My boyfriend and I have been going out since Dec of '05. When I met him, he was a "ladies man" and even though we were still together, would talk to girls all the time and flirt, get phone numbers,ect. My main problem is MySpace. All these girls want him, tell him he's so hot, they want to have sex with him, ect. I don't know why, but I'm a jelous person when it comes to him. He knows these girls like him and they exchange numbers and talk often. He tells them he has a girlfriend and all, and makes it seem like he doesnt flirt back or anything, but the fear is still there. what should i do?
2007-01-12 05:26:27 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He's not the cheating type in anyway. We're very much in love with each other, and he's totally commited to me. It's just the old fear of him messing up is still in my mind. That's what I'm asking about. When confronted, he said he just likes having a lot of friends, that's all. I believe him, but my main problem is why i still feel like this. I know he wouldn't do anything with another girl, because he's too in love with me to hurt me like that.
2007-01-12 05:50:17 · update #1
Hi polkadott!!
Look relax. If he is going to cheat on you he will whether you know about it , like it or not.
Let him be. Some times we ourselves help this situations by not being confidents of ourselves. I suggest for you to start doing the same.
Meet people, get phone numbers, chat on line, go out, and if he acuses you of cheatting then you take it from there.
You have being taking this from him for too long now and if he was like that before, you accepted him with his virtues and his faults!!
He should znot give up how he really is just because he is with you, this is one of the worst things one could do.
If you did NOT like him to be the way he is, the way that he feels comfortable being, you should NOT, accepted him in the first place.
Your problem is your low selve esteem, you do noy hav econfidence in yourself, and probably you would eve like to be like he is. Just snap out of it, enjoy and live the realationship for what it is, and stop trying to ask a lemon tree, to produce oranges, sorry is NOT giong to happened.
If you did not put your rules and bounderies at the beggining of the game your are playing HIS game!!!! You are stuck!!
If it make you feel any better, just go and do the same, like this at least you feel that is only fair!!!
GOOD LUCK, GOD BLESS YOU
ALLIV Z
2007-01-19 18:26:01 · answer #1 · answered by Alliv Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know sympathize with you on the whole jealousy thing. While my boyfriend and I were on the phone once, his line clicked and when I asked who it was. He told me it was ome little girl he went to school with calling him at one in the morning. I was really upset at the fact that she thought it was okay to call him at that time if at all and how she got his number. When he told me his best friend gave it to her, I wanted to slap her and him. Anyway, jealousy sucks especially when you love the person. But if the feeling isn't returned than BREAK UP with him because all you're doing is wasting your time. He doesn't deserve your trust. First off, if he really cared he wouldn't want to even make you suspicios.....by letting other girls comment on his page and exchanging numbers with them he's saying that it's okay to talk to other people. You guys have been going out for far too long for him to still be doing this......but someone's mentality can't change unless they want it too......tell him it makes you unhappy and totally uncomfortable...if he doesn't do anything to accommadate your feelings dump his cheating a s s. Good luck sweetie.
2007-01-12 13:45:12 · answer #2 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him. Personally I don't think there's any problem with a guy getting compliments and looking at girls. But when he starts to reciprocate... giving them his number and flirting with them, it's too far. You gotta talk to him about how crappy this is making you feel. Tell him that you're not going to be the "trophy gf" who sits at home as he goes out every night and hooks up with other girls.
Get out of there asap is the other option, and the one i would take, personally. He's not ready to commit to you.
2007-01-12 13:32:43 · answer #3 · answered by John C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie; If he was that much in love with you he would respect the fact that you have this fear and reassure you. And as far as U knowing that he won't cheat, just remember you can't put anything past anyone. Be careful and I wish U the best.
2007-01-19 14:29:54 · answer #4 · answered by Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but there is no respect on his part. When you are in a committed relationship, you do not collect phone #s or flirt with people. I hope you have told him how you feel. If not, do it right away. If he doesn't know then he can't change. If he does know how you feel and he won't change his ways, it's best you found out now and move on.
2007-01-19 12:53:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is giving you reason to feel jealous. What would he do if you gave out your number to a bunch of guys....you might even play the field a little and ask some of your friends to do this in front of him. He is too sure of you...true blue....and he is flirting by giving out his number....do not distrust yourself...most likely he is making you doubt yourself. Don't. I'm glad he is only a boy friend and not a husband.
2007-01-19 13:49:14 · answer #6 · answered by fullnessofjoy1959 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's serious about you, he needs to close the MySpace account. That's just too much for any relationship to handle.
2007-01-12 13:36:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you hook up with someone like that? You should be getting all of his attention. If not, dump him. Life is too short not to have fun, especially at the age I am assuming you are.
2007-01-12 13:31:32 · answer #8 · answered by boredperv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him to cut the crap or you are breaking up him. And stick to it!
2007-01-12 13:32:07 · answer #9 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never....leave him, there are plenty of good ones better than him!
2007-01-12 13:39:08 · answer #10 · answered by Dana 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋