them questions about themselves and don't talk too much. Gradually people will feel good around you - after all, you're always smiling, laughing and you seem interested in them. And then, you will find that you have a network of friends.
All of this effort has to come from you, however. But this formula really does work. And when you have a network of mates and chums and friends then your insecurities will go and your confidence will increase. It's the only way out of this, so follow my advice and you will really find that life does improve. Takes a little time but stick at it.
Good luck.

Answer 3

Hey chick don't worry, I would say when I was your age I was in a similar situation, all I done was work and went home read books and watch movies. However given my nature as being shy I took up Tai Chi as there is not much forced conversation on what I done last night down the pub but more about how the excercise are going on, I found this brought a bit more self confidence in my own abilities.

Have faith in you and your own abilities.

Answer 4

first of all do not put yourself down, you are very special one of a kind,more friends more lies,more lies more problems you don't need that you have one mate thats all you need if he is not a bore and being a square is the hippest person to be spend more time thinking about your purpose in life that takes some energy do your job at work and be happy doing it if you like it or find another career also because you don't want ta waste your time there either.you are young sounds like you have a beautiful mind,don't trip on peer on that negitive stuff br bigger then that they will need you soon never let u'm see you sweat, if you let people see you have a weakness they will take you through all kind of BS. also never try to keep up with others it sounds to that you were put on earth to standout not blind in and thats real talk shorty keep your head up it weights to much not good for your neck just a joke smile and tell your boyfriend to get off 360 sometimes that thing is addictive trust me I'm alone now that darn Bill Gates. PEACE AND ONE LOVE N 2007 and every year after that you got a long life to take care of and keep GOD N yourlife REAL TALK .

Answer 5

there is nothing wrong with you!!! you are just a bit shy thats all, try and mix a bit more with people at work, stop putting yourself down all the time, that dosent help, as for just getting out of bed going to work and going straight home, why not join some sort of a club? go swimming, running, anything like that to keep you out of the house, also meeting all kinds of people will give you some confidence. Good luck i wish you well!!!

Answer 6

This is not a complete answer BUT:-
Remember that you are unique and therefore special. Accept that.
Why not join some group where you can help people LESS fortunate. It will not only boost your self-esteem but will actually make you an even better person, if you do it for the right motive.
You are LOVELY. Believe it.

Answer 7

Ahh babe, dont give up on yourself!

Join a club or society that interests you and you will meet more people with a similar interest! You are too young to feel so low! go out and have fun with your friend and be open to meeting more people!

xx Good luck- being shy is no barrier to having a full life!! Not everyone loves a big mouth!!

Answer 8

It's not quantity but quality. My good ol ma told me that if you make 5 good friends through your life, you're lucky. Don't keep comparing yourself to other people. They may seem happier/more popular etc but i can guarantee that they all feel like you do at some point. You need to get an interest/hobby. What do you like doing? Set yourself little goals. join something. invite yourself along to the pub. start a conversation with someone at work. good luck xx

Answer 9

Don't envy those out on the razz, it's not much to aspire to.

Winter nights can be quite depressing - get a hobby and join a club where you can meet like minded people. It will give you something to look forward to each week.

Music is my hobby and I would get depressed without it!

Best of luck xxx

Answer 10

i used to feel like that as my life also revolved around work. you have to get out more, how about meeting as a group when your 1 mate meets her friends. join a class, e.g fitness class, hobby, swimming, etc

you have to be more confident about yourself and start conversations with friendly people.